I am upset. I am comfortable with my weight for the first time in years but even after all my hard work and losing so much weight, I hate my body. The extra skin is very disheartening and I hate looking at myself and I never let my bf see me. I will never be able to pay for surgery to have it removed. I do some pretty intense workouts, I feel, and to see that skin...well, it makes me cry really. I would much rather have the skin than be morbidly obese, for sure and I hope someday to be able to find a way to be at peace with it.
Give yourself time. I think it is a strange and overwhelming thing to go through so many body changes-- sure we may be incredibly eager to lose weight, but it's still a radical change... I've had some of the WEIRDEST mourning emotions-- like feeling angry and confused that I can't shop in my old favorite plus sized shop...
It's a process. You have come SO FAR and this is much better than where you were, but you haven't lived with this new body for very long-- not long enough to feel fully at home in it.
Well, not like I know from personal experience (yet!) but I keep hearing that even after you're done losing weight your body keeps working on improving. Will you always have some extra skin, yeah maybe probably, but a year from now it'll be less.
Thanks so much for the support, ladies. I really get mad at myself for letting the skin issue "get to me" but it happens everyday a lot. I just can not seem to find a way to make it okay that I have the extra skin and to like my body as it is. I feel disgusted and embarrassed and angry :/
my friend went thru this after having gastric bypass .. but eventually she got better w/ it .. I'm sure in time you will not be bothered by it anymore and it should start shrinking back up into place for the most part .. like you she said she would rather have stayed heavy then have all that extra skin but now she loves herself for being thin .. its probably the least favorite part of her body but i think for her it has just become a whatever situation best wishes to you w/ this issue!!
I'm just now coming to terms with the fact that I'm never going to have a perfect body...that's just the way it is. I have started noticing some improvements and I'm hoping it will get better, but if this is as good as it gets then I'm going to have to accept it because not accepting it will only let to regain for me. My mom has spent years losing and regaining because her body was never good enough for her and I refuse to do this more than once. We're all beautiful - own it!
It's something I've had to get used to as well The top part of my legs are horrible but I've been taking comparison shots every month just to see if it's getting better....it is slowly. I'm just going with the flow
You should feel wonderful about yourself. You have done a fantastic job! I just hope I can do as well you have. Don't let anyone tell you you are not beautiful, even your self!!!
You need to go right now to the bathroom and pick 5 things you love about yourself as you look in the mirror....sounds corny but it totally helps me when I'm feeling a bit bummed out about the loose skin.
If you have health insurance, have you looked into seeing if it could be covered as a medical necessity? (I think I read about this somewhere).
Have you checked with a plastic surgeon regarding the actual cost? There might be a way you could finance the surgery. I agree also with the others that time may take care of at least part of the problem. But for myself, I would explore all options.
You have done such a great job with your weight loss and you have made yourself so much healthier! Be so pround of yourself!
If you have health insurance, have you looked into seeing if it could be covered as a medical necessity? (I think I read about this somewhere).
Have you checked with a plastic surgeon regarding the actual cost? There might be a way you could finance the surgery. I agree also with the others that time may take care of at least part of the problem. But for myself, I would explore all options.
You have done such a great job with your weight loss and you have made yourself so much healthier! Be so pround of yourself!
You need to go right now to the bathroom and pick 5 things you love about yourself as you look in the mirror....sounds corny but it totally helps me when I'm feeling a bit bummed out about the loose skin.
I think you are beautiful! Inside & out
Not to keep being an idiot but Julia made a thread a few weeks back for people to list 3 things they love about themself, after a couple days of thought from me, I could come up with nothing. Sad but true.
Thank you for always being so supportive to me, you are such a huge inspiration to me and many others
Last edited by Onederchic; 06-12-2010 at 08:32 PM.
You should feel wonderful about yourself. You have done a fantastic job! I just hope I can do as well you have. Don't let anyone tell you you are not beautiful, even your self!!!
Frustrated with body/body image
best wishes to you w/ this issue!!
I think I look just plain ole horrible 
