Guess you are never too old for a good 'ol fat joke!
I tried to brush this off but I just can’t. And I’m pissed that I let these idiots get to me.
I was at the gym last night working out on the elliptical facing the window looking out to the parking lot. Which I hate because the gym is located in a large shopping area. To my right is IHOP, Checkers & O’Charley’s. To my left is CiCi’s Pizza, a grocery store, a Mexican restaurant and Weight Watchers. (Obviously Weight Watchers doesn’t bother me but I just threw that in there because it’s ironic!) So I’m about 30 minutes into it, happily watching Sex & The City, when two 40+ year old guys coming from the pizza place walk by with ice cream cones. They stop right in front of me so that catches my eye and I look up. One points to their ice-cream cone, moves it in my direction and laughs. Well, in my head he is laughing. He could have just been smiling for all I know. I do what I always do when I’m uncomfortable and laugh. They only stopped for 5 seconds but looking back it seemed like 5 minutes. Then I start wondering if the guy on the treadmill next to me noticed. Or the person behind me that’s not even facing the window. Or the other guys in the gym.
Even if no one else noticed (and probably not), I was humiliated. I felt trapped like a circus animal in a cage. I wanted so badly to get off that machine and go to another one but I refused to let these two ignorant fools CONTROL me. But they are…..still….after 15 hours…..I can’t shake it off.
The other irony is that both of them should have been at Weight Watchers; not CiCi’s Pizza.
not nice. although it may not have been to do with your personal weight as such, more like something he would have done no matter who happened to be using the machine at the time. seems like it was just an immature (and not very funny) joke aimed at whoever is working out whilst he eats ice cream. dont let it bother you, i know thats easier said than done but sometimes you just have to shake it off and not take it personally.
I don't really think he was making fun of you. Just being a dork, or **** he might have even been trying to flirt.
If I were 15lbs from goal I would have probably genuinely laughed, pointed at him and then pointed at the elliptical.
I realize people react to things differently of course, but I honestly don't think he was making fun of you. I hope you don't let it keep bugging you too long. What a stranger thinks isn't worth your time anyway.
Yup, my sense is trying to flirt in a super clueless way. Large women tend to be invisible to men (not all), and obviously you weren't invisible. I know what it is to be invisible.
I agree with the other posters - I would NOT have thought that had anything to do with weight - just the "joke" that you're working hard and he's got the treat - and you said he might have just smiled. Who knows. I'd have waved him into the gym, like, "come here and share!" Certainly not something to rank on your mind for long. Sounds like there's a lot of underlying stuff in your mind to take it so hard - hope you can shake it off soon.
What an a-hole. I agree that he may have been trying to be flirty (men = dumb). Or perhaps he wasn't necessarily calling you fat, but more just saying "ice cream is more fun than gym" in which case he could have done it to everyone. Maybe even to make himself feel better about eating an ice cream cone as opposed to working his butt off in the gym like you. Or, maybe he was just being a rude dumb a-hole. I can understand why you're hurt by it. I can logically say he's not worth your time to worry about it, but I would be hurt too. It will never cease to amaze me how cruel humans can be to other humans. We all have feelings and we know what it's like to have them hurt, and yet people purposefully and carelessly hurt others' feelings to get their jollies all the time. I will never understand that. And if that's the case with this bonehead, he's sub-human in my book and not worth your time to worry about it. You've changed your life for the better and were working hard at the gym like a self-respecting healthy person. He's a less-worthy humanoid...imagine his butt getting fatter while he gobbled his ice cream cone walking away thinking he was so smart and funny.
Yeah. This guy my husband works with goes to a Starbucks by a gym, which another co-worker belongs to. He happened to see him on the treadmill through the window, and drank his Starbucks in front of the guy huffing and puffing and had this deranged smile on his face.
I think men oftentimes never lose that "junior high" mentality. I don't think he was making fun of your size, I agree that it might have been his pathetic way of flirting.
I agree with TooManyDimples; if you are working out and only fifteen pounds from goal, it sounds to me like he was flirting or being ironic....here you are looking good exercising, while he walks by the gym eating ice cream.
I think he was flirting. Or at least making himself feel better. He probably felt guilty walking by you working so hard and here he is eating an ice cream cone. Isn't losing weight every American's New Year's Resolution?
My gym is located by all those fast food places as well. Swimming cracks me up. Every time my head pops up for air I see the "Burger King" sign in the window following me all the way down the lane. It's so funny, like a subliminal message. Burger King, swim stroke, Burger King, swim stroke, mmmm, Burger King.
He may have been doing it as a sarcastic/ironic thing. Obviously, you were doing something healthy and perhaps the contrast amused him. I agree he may have done that with anyone who was in the window but I can see where you're coming from. He may have been flirting, as others have said, but that sounds like a really weird way to flirt, lol.
If anything, I hope you shake this feeling of being made fun of. Just be satisfied knowing that you're doing the right thing, taking care of yourself, and that guy was eating junk food.
Maybe seeing someone working out while he was eating ice cream will cause him to reevaluate his lifestyle?
It's funny, I got the "clumsy flirting" vibe from that too.
Somewhere there's a post from a guy reading: "Man, I'll never get a date, I went with my cousin to get some ice cream and I saw this woman exercising, she was a real knockout, and I sort of motioned to her asking if she'd like to get some ice cream with me after she was finished her workout and I think she laughed at me!"
It could've been the ironic thing, too.
In fact, the LAST thing I would assume is that he was taunting the "fat woman" because...well, you weigh fifty pounds less than me and I can see your avatar picture and you aren't fat. You may not yet be at your goal weight, you may go "ugh, so fat" when you look in the mirror, you may want to lose more, but to anyone looking at you, you are not a noticeably large size.
Then again, I have a somewhat distorted perspective, I think. If someone looks at my body, I assume he or she is checking me out or admiring my fashion sense.
Maybe he was making fun of himself seeing you exercise and him eating ice cream lol!
Guys can be really rude though, speaking of which. My friend text me from a bar last weekend because she overheard guys snickering about "how all weight watchers women must eat fried food all the time"..what does that even mean! So she text me she was going to say something as her being 3 lbs from goal lol!!! Some people have nothing better to do!!
Somewhere there's a post from a guy reading: "Man, I'll never get a date, I went with my cousin to get some ice cream and I saw this woman exercising, she was a real knockout, and I sort of motioned to her asking if she'd like to get some ice cream with me after she was finished her workout and I think she laughed at me!"
Guess you are never too old for a good 'ol fat joke!
not nice. although it may not have been to do with your personal weight as such, more like something he would have done no matter who happened to be using the machine at the time. seems like it was just an immature (and not very funny) joke aimed at whoever is working out whilst he eats ice cream. dont let it bother you, i know thats easier said than done but sometimes you just have to shake it off and not take it personally.
Or at least making himself feel better. He probably felt guilty walking by you working so hard and here he is eating an ice cream cone. Isn't losing weight every American's New Year's Resolution? 
It's so funny, like a subliminal message. Burger King, swim stroke, Burger King, swim stroke, mmmm, Burger King. 
