[lottie63]

I see people saying things on here at times about how it's difficult to cook healthy all the time for themselves because they don't want to make two meals, one for them and one for their fam.

I'm really wondering why this is? If you are one of these people, are you the sole cook in the family? If you are, why make more work for yourself than needed, and why make it a constant test of your 'willpower' by making less healthy foods? The same question is for those who try not to have junk in the house, but their fam likes chips or sweets.

I have in the past found it difficult to watch and I am in an ideal situation. My bf is chubby (by no means as big as me) but wants to lose, so he has always been on board with my cooking healthy, and he never brings junk in the house because he knows NEITHER of us need it. Let me just say, even with this ideal situation it's still been hard. (when he has brought junk, he's hidden it. I don't know about it until I see it in the garbage!)

I feel for those of you in the previously mentioned cooking debacle.

I have to ask though, if you are the sole cook in the family, why not expect them to eat whatever you cook? I don't know about anyone else, but if I didn't like what was for dinner, I didn't eat. (Once I picked the beans out of my chili and my mom made me eat them after I had eaten everything else. With no way to cover up the taste, I took each one like a pill and washed it down with my drink. ha!)

Also, eating healthy won't kill them and might teach them good habits. Is it really so much to ask that our families help us out? When I went vegetarian, we pretty much stopped buying meat save for a package or two in the freezer for the bf who still eats it. He said I"m the one who cooks (I prefer to this way I know every element that goes in, also, he's a cook and I don't work much and feel bad if I would expect him to cook all day then come home and cook at night). so there's no need for me to make meat for him just because he likes it. If he wants it, he'll cook it himself, even though I said, it's no problem. (it's just the two of us)

to those of you with families who expect you to do more than your fair share for them!

[annieoh]

I have always favored one meal, no matter the type of meal being made (though I did make an exception for a daughter who tried on vegetarianism for a while a decade or more ago).

Its easier this time around knowing that my husband does all the cooking, and he's dieting with me (instead of cheering me on in my solo efforts).

[Shmead]

We just eat so differently that we both eat our own thing and we each cook for ourselves. He cooks some for me-- a bunch of chicken breasts each week.

If we have kids, we will have to figure out something new because I do think we will want to eat together then. But at that point, I'll want to have the child eating healthily.