[kkmalfatti]

Hello everyone, im new here, im looking for support. I am 28 and i currently weigh 300lbs, i am 5'8.75'' tall and i am trying to lose between 120-150lbs.
i came across the site when a users post caught my eye, and when i read her story it reminded me so much of me, i had to join so i could share my story and work thru my struggle and possibly get some support.
a little about me, I am from CAlifornia, I am a hotel concierge, and I am hoping to lose weight so me and my new husband can try to work on starting a family =)
some background on my struggle...I was a skinny kid, always active, i was a cheerleader, and played sports with all of my boy cousins, then once puberty hit, it hit like a nuclear bomb. I was a d cup bra when i was 12. so i was ashamed to run anymore, and would get made fun of about my chest, which kept growing all thru HS when i was a DDD cup as a senior..

then i met my ex. I was stuck in that emotionally abusive relationship for 8.5 years, he made me feel horrible about myself and was SUPER controlling and wouldnt let me do anything that would require me being around people. I had to have the right hair, makeup, and he had to approve of my clothes/friends and he constantly told me i wasnt good enough for him. After becoming pregnant and losing my baby at 4.5 months, i became even more depressed and my weight, which wasn't a huge issue at that point(180-190lbs), even tho he said i was a "****ing disgusting heffer" . It started getting out of control. It didn't help that WHILE i was going thru my miscarriage my ******* ex left me for the girl he had been cheating on me with, and called me repeatedly to taunt me with her. I turned to cooking (and eating) for comfort, and i didnt go out at ALL.
i found myself at 240lbs pretty quickly. i felt horrible about myself, and i knew i couldn't hide my weight anymore. I started picking myself up and decided to start over.
Then... i met my husband, we met online on Match, and he was amazing, everything i could have ever wished for in my life, He didn't care about my weight, he just loved me for me. I became the strong person i knew was buried deep in there somewhere. He asked me to marry him on April fools day, and we moved in together. a week after we got engaged, i had a breast reduction, i went from a H cup to a D cup, he took care of me, which meant takeaway and fast food, since he doesn't cook and when i was feeling better We were in that lovey-dovey phase, and i would cook for us, i love to cook and he loves my cooking. so,after a while, i realized, i haven't weighed myself in a while and was SHOCKED to see 280. this was 6 months before my wedding!!! i had already ordered my dress and i struggled to not just maintain that weight but not gain anymore. luckily i made it to my wedding day and i lost 5lbs so i fit perfectly into my dress. I still felt like i failed...
fast forward 7 months> a week ago i weighed myself again, and i see..300lbs. I say to myself thats it. this is where it stops. me and my hubby want a family and i would like to be able to enjoy my life with them. I would like to lose some weight before i become pregnant, so id better get on this soon.

well, thats my story, and if you read this far, thank you so much for listening.
=)

[baj2010706]

Welcome to 3FC!!!
I read your whole story and i'm so excited for the beginning of your happy ending. I'm not a mom, but I'm an aunt and i know keeping up with kiddos all day is strenuous!! I've noticed that I've been lacking so much energy and saw the doctor about this problem. It turns out I am extremely low in iron. For two weeks i've been taking an iron supplement and dropped 6 pounds. I also started to walk 2 miles two days a week. These are just a couple of my tips that have helped me begin my journey. Oh and before I found out my iron was low I was prepared to have my thyroid tested.
I wish you the best of luck and happiness.

[kkmalfatti]

nice meeting you Baj!! =) and thanks for reading my intro/novel haha
i've been taking vitamins recently, so i think i need to start walking a lot more. when im not working im home and cleaning/cooking/sitting on my butt. =) My hubby is lean, and can pretty much eat whatever he wants and wont gain a pound. i have heavyweights in my family and diabetes on both sides. im just lucky so far.
aww, i want to be an auntie, im the oldest on both sides of my family so i'll have to be the first to give nieces or nephews. lucky for me, all of my girlfriends have kids so i can spoil them until i have my own. =)

best of luck to you too!
kate

[Nazza000]

Wow your story is so moving and I'm so sorry you were stuck in such a horrible realtionship for so long. No one deserves that. I think its amazing what you're doing now. To come back from a relationship like that, find the man of your dreams and live happily ever after? Amazing and inspirational.
I look forward to seeing your goal pictures and seeing how your story will inspire others. With such a strong motivation I have zero doubt you'll get there and I relish that day that you do.
Good luck to you and if you need any tips of advice feel free to reply and ask.

[kkmalfatti]

hello Nazza, thanks for welcoming me. i hope that one day i can look back at my "big" pictures and know how far i've come. how long have you been losing weight? how did you start? also, how do i upload pictures do i just copy the pic url and paste here? i only uploaded my profile pic.

[andimott]

I just signed up today to 3 Fat Chicks. so welcome to both of us. a few of my friends already belong and they mentioned how helpful the forums are. Any help would be appreciated. I am 25 pounds overweight, and I just started weight watchers. I have used them in the past and the WW plan worked very well for me....probably due to the fact I am very competitive and if I get on the scale weekly at the meetings I don't want to see a number that is the same or higher then the week before. I recently read a study that stated weighing yourself more often is more motivating. Yes there are minimal changes on a daily basis, but if you look at your weight historically you can get a picture of when you have your "highs" and "lows". Like right before my period I know my weight is going to be up, if I saw a graph of my weight over the last few months and see that my weight always goes up at that time of month, I wouldn't freak out. I am trying to make a spread sheet so that I can write down my weight whenever I way myself, but the problem I run into is:
a) I forget to weigh myself
b) When I remember to weigh myself I need to log onto the computer
c) If I write it down on a paper I either cant find a pen, or I lose the paper...and having it on my computer is easier for me

Anyone have any ideas?
Thank you and good luck to all of us on our weight goals
Andimott

[kkmalfatti]

HELLO! hope everyone is doing great! =) sooo, i was at work today and some lady came up to me while i was in the bathroom and apparently she works for herba-life, she told me it could really help lose weight. i was semi offended, but also intrigued when a girl came out of the stall and she was easily twice my size and she said she lost 25lbs in 2 months.. hmmm... has anyone tried it or heard anything about it?