[HermersSis]

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[deelee10]

You've made some good choice. You are losing weight. You recognized that a friend was going down a path that was not for you - a wise choice. It sounds like you are at a transitional phase in life. It can be lonely when leaving one group behind while searching for a healthier circle of friends. Maybe you can try just taking one course in college and see if you can handle it. Also, start accepting all invitations - even for things you think you have no interest in doing and from people you might have thought weren't very interesting. (Not the one's with destructive life styles.) Get out of the house - don't wait until you're "thin enough." Ask some of your family and family friends to do healthy things with you - like walking, going to health club. Try an adult ed class for something you like. as people mature there are more that are not so hung up on how thin one is. I'm new to 3FC but they have support groups for different age groups ie. 20+, 30+, etc., if you haven't already-check them out. Very likely to find someone who is going through same thing as you. I did. Good luck!

[spixiet]

You might want to try and see if there are any meetup groups in your area -

http://www.meetup.com

I have the same hangups regarding meeting new people while heavy, but they tend to have quite a few groups based on hobbies, crafts, or outdoor activities. It's worth a look; sometimes, you can even find weight loss buddies or groups depending on your area. Personally, I tend to avoid any of the groups labeled "Singles," but I'm working on overcoming my lack of self-confidence. I'm going to be moving across country in June and plan to attend at least a handful of meetups in the area in an attempt to meet new friends. I've always been a small-circle-of-friends type person, so I am a bit worried about leaving my friends, but I'm hoping it will force me out of my current rut-

Best of luck to you

[greeneggsandtam]

I'm sorry you are feeling so badly. My suggestions are just that so feel free to disregard if you so please.
- You could see what kind of community activities your area offers and join up
- You could volunteer your time in your community. Do some good for others?
- Take some kind of class. Maybe something you have interest in.
- Join a walking group.

Anyways these are just ideas. I've met lots of cool people on my old ladies soccer team. (We're terrible but in it for the beer, ahem I mean sportsmanship)

I hope you'll feel better soon. I know how easy it is to get down on yourself and wonder what other people are thinking about you.
Maybe if you're more gentle with your own self that will transform the way you view and judge other people. I'm of the opinion that people pick up on that sort of thing. When I feel negative I notice how ugly the world and the people in it are, conversely when I'm feeling great I notice how good looking everyone is and how positive people are. Maybe that sounds really flaky but there you go. That's what I'm all about.
anyways, hugs to you and all the best,
Tam

[JudoGirl]

Its hard out there..and your right people judge about weight..but now its your turn to change your way of thinking and things about you...

There are so many people that would love to visit with you and talk to you..
We do some volunteer work with some soliders and families...
So go..give back..go to a nursing home ask if they have people who get no
visitors...go to a childrens hospitall offer to visit with the children...
go sign up..you will meet caring and loving people...and you make friends..
it gives people hope and love and it gives you something to look forward to and something exciting to talk about... care for others..and its amazing what it can do for you....good luck

[JudoGirl]

One time I was really down and I took a stainglass class..it was the best thing for me and I love this hobbie...its brought me years of fun..and I met great people in the class...

[Princess Tiefling]

HermersSis,

I know EXACTLY how you feel.. actualy I was about to post the same thing.. I cant offer much advice. Because I am the same. All that I have s DH, But I dont think it is fair for me to make him my everything so I have to let him live his life.

It is lonely I left my freinds and family behind when i moved here its been 4 years I still only have DH. and thanks to my depression.. I dont really have an interest in anything but sitting and cryin alone.

[AR4life]

Awe I'm sorry to read about your sadness, the 2 of you.

Reaching out as others have said may change the way you see the world. Give it a try, even going to the library is an outing and you may meet some nice people on the way.
HermersSis you've done so well on your weight loss, I hope you don't let your weight hold you back.
Princess T have you had your hormones checked? sometimes they can be out of wack and cause problems.

[Princess Tiefling]

Originally Posted by AR4life

Princess T have you had your hormones checked? sometimes they can be out of wack and cause problems.

They ran a blood panel for all that stuff a year ago, thyroid, hormones diabetes everyting.. and it all came back normal.

I have always had that "displaced" feeling, But before I moved here I did have a few good friends to lean on and one incredible freind who was there for me no matter what. But here its just harder to make friends, I have 2 kids who are in therapy and that takes up alot of my time. one has asburgers the other a series of developmental delays. and it just adds to the depression..

I know I need to get out there but the few freinds I have made here (and lost due to them using me) has put me off and its just hard to put myself back out there.

Right now I am detoxing from wellbutrin had an allergic reaction so went cold turkey on Thurs..

[Princess Tiefling]

Originally Posted by HermersSis

DH is damn husband right?

Yeah, I can understand that. You need more than just a SO in your life.

LOL Nah Dear Husband for me.. he's been incredibly supportive..

Just not fair for him is all.

I do things alone.. ride my bike every morning. But how many times can I ride the same trail alone before I just give up.. and there really isnt any other place to go I have three hours every mroning I use for that ride.. lol and there just arent alot of safe places to ride here!

[pamelasusan39]

Princess Tiefling----

I have depression (have had it for most of my life) and a child with Asperbergers. Feel free to message me or post if you wanna chat or reach out. I probably share a lot of your feelings and experiences.....maybe we can help each other.
Pam