[Sassyface]

Hey everyone! I'm really excited to have found such a supportive community of people!

I'm 20 and have been overwieght basically my whole life, but I really didnt get super overwieght untill I started college. I've basically gained 80 lbs since starting college three years ago. Its crazy and I almost don't believe that it happened. This summer I realized that if I can't look in the mirror and believe that my reflection is actually me something definatley needs to change. I joined a weight loss center almost a month ago and have since lost 15 lbs, which I'm really proud of. My family says they are supportive of me and my new nutritional needs, yet my mother seems to be buying more candy and junk food than ever, and doesn't ever want to talk about my weight loss other than the occasional "how much weight have you lost so far."

So thats why I've joined the community, for the support, discussions, and solutions provided by this site.

So excited! =]

[Lovely]

Welcome to 3FC =)

Congratulations on your work so far!

There are going to be people in our lives who are more or less supportive than we want, but we can't always change them. We can just keep going along with our own healthy plans.

You'll find a number of different areas for support and encouragement around here. =) Post wherever you're comfortable!

Best of wishes!

[bargoo]

Welcome and good luck !

[Satine]

Welcome ....if you would like to join a group we have one called Onederland Express in Support Groups....would love to have ya.

[BudgetBaby]

Welcome, Sassyface! Sometimes family don't know how to support us and we have to teach them. And sometimes they want us to lose weight (or reach some other goal), but they don't want to have to change anything in their behavior to help. Frustrating, isn't it?

[Sassyface]

Thanks to everyone for all the welcome wishes!

Budgetbaby: It is pretty frustrating. My mom is paying for my weight loss clinic membership, so I know she wants this to work for me. I suppose I just need to teach her a little bit about eating healthy and maybe she will start to feel motivated too. =]

[BudgetBaby]

I actually didn't mean teaching her about healthy eating. Really, if she wants to learn, she will. In general, parents don't like to be lectured by their children on any topic.

I meant more saying things like, "Mom, thank you for paying for my weight loss membership. It's helping me a lot. But it's very hard to follow my plan when I have face junk food in all the cupboards. If the rest of the family has to eat that stuff, then can we put the junk food in a cupboard by itself where I won't be as tempted?" Or something like that.

Whatever you want her to do. Be calm. Be specific about what you would like her to do or not do or not say. Be grateful. And be firm. Takes practice.

If she gets defensive anyway, try agreeing with her first, "I know. I know you're trying to help me. I know you mean well. But this is not actually helping me. It's kind of making it harder. Please stop." See how gentle and respectful that can be without giving in?

I have no diet experience, but I have plenty of dealing with mom sending mixed messages experience.