Social Security, My Husband and Greed - OT - Very Upset
As some of you know, my husband of 8 years (we were together a total of 10) passed in 1999. Last week, one of his sister's contacted me on FB asking me to call her, so I did. She tells me to call her mom, which I did and she proceeds to give me a number for a lady at the Social Security Administration because they had been trying to locate me about funds that may be due to my husband before he passed. First of all, my mother in law wants me to let her fill out the papers and get any money that may come but I tell her I will call the lady myself and I did and I have a phone appointment to file a claim later this month. Fast forward to today. I have a cell phone but it is really just for emergencies and it is mobile to mobile only. My sister in law had left a voice message on my cell and I sent her a message on Facebook in response and here is how the Facebook message went -
Me: Wanted to let you know I got your voice message. The phone I have is only mobile to mobile so unless I am talking to someone on verizon, it costs me 1 buck a minute which is why I leave the phone off except in need to use cases. And yes, I did talk to your momma and I talked to the lady at Social Security Administration as well.
Her: Lol dont worrie gezzz i wont call again.. Every since u moved you have been different but thats ok i wont bother u anymore and u can also delete me to lol
Me: okay...I was just letting you know why I didn't answer, not that you bothered me but I really ain't about to argue with you
Her: Yea i agree now f**k off your f**king nothing to me.
So yeah, I didn't respond anymore and I deleted and blocked her because really, I don't need that kind of crap in my life anymore. When my bf calls from his work break and I tell him about because I am still upset, not mad really but more hurt, he says they (my husband's family) are probably upset that I wouldn't agree to let my husband's mom fill out the papers to try to get money. And now I know he was right. She (my sister in law) has been texting my phone saying she will do everything she can to keep me and my boy toy (her words, not mine) from getting her brother's money. I wish I could block her number but I don't see an option to do so.
I am wondering if I call the lady over the case from the SSA and request no information on the claim be shared with anyone other than me, included his family, do they have to abide by my wishes or no?
Wow, what a disagreeable person your sister in law seems to be! You are right, you don't need that kind of person in your life. Good for you for blocking her. I don't know the answer to your question, but it wouldn't hurt to try, would it?
Ah, nasty people, sorry they are putting you through this Phone the ss people tomorrow if you can and ask your question, they will tell you.
Good luck with it, chin up!
What a nasty person. I am not an attorney but I do believe there are privacy of information laws. I would do as you suggest and ask Soc Security to give NO INFO to anybody but you. I also believe a spouse takes precedence over a nasty sister. Hang in there, stand your ground and do not engage in any type of discussion with someone who would talk to you in such a disgusting way.
I am sorry that your former sister-in-law was so ugly. As the spouse, I think the social security benefit would come to you (or to dependent children, if there were any). I don't think that your former in-laws would have standing to challenge that. Don't let their petty and mean behavior get to you (way easier said than done).
Sounds like you need a . Sorry your sister in law is being so nasty and
misunderstanding you about your phone use. Try not to get to upset. She wasn't listening to you, when you told her why you couldn't use the phone.
Oneder- My legal education may be rusty (since I have switched careers to nursing) but if I remember correctly, any marriage that was legally bound by the state will stand, regardless of seperation (death, trial or other). You are your husbands next in line kin. When he married you, you became his first line of emergency (whether health or legal) contact. Your in-laws should not be involved nor contacted.
I hope this helps. Good luck and I am truely sorry for what they have put you through!
I agree with previous posters. Your former in-laws have no standing. You'll feel better after you call the SS office and talk to them. Till then, another
Social Security, My Husband and Greed - OT - Very Upset
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