My Disasterous Trip to Victorias Secret...Then a Binge
I wish I could understand the mentality of, "I'm so fat...I think I'll pig out!" That doesn't even remotely make sense!
I had to go bra shopping. All of my bras are too big and old. I decided to go to VS and get something nice...splurge a little, if you will. I wanted something kind of sexy, yet functional. The girl who sized me was very helpful and sweet and I found a good bra....and then I thought to myself, "Why not try on some lingerie?"
IF ONLY I'D KNOWN.
I look awful. I've lost 50 pound (have to update ticker) and I look disgusting. My flesh is squishy and flabby and wiggly and covered in stretch marks...I bulge in alll these weird places...my boobs are saggy and deflated. There is nothing sexy about THIS body in lingerie. Why did I think weight loss would make me look better? Silly me...I missed the fine print on the weight loss brochure...
So of course, I proceeded to eat. And eat. And eat. And now I feel worse. What a stupid cycle. I just cannot believe that I've struggled so hard to lose this weight and I still look and feel so completely terrible.
This is not fair...I'm ranting and feeling sorry for myself. I feel like giving up.
TnP, fret not! Sounds to me that it's time to move to the next part of your journey & it's time to tone-n-tighten!
You have come so far & should feel very proud. You are healthier & you know at 165 @ 5'8...you look GREAT! I hear you saying you're feeling like what's considered a "skinny fat"....okay..understandable...however this is all about just taking more control (again)...and hitting some weights, do some Pilates..yada yada. It'll all come together. Keep your chin up hun & focus on sculpting yourself...it won't sculpt on its own.
Miss Kelly said it all!
Now is the time to sculpt -- how great that you have this problem! Remember back to where you were and think about how you have finished step 1 and now to really tone your body is step 2. Just take it slow and keep at it and before you know it the bulges will melt away.
I wish I could understand the mentality of, "I'm so fat...I think I'll pig out!" That doesn't even remotely make sense!
I had to go bra shopping. All of my bras are too big and old. I decided to go to VS and get something nice...splurge a little, if you will. I wanted something kind of sexy, yet functional. The girl who sized me was very helpful and sweet and I found a good bra....and then I thought to myself, "Why not try on some lingerie?"
IF ONLY I'D KNOWN.
I look awful. I've lost 50 pound (have to update ticker) and I look disgusting. My flesh is squishy and flabby and wiggly and covered in stretch marks...I bulge in alll these weird places...my boobs are saggy and deflated. There is nothing sexy about THIS body in lingerie. Why did I think weight loss would make me look better? Silly me...I missed the fine print on the weight loss brochure...
So of course, I proceeded to eat. And eat. And eat. And now I feel worse. What a stupid cycle. I just cannot believe that I've struggled so hard to lose this weight and I still look and feel so completely terrible.
This is not fair...I'm ranting and feeling sorry for myself. I feel like giving up.
I can totally relate to that section I bolded and though I don't have any solutions or sage advice, I wanted to let ya know you are not alone and give ya a big ole
I am at goal weight and I don't look great in all lingerie. I do look good in SOME lingerie, it just took a little trial and error to find what makes me look the best.
i agree it's time 2 sculpt. my instructor used to weigh 240 and now is around 140 and she has no flab at all because she hit the weights hard and really worked on toning up. you should think about getting a trainer for a bit. you've done amazing don't put yourself down! this journey is not over yet! keep going
by the way FYI did you know victoria secret models wear POUNDS and POUnds of body makeup when they do shows? meh they try 2 make it like they are perfect ya right, i doubt heidi klum is stretch mark free too -- the woman has had 4 kids...
I relate to this. I think every chick going through a weight loss battle relates to this at some point.
For me personally, it's like I painted this visual of what getting smaller would look like & feel like, because I'd never actually been there before. And it's so much different than I thought it would be. In some ways it really is great - sometimes I don't even realize how small I look now. However, there are definitely days when I feel like my stretch marks and loose skin are hideous and then I want to drown myself in chocolate ice-cream.
I guess the best advice I have is to compare yourself now to the person you were before you lost the weight. I guarantee you that (in terms of looks and mentality) you aren't sorry for working so hard to change. Just be proud of yourself because you're a strong, beautiful person because of your struggles not because of how you look in VS!
What Glory87 said. I've got boobs (D cup), and there's some lingerie that looks dreadful on me. I'm the kind of girl who need underwires in my lingerie so the girls don't look horrible. I have a few cute nighties that are very flattering, but it took me a while to figure out what worked for me. Just like if I wore an A or B cup, it would be a totally different style that flattered me.
You look great!
I'm right with you....lost 80 pounds and now I hate my saggy, droopy body. I can't even wear a bathing suit because my floppy boobs won't sit in one - even with underwire. They're too heavy and squishy with loose skin. I can't fit into a pretty bra at VS because I'm a 32 and need a C cup to encase the loose skin - have to order plain ones from their Web site. And don't get me started on the flab hanging on my backside, tummy, under arms and inner thighs...
I've done weightlifting since day one of workouts so long ago, and never have stopped. I can't imagine how bad it would be if I'd never started...
Oh come now, you're being so hard on you. Look what you've done for yourself.
Without a doubt lingerie is very revealing (& bathing suits) and it is going to be harder to look well in that. But in regular, every day clothes? You can't tell me that you don't look way better 50 lbs lighter, right? I look fabulous in clothing, lingere, like Glory said, takes a little more effort, you've got to be a little more particular.
And besides keep in mind that saggy skin doesn't cause heart disease, numerous cancers, diabetes, fatty liver disease and a whole long list of completely avoidable health related debilitating and deadly diseases.
I most certainly don't have the perfect body. But luckily I don't need the perfect body to have a full, active, productive healthy life. And like I said, I look pretty darn great in LOTS of clothes and I've even found great bathing suits and yes, lingerie.
Oh and if you ask me, VS is not the end all, be all of lingerie. Check out some of the better department stores. They are loaded with sexy, gorgeous things, and yes they are a tad less revealing, but if you feel better in them, then they're even sexier than the more revealing stuff, without a doubt.
I've done exactly the same thing before never feels great when I try on something only to look in the mirror and think I look awful. I have been doing weight training and cardