Gosh - this might ramble a wee bit, but I'm having a strange week and I can't get my head round how I feel.
Here are some comments I have received this week.........
-You look sooooooo hot- bff's husband
-Your'e wasting away skinny *****-bff
-Don't lose too much- female colleague
-Every time I see you, you get smaller and smaller- female colleague
-If you lose 60 more pounds you will be ill-female colleague
-You get more and more beautiful every day- male colleague
- Now thats the way to dress to impress, I bet you have a queue of men waiting outside your office- male colleague : dizzy:
I have been having a bad week (for me) weight wise, am feeling very down because of it (I have a challenge for Christmas and November has, so far, scuppered my plans).
I am very confused by the comments, the male attention and the "don't lose too much "theme.
To be in the "normal" category I need to lse another 60lbs, I want to be normal and I want to achieve my goals. Peoples comments are throwing my mental attitude(not my resolve or behaviours as I have stayed OP since April 9th 2010)
Any advice, theories, help???!!!
yeah the 'dont lose too much' would be a lil 'eye raising' for me as well. I would just be like "I have a realistic healthy goal weight!"
and honey, ENJOY, LOVE, EMBRACE all that loving enthusiasm from everyone! Even the man one's! Dont feel bad because some one thinks you look HOTT! Male attentio is not always welcoming 'especially if it's from somone that you DONT want it from' lol.
Don't worry about the old plan, make a new one, get re-inspired and move along with your loss.
I have been there... I lost 50 pounds on WW a couple of years ago... and as soon as I started getting lots of compliments... I quit the program. Now... I don't know why that is... but maybe I have issues lol.... anyway... as far as the male attention... take that and let it make you happy. As far as the females telling you that you are losing too much... they are JEALOUS! I don't care if they ARE skinny.... for someone to lose a lot of weight, it shows a vast amount of self control, and you start showing a lot more self confidence. This can make people uneasy... especially your already skinny girlfriends... they have always been the pretty skinny ones... what happens to them when they aren't anymore?
Take the compliments as just that... compliments. Don't let it falter your plan or slow you down.
At the end of the day the only opinion that matters is your own. The negative comments are jealousy and take as your doing the right thing if they care that much that feel the need to comment and Compliments should be take graciously and another reminder you're doing the right thing.
Put ear plugs on if need be. Ignore it. Ignore it. Ignore it. Stay FOCUSED on what you have to do. And what you have to do is get to a healthy weight.
People are not used to seeing you at this weight and they're not used to seeing people in general lose so much weight.
I got comments just like you did.
-I went to a good friends house still a good 30 pounds overweight, her husband said to me, "okay, you're done; you're there".
-My own husband said to me, "you're thinner now than when we got married". Ummm, no honey, I'm really not, I'm about 40 pounds HEAVIER.
- "don't go and get all anoerexic on us now"
-"You're melting away"
-"You not still trying to lose weight, right?" Ummm, wrong bozo, I'm still obese, and than I was still overweight.
As for the holidays coming up, do not let them derail you. It's merely a holi-day, NOT a holi-month. Don't buy into it. STick to your plan, stick to your plan, STICK TO YOUR PLAN. You don't need that garbage, you've got a job, a mission to accomplish. Don't let some holidays stand in your way. You are much more powerful than the food. The food. That's all it is. Some inanimate object without feelings or a brain.
I have never, ever, not even one time regretted NOT eating something. Never. Holidays, birthdays, parties included. Never.
Keep up the great work. Continue on. Keep plugging away. There are SO many incredible rewards just ahead of you. Take this baby all the way home. Don't settle for second best when you can have first best. Don't settle for health-ier, when you can have health-iest. Don't settle for better when you can have BEST. BEST. It's time. You deserve it.!!!
Thank you ! I will look in the mirror each day and say "I am a hot chick !" Maybe then I will believe it. Just confused, and with my mind all over the place. All this attention has come at the wrong time when I feel like I'm not being as successful as I should be - I know I need to stay strong.
Thanks for the positive advice.
Please do not do what I did in 2006 when I started getting unwanted male attention. I quit. I quit after losing 80 pounds. Why? Cuz I could not handle the male attention. I was more comfortable putting that wall up and the weight back on. Don't do it. Stay focused. You have come a long way baby, don't spoil it now. Remain committed.
