[swtbttrfly23]

So yesterday afternoon I found out that this guy that I've had feelings for almost for 2 years now has moved far away from the area. He basically quit acting (he was an actor here in LA) and moved away to a far in NY to open a creamerie.

In addition to now being in awe of this man, I am also feeling pretty devastated. I guess my intuition had always led me to believe that I would see him again, but it's decidedly less likely now.

Anyway, now I'm having trouble eating. I've completely lost my appetite. I can still tell when my body might need some fuel, but I am so not into it. I only ate a piece of cheese last night, and only because I thought it was a good idea, not because I really wanted it. This morning I choked down some greek yogurt, but I had to eat really slow to avoid gagging on it, and I couldn't finish. I'm not sure what to do, should I make myself eat or just wait for my appetite to come back? Still drinking lots of water too, on account of it being TOM I am very thirsty. Never felt this bad before, it really sucks. Do I just wait it out or do I need to eat something?

[pucedaisy]

Sorry to hear about your disappointment! I know how bad that can feel.

Eat something light and healthy, get some protein. Your body needs it, and so does your head. It's a lot harder to get through emotional distress when you don't eat, sleep, etc- your brain just doesn't work as well.

After a devastating break up years ago, I did not eat for 2 weeks. Not one cracker. I felt too grief stricken and fragile, like the taste of food was too overwhelming. But really, I think some part of me didn't really WANT to get through it! The physical emptiness seemed to mirror my emotional emptiness. Don't give in to the drama- take good care of yourself.

You've been doing great with your weight loss, making healthy choices. The heartbreak diet is not healthy or sustainable!

[Ija]

Sorry about what you've been going through... a similar thing happened to me when someone I loved went back home (to another country) and couldn't come back. I went through periods with no appetite whatsoever, followed by an enormous appetite that was hard to control. But I gradually got back my sense of balance.

Try to eat something nutritious if you can, but don't force-feed yourself if you really don't want to. Just make sure to generally take good care of yourself, and talk to someone when you're feeling down.

[beerab]

Think about it this way- not eating now might make you binge later- I'd try to eat SOMETHING at least- even if it's small meals so your body doesn't go nuts later.