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Originally Posted by Chubs192
I have a huge amount of gardening and housework on my list to do today, not sure if I will fit my DVD in but Im going to try, I have been putting the list off for a few days so thats prioritised.
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I am not your mom and I don't want to tell you how to live your life, but this is the exact sort of thinking that held me back for so long. I'd "plan to try" but other things came up. I'd feel ashamed, and guilty, and "plan to try harder" next time. It never worked.
Take two people--Suzie and Sally. Suzie sets out and plans to exercise an hour a day, which kicks her butt and leaves her exhausted. Half the time she finds a reason not to do it, because she hates every second of it and she never gets a break. She also simply doesn't have time to exercise an hour every day because she has other commitments. Sally plans to exercise every other day, and she always does it because it's not unreasonable. Sally and Suzie are working out
the exact same amount, but Suzie feels guilty and like a failure half the time, and Sally feels good about herself and confident about her ability to stick to a plan. In a month, Sally can up her exercise and will be ready for a new commitment, but Suzie will still feel like she can't even do what she started out to do.
So find a plan you can stick to until it becomes a habit. Half-formed plans, deciding to "try" to do something, just lead to guilt and shame and, in the end, failure.