And the women? Pure jealousy. Relish in that jealousy, you deserve it!
Take it one pound at a time.... one day at a time. Also, that's why I don't do challenges anymore, I get too discouraged if I don't make it.
I will succeed this time, and I will not quit, just because of some stupid comments.
It is strange that we all get these comments, and we all do. I personally hate the anorexic comments. They're the most ignorant of all.
I've noticed people actually get angry when they find out I'm still purposely losing. They get snippy and weird. I think it's because they see weight loss as a gift. We were once so heavy and now we've been handed this "gift" of thinness, healthiness and happiness. When we look better in their eyes and they learn we aren't satisfied they think we're being greedy for wanting more.
Do try to ignore it because it isn't going to stop.
Sounds like the Angel / Devil on your shoulders. You've earned the compliments and they are coming to you at a time you need them most. It is called encouragement and that is the motivation you need to keep going in the right direction to a healthier you. Best of luck on your journey!
Someone asked me if I had cancer or something, cause I was losing too much weight. Wrong-O. People were just used to seeing me fat. I am now at my weight for my height and yes, you can see my bones in my neck. Who really knew I had them? They eventually get over it when they realize this is the way it is....don't give up on yourself. YOU know what you should weigh and how you feel about you. GO FOR IT>>>
RockinRobin is right, as usual. Listen to what she says.....
Ummmm- very complex methinks. It's just so weird, it's almost as if I have become public property and anyone can say anything they want to me. I do relish the compliments, and can see them for what they are, but feel weird about the male attention. I'm 43, have two teenage children and have been happily married for 15 years I'm just not sure why there is so much of it now, particularly this week when I've lost the amazing amount of 1lb !! I know I've done well and that I must not give up - I did it once before too. I truly want to get to the weight that is "normal" for me, but feel confused about who I am and where I fit in. I know it takes time, and this weight has come off relatively quickly- I'm not sure my self image has quite caught up.
Thank you again for the positive and caring comments- so much appreciated.
I was feeling that same way on last Sunday. People telling me I'm getting too thin, you look anorexic, yada, yada, yada. So I said to myself...you know what, you didn't start this for them, they actually never said, there there you are getting to fat so since this was my decision I will forge ahead.
I have discovered for myself, since I wasn't used to all the comments it was hard to manage them. Now I just let people say what they say and blow it off. However the thing that gets my goat is people trying to figure out what size I wear...WTH?? IF I wanted them to know I would tell them. Since I could care less about telling them I WON'T. You have to do YOU!!
Someone asked me if I had cancer or something, cause I was losing too much weight. Wrong-O.
Yes!!
I had someone kinda nuzzle up to me and in a very hushed tone say, "you wanted to lose the weight, right?" And there were other similar comments.
I had one person say to me, "I can understand you wanting to have lost weight, but did you really need to lose this much?"
Well yes I did actually. Because *this* much weight lost put me into a different category. Just because I started out at such a high weight, I don't deserve to be at an optimal weight? I should settle for a higher than *normal* weight just because of where I came from?
Nope when I started this little venture it was with the complete determination to finally be a thin, trim, normal, regular, HEALTHY weight. I was done settling for a mediocre existence. I scrimped on my quality of life for waaaay too long.
And I do gotta tell you, being that *normal* weight is LOTS better *settling* for the overweight one. It just is. There really is a higher quality of life in those last 5 lbs, the ones that put you in the healthy weight range.
Yes I've been getting the comments too, and while I was still obese (just recently crossed over to overweight, yay!!). My sister telling me I was "skinny" and other silly comments. Just ignore them and keep on going!!
- I have never, ever, not even one time regretted NOT eating something. Never. Holidays, birthdays, parties included. Never.
Keep up the great work. Continue on. Keep plugging away. There are SO many incredible rewards just ahead of you. Take this baby all the way home. Don't settle for second best when you can have first best. Don't settle for health-ier, when you can have health-iest. Don't settle for better when you can have BEST. BEST. It's time. You deserve it.!!!
I don't know about anybody else but this made me jump up and cheer. Amen, sister!
You look hot !
