So I have been a member of 3FC for a couple months now I am have started to notice I am pretty hooked on the site. I have really enjoyed reading the fourms, posting in them, and grabbing advice from the various threads.

I noticed something strange about myself though... I had trouble posting when I felt like I was consistently doing poorly, and on the flip side I felt guilty for not posting. I knew I wanted to post to talk about things and reach out, and I knew the people in the forums I post in are fantastic and would be super encouraging, I just struggled to do so.

So I wanna know how you all feel and how you deal with these types of things.

My question is, how does posting actually make you feel. How do you feel when you don't post? Are there times you could post and chose not to for some reason or another?

Thank you all for your answers I am sure they will help me understand what I am trying to figure out...

yes sometimes i don't post when i can because i remember that even though i love the forum i have to still have to remember it becomes public information when it sends.

Idk, I feel like when I post no one really replies. I posted in the mini goal section (last week I think) and it got a ton of views but one person replied.

Lilies- good to know I am not alone do you ever feel yourself changing your diet or exercise because you want to post?

Lambie- I noticed that too sometimes. Have you experienced this elsewhere in other forums?

I don't post a lot because I don't feel it's necessary to repeat what has already been said. I guess I could "agree" but just don't post instead. Also, I definitely feel shy when I'm not doing well/staying on track. Probably when I really should be here but the guilt gets me...

I agree with lambiechop! A lot of times I feel like my posts go ignored. I feel like a bit of an outcast in some threads. Other times I will hesitate to post because I feel like I should be relplying to everyone but I only have things to say to one or two posters. I used to be really nervous about posting but I've gotten a lot more comfortable with it as I post more and more.

Reba: that is really interesting. Have you tried out alot of different threads? What kind are you looking to participate in? I am sorry that you have felt that way in some threads...

Bikiniready: do you think you post more when you are doing really well?

I'm a lurker, Lambichop, because I just get all shy and then anxious just at the thought of posting. I prefer to read what everyone else has to say and sort of live vicariously through everyone's triumphs and struggles as I often find myself mirrored in them. Anyway, my point is that I'm one of those many people who viewed your post and didn't say anything. Silent support is what I offer, I guess, lol. I cheered for you mentally and for me a bit too because I could relate.

I tend not to post when I am doing bad.
Coz I feel ashamed But I see that is a common pattern, so I might just start posting
And yeah, when I first joined in, I also felt not included....I think it's because the forum is so massive. But than I found a thread I was accepted into, and it's the Chat thread, so that's where I post the most.

Hotandhealthy: it does seem to be a pattern... Maybe I should try to post more when I am having a bad day and more people will do it as well...

Hi Jamie, im also a 'lurker' and am on here most days in the forums. I can definately relate to the good day/ bad day mentality, id even go as far to say that on my off plan days i wont come on the site as i feel too guilty, and like a fraud...mad eh?!

I don't post nearly as much as I used to. There used to be a lot of people on here that I got along really well with (I'm talking like 2 years ago) and I was active in all the threads and posted all the time. Now I feel like a lot of the times people don't ever respond, so it doesn't matter much. I do post, because I figure if we all posted then at least more people would feel like they were getting responses, but not as much as I used to. I just wish that people would take the time to respond to other people sometimes....because I know that we're all on here looking for support....and yeah sometimes you may feel like you need a lot of support, but so do the rest of us, you know? I try not to be selfish with my posting....and I will always believe it is better to post then not post because if everyone avoided posting, the forum would be completely inactive. lol

Posting is helpful to me because I feel like I'm able to give support to other people, which gives me something productive to do and keeps me away from the refrigerator. When I get a craving, I jump on 3FC instead of eating food. Sometimes I do get upset though, because I'll post something I feel is really important and then I'll never get a single response. The only times I don't post are when I'm just really busy, or when I'm trying to ignore the fact that I'm on a diet (which hopefully will happen less and less)...lol. I think that's why I was so successful with my first round of weight loss. I don't think I could have lost 70 pounds if I wasn't active in several chatty threads all throughout my original journey. Then I stopped posting, and I started gaining.

Oh I'm not even sure. It's really not a big deal and it doesn't happen that often. I'm kind of a loner most of the time so I think it's just because I haven't t exactly found my place yet. I mostly read what everyone else has to say.

I usually don't even get on and read when I am "off the wagon." It's like I fall out of the loop or something. So, yeah, I guess I'm with the others by saying that I seem to not post when I'm not staying on plan. So, maybe we should change that and we might see better results.