Warning- Im PMSing so that may have some influence over this post...
I have been going up & down 5lbs these last 2 months.
I do really good, stay within calories & exercise a little & I drop weight super quickly! I mean if I could just stay on track for a few months Im sure Id loose a ton of weight...
But then someones birthday comes along, or I go to disneyland, or out to eat & I just shut down for a week at a time!!
I KNOW, psychologically I KNOW get back at it when you fail, I just feel like I have NO energy, NO motivation, etc. I want it back so bad!
I'll be honest my one weight loss goal was to look hot, I've been fat since I was 5 or 6, never been "hot", but now I just want ENERGY! I hate the feeling of my stomach taking up so much space & my bra & underwear being tight- ick!!! I refuse to buy bigger sizes, I just so desperately want motivation & energy!!! I dont know how to get it back...
SO... yea thats it lol...
I understand completely - even now, I am so tempted to just say 'well, this is good enough'. I don't really have anything to suggest to help you, I just wanted you to know that others have the same problem.
Girl...you sound sooo much like me it's unbelievable!!! I was happy to see your post just to see how you were doing. I haven't been on in a while because I just feel lost in this weight loss/ life change thing! I need the motivation again as well. I've read other posts that you have to just learn to like the good food and want the healthy body bad enough but it doesn't seem to work for me either! I know this not a uplifting and inspiring post but alas...just to let you know you are not alone. We CAN do it!!! We will do it!!!
I can so relate!!
I lost 6lbs in July, I was so happy!!! I can do this!!! Then August came with summer holidays and heat and I lost it completely. No energy, no hope, desire to do anything. Yesterday was good. I exercised and ate okay, today no exercise so far and I have to go out to work.
It is hard to stay on track, we have more to our lives than just loosing weight!
It isn't easy but I have decided one baby step at a time, even one half step! So this week I am not eating snacks in the evening unless its fruit!! Small start!
Good luck
Jackie
But then someones birthday comes along, or I go to disneyland, or out to eat & I just shut down for a week at a time!!
Is it possible that you could decide to shut down for a meal, or a day, instead of for a week? It's easy to fall victim to "all or nothing" thinking and decide that, once your diet it shot, it doesn't matter...but it does.
I don't want to hijack your thread by giving a lot of details of my eating plan, but there's room for splurges if I want to go out to dinner or have a special treat. I try to make up for it by being "good" the days before and afterwards. I think that's part of what's helped me stay on plan--I don't feel deprived, and I don't tend to get seduced by forbidden foods. If I want something badly enough, I let myself have it occasionally, and I've generally been able to do that without getting sidetracked.
Anyway, I think you'll be happier with the scale over the long run if you let yourself enjoy these special events but get back on plan as quickly as possible.
Honestly, I had been dealing with the same problem, thinking it was my motivation that was the problem.
Someone on here made a great post about it being a choice. That's it, end of story. You have to CHOOSE not to blow it. You have to make a conscious decision to change your behavior. No one is forcing you to eat bad food, and every time you lift the fork to your mouth, it's a conscious choice on your part. Choose to succeed and not to fail. In a way, it's very liberating, because doing well and losing weight isn't mystical, dependent on motivation, or fleeting - it's about you making the choice to eat healthily, exercise, and STICKING TO IT. No ifs, ands, or buts. Excuses are essentially explanations for choosing to fail.
I know it sounds hokey or like obvious advice, but once I really got it through my head that everything I do, everything I eat is my own choice, I felt immense control.
I had been wasting time, stalled on 30-35lbs lost, and getting quite annoyed with myself for continuing to screw up. Learning to make it a clear choice and not something emotional made all the difference. Good luck.
Grr I just cant get it!!
lol...
