I feel like such a lame person right now. Last night I had a really bad night and was feeling really down. I don't even know how to explain how I'm feeling.
I feel I've accomplished something really great and I'm so proud but I feel like I'll never be good enough to other people. I know theres always room for improvement but I don't know that anyone will ever accept me and love me for who I am.
Accept the way you are, then other peoples acceptance is not very important. You cannot please every one it is an impossible task. Beside if for some you are not good enough why do you want to please them, they are often never satisfied with what they see. Would you want to base your accomplishements based on their flawed perception.
Change what is important and matter to you, people opinion change but how you feel about yourself is what you have to face.
I have that feeling a lot too. But I think about something my grandpa told me once, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." If you can bring yourself to love yourself then who cares what other people think. Everyone thinks differently, especially about body and beauty. One beautiful person to one person could be not so attractive to another. It's human nature to have interest in some and not others. Don't beat yourself up because you don't think someone else is comfortable with you because you are the only one that has to live with you for the rest of your life.
Who made those "other people" God anyway? If it's just general strangers -- who cares?!
If it's is people in your life, who is it that you want positive feedback from specifically? Depending on who it is, you may or may not get the feedback you want from them. Usually people are caught up in their own dealio.
Before you can really let anyone love you, you have to learn to love yourself!! Be proud of your accomplishments, and tell yourself that you are a strong, confident woman!!!! We believe in you
It looks like you have just reached goal? Perhaps (im just talking out of my *** a bit now) these feelings are from achieving something so great, that its kinda like "wow now what?" or "how can I top that?" or "i finally got to goal today, but its still a normal day"? Perhaps a new goal and some reflection would help You've achieved a huge amount, but why? Was it for other people to accept you? Was it for yourself? How was your journey? remember all your hard work? that was really incredible, wasnt it?
I almost posted this same thread a few days ago. I know exactly how you feel. People may or may not accept you- that's true. There is no way to change the minds of most, I've found - even those who are "supposed" to love us. Although it has been VERY hard for me, I'm not trying to change them anymore - I'm trying to change how I react to them. That's the only thing I have control over, besides being my very best.
A big to you. I know how tough this is - but you know you are accomplished and wonderful - be proud and happy when you can. I hope you have some people in your life who appreciate how great you are.
Why are you feeling like you're not good enough for other people? Is somebody else telling you this? If so, they're not a person you want to be hanging around, nor should you listen to them! And if you're just perceiving yourself to not be good enough, maybe you could benefit from some counselling? It looks like you have accomplished a lot already, and you should be proud of yourself! Now that you're where you want to be weight wise, maybe it's time to work on yourself in other ways, and that includes working towards building your own self-confidence. You ARE good enough-- you just have to love yourself first.
Thank you for all your kind words ladies
I had experienced a really down night and the next day I was still feeling so blah about everything.
I've always been a very emotional person and since being on my weight loss journey it seems to have amplified lol
I still don't know how to explain why I feel the way I feel but I do feel a lot better. Its nice to know that you all are here for support, know what I'm going through/or support me even if you don't
I feel like I'll never be good enough...
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