Like someone you've known since 1st grade and have been friends with but that you don't hang out with all the time. And no matter how long it's been since you've seen each other it's never awkward and you always have a good time and it feels like no time has gone by at all.
I went out with an old friend last night and dating came up in conversation (my other friend blurted out that the 2 of us should date) and it has come up before but not in a serious way. Usually I just say no, it's too weird because I've known him since first grade. Well later that night he made some comments that kind of implied to me that he thought I shouldn't think that way. Which has never happened because usually he will just kind of agree with me lol
So anyway it got me thinking and I just don't know how I feel about it. I mean I love this kid to death and would probably do anything for him within reason lol. He's smart, cute, and hilarious. He says he's only funny around me because he thinks he has to be because I always have said he's so funny lol.
SO I kind of had to imagine what would happen if we like just kissed or something and I totally started giggling like a little school girl in the car by myself today ... it was weird and I don't know if it's because subconsciously I'm in love with him and want to marry him HAHA :LOL: or because it would be so strange to me lol.
I'd say go for it Sounds like you're a good match. And I think even if it didn't work out in the long run, your friendship sounds like it would hold up. Good friends make great boyfriends.
Not only did I date one of my good friends from childhood, we got married. Although it was strange for our group of friends at first, having two of us as a couple instead of just the buddies we'd been for years, it was the best thing that's ever happened to me. We've been married for 8 years now, and the best part of it is that I can honestly say my husband is my best friend, because he was one of my closest friends LONG before I thought boys were cute. :P
Not only did I date one of my good friends from childhood, we got married. Although it was strange for our group of friends at first, having two of us as a couple instead of just the buddies we'd been for years, it was the best thing that's ever happened to me. We've been married for 8 years now, and the best part of it is that I can honestly say my husband is my best friend, because he was one of my closest friends LONG before I thought boys were cute. :P
lol that's totally true here.
How did you start dating? Like did you sit down and talk about it? I think I'm pretty afraid that something would happen and then we wouldn't be friends anymore and that would be awful because I think he's such a good friend.
Take a chance girl!!!! I met my husband in college we became best friends and were platonic friends for 9 years before we started having feelings for each other. We would both get jealous when the other dated someone else so I finally told him one night that I was falling in love with him and he said he felt the same way but was afraid to say something b/c he didn't want to ruin what we had and have things become awkward.
Well months later we became official dated for 3 years got married, 1 1/2 years after that had our daughter and we have been married for 8 years now!
I literally married my Best Friend!!! This man new things about me that even my closest girlfriends didn't know, that's how close we were I trusted him with everything. God I love that man!!!!
aww! im also marrying a my best friend (i NEVER was attracted to him before) and we've known eachother since we were five. i would totally recommend it. :]
The truth is: a long-term relationship with someone will be stronger if you're friends. How to know if you'll be best friends within your relationship? Well... if you're good friends before you start dating, chances are that you'll be good friends after getting serious.
I married my best friend. He was my best friend before we met in person... he was like my online best friend. I loved him to tears, wouldn't hide anything from him, loved his jokes, thought he was cute, and we had a great rapport. We still have the same kind of relationship 5 years after getting married and 9 years after meeting online for the first time. And if it hadn't been him I would have totally married some of my life long friends! ABSOLUTELY!
So... go for it and have a great time! You'll love dating a good friend!
Take a chance girl!!!! I met my husband in college we became best friends and were platonic friends for 9 years before we started having feelings for each other. We would both get jealous when the other dated someone else so I finally told him one night that I was falling in love with him and he said he felt the same way but was afraid to say something b/c he didn't want to ruin what we had and have things become awkward.
Well months later we became official dated for 3 years got married, 1 1/2 years after that had our daughter and we have been married for 8 years now!
I literally married my Best Friend!!! This man new things about me that even my closest girlfriends didn't know, that's how close we were I trusted him with everything. God I love that man!!!!
Good luck to you!
Your story is so similar to mine! I liked him, he liked me; but because he was in the US and I was in Argentina we kept disregarding the possibility of getting serious. I wanted to do my life down in my country but I couldn't stand the idea of him dating anyone else, and vice-versa. Kind of silly... but anyway, I told him that I liked him a lot but I didn't want to ruin what we had (the great friendship and all), plus there was still all that distance between us. Anyhow... it turned out that he liked me too and over time we fell in love, he went down to Argentina, we got engaged, dated for a year-ish and got married. It was the best decision of my life, to marry my best friend.
How did you start dating? Like did you sit down and talk about it? I think I'm pretty afraid that something would happen and then we wouldn't be friends anymore and that would be awful because I think he's such a good friend.
Well, it's a bit embarrassing, but here goes. I went on a really bad blind date once, where I met the guy at a neutral place then followed him in my car to the restaurant, where he apparently decided I wasn't hot enough ... so he let me stand outside the restaurant waiting for him for a while (while he went home then sent me a text saying he was out of my league). I was a bit upset, so went to my friend's house to drink myself stupid (I was 21, drinking myself stupid was my answer to everything at 21). Both DH and I were hammered, as were the other 10 or so friends that were hanging around. Apparently the alcohol gave him the guts to tell me that my date was a jerk, I was a cinnabon (yes, like the treat in the mall), and he'd never be lucky enough to find a girl like me. The alcohol and my fragile emotional state combined gave me the guts to tell him I'd had a thing for him since high school. Turns out, he'd had a thing for me since high school too, but we were both to worried about ruining our friendship to say anything.
The next day we had a big conversation about it and realized that we'd never ever treated each other badly, so neither of us could see that happening if we dated, so any break up wouldn't be because of some huge angry drama. We decided it was worth seeing where it would go. I'm so glad that we did, we are ridiculously happy together. We met when we were 12 or so, I'd estimate we've known each other 18 years, and have been married for 8.
I personally wouldn't, but that could be because I'm already married.
Honestly, though, no matter what weight I've been I've never had problems with expressing interest (or lack of) in male friends. I've been in your situation before, and when it did I always had to ask myself, "Am I considering a date because I have genuine feelings for him, or am I considering dating him because I like the attention?" and often it was the latter. I think that if you had never thought about him that way before, then you should use that as an indicator of your true feelings. Life isn't always like the movies, you know?
And who knows, maybe it will work out... but it would be a bummer to start dating only to realize after the "newness" wears off that you're only into him on a friendship level. I think that could definitely hurt your chances of having a friendship afterward, especially if he feels used or taken for granted, or lied to.
Anyways, short version: Just be careful and make sure that you're following your heart.
Would you date a long time friend?
Sounds like you're a good match. And I think even if it didn't work out in the long run, your friendship sounds like it would hold up. Good friends make great boyfriends.
