Hi everyone!
I'm hoping maybe there are some other Army wiives out there that might be having the same issues as me...
I'm on a low cal/ high protien diet and working out 3 days a week, I'm trying hard to lose weight, and having a large amount off before the hubby gets back would be a bonus!, but that's just it, stress of not knowing when and if he's coming home are making dieting hard....his return date has been changed 3 times now and a year later he's still not home....I get to hear from him less and less and this seems to strain my dieting efforts and lead me towords overeating.....anone else out there have similar issues? Or just some advice on what I might could do? I'm also a Paramedic and I work night shift which does'nt help since my days are all flipped
Not an Army wife, but am a military wife. i spent all of the deployment years getting bigger and eating through the stress. Now I am here, overweight and trying to kick my butt to get healthy while hubby is actually home.
i don't have the solution, but I can say that even if I (we) lose weight during non-deployment times, they probably WILL deploy again. Will it all come back? That is why I am determined to change my eating response to stressful situations. Staying on plan, no matter what life throws at you, is HARD, but it is the only long-term solution.
You can do it....one day at a time. Try your best, make small goals, and think about how good it will feel to attend the Homecoming as a smaller, healthier you!
If the stress from spouse being deployed is getting to you and making you overeat... what resources do you have available? Like military ones? Support groups? Sponsors? Participating in care package ministries or doing your own care packages? That kind of thing?
And what other things do you have available to reduce your stress? What do you find restful and relaxing?
I am a former stress emotional eater. Two books I liked were
I can only feel for you, I am not a military wife. Try to direct the stress onto something else. ie exercise, knitting, sewing, yoga, etc. Because you're under stress, eating and gaining weight can only add to stress-related illness. God bless your husband for serving this great country. I have 3 immediate family in the Marines right now and I think of them all the time.
I'm not a military wife either, (and I'm sorry you're not finding more people who fit your particular niche). But I think a lot of us can relate to the stresses outside our control affecting us in our efforts. Jobs, marriages, finances, they can all throw all of us for a loop.
Hi everyone!
I'm hoping maybe there are some other Army wiives out there that might be having the same issues as me...
I'm on a low cal/ high protien diet and working out 3 days a week, I'm trying hard to lose weight, and having a large amount off before the hubby gets back would be a bonus!, but that's just it, stress of not knowing when and if he's coming home are making dieting hard....his return date has been changed 3 times now and a year later he's still not home....I get to hear from him less and less and this seems to strain my dieting efforts and lead me towords overeating.....anone else out there have similar issues? Or just some advice on what I might could do? I'm also a Paramedic and I work night shift which does'nt help since my days are all flipped
I was an Army wife and yeah, I gained weight during his deployment. Arg! It's SO HARD!...missing him, worrying about him, etc... and SO EASY to comfort yourself with food. So I feel your pain!
But really, it's the same thing as we all have experienced: some sort of upheaval in our lives. Family problems, work issues, personal issues, etc. Always something that seems to keep us from reaching our goals. But the bottom line is that we must take care of ourselves FIRST, and then work on other problems/issues.
Do you like your diet? Do you feel it is "an eating style" you can maintain once the weight is off? If the answer is no, I'd find a different diet. If the answer is yes, then you're half way there girl!
Working at night should be no different in food than working at day. While I do have a normal 9-5'er job, I quite often eat breakfast foods for dinner or dinner foods at breakfast. Just whatever I'm in the mood for (that fits my diet, which is calorie counting). The trick here is to buck the traditional method of "breakfast/lunch/dinner". Who cares what you eat & when you eat it? The breakfast police won't arrest you for having eggs for dinner, I promise.
I wouldn't worry/think about losing "X" amount of poundage by a certain time (i.e. when your hubby is home.) The real goal here is not just to lose the weight, but to keep it off, right? While some people find it helpful to give themselves deadlines, I found it more stressful. I just want the weight OFF and I want it to STAY OFF.
Good luck - YOU CAN DO THIS! - and major good vibes to your hubby for being a soldier & to you for being a soldier's wife!!
If the stress from spouse being deployed is getting to you and making you overeat... what resources do you have available? Like military ones? Support groups? Sponsors? Participating in care package ministries or doing your own care packages? That kind of thing?
And what other things do you have available to reduce your stress? What do you find restful and relaxing?
I am a former stress emotional eater. Two books I liked were
HTH!
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I don't actually know if the military offers any resources for me, but I'm going to look into it now that you put the idea into my head,lol. And as far as resting and relaxing, it's pretty much impossible for me, when he's away I stay stressed and I really pour myself into my work, sometimes working 6&7 nights a week. I enjoy riding horses and do daily but not even that has helped much. Im going to check out the books you recommeded as well! Thanks for your response!
I was an Army wife and yeah, I gained weight during his deployment. Arg! It's SO HARD!...missing him, worrying about him, etc... and SO EASY to comfort yourself with food. So I feel your pain!
But really, it's the same thing as we all have experienced: some sort of upheaval in our lives. Family problems, work issues, personal issues, etc. Always something that seems to keep us from reaching our goals. But the bottom line is that we must take care of ourselves FIRST, and then work on other problems/issues.
Do you like your diet? Do you feel it is "an eating style" you can maintain once the weight is off? If the answer is no, I'd find a different diet. If the answer is yes, then you're half way there girl!
Working at night should be no different in food than working at day. While I do have a normal 9-5'er job, I quite often eat breakfast foods for dinner or dinner foods at breakfast. Just whatever I'm in the mood for (that fits my diet, which is calorie counting). The trick here is to buck the traditional method of "breakfast/lunch/dinner". Who cares what you eat & when you eat it? The breakfast police won't arrest you for having eggs for dinner, I promise.
I wouldn't worry/think about losing "X" amount of poundage by a certain time (i.e. when your hubby is home.) The real goal here is not just to lose the weight, but to keep it off, right? While some people find it helpful to give themselves deadlines, I found it more stressful. I just want the weight OFF and I want it to STAY OFF.
Good luck - YOU CAN DO THIS! - and major good vibes to your hubby for being a soldier & to you for being a soldier's wife!!
Thanks so much for the reply, glad to know there are more Army wives going/went thru this too! lol.
As far as likeing my diet and thinking it's something I could maintain, yes I do, I've chosen a low carb/low calorie / high protien diet consisting of mainly fruits and veggies, no cokes and no fried food. Now for the night shift part, my funky hours seem to throw me off, on weeks I work on a night then off a night it's not uncommon for me to stay awake 30 hours straight and that really throws my eating habbits off..
I also thank you for the good vibes and send some back your way I think it's every bit as hard for us to be Army wives as it is for them to be soldiers
It's been too long since I was in that loop but I remember there was always SOMETHING. Even if it was a support group coffee chat thing. Or collecting movies to ship in care packages and whatnot. There's other military spouses going through the same thing so I'm sure there's something. Shoot -- now there's the internet! So who knows how many more options you get!
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I think it's every bit as hard for us to be Army wives as it is for them to be soldiers 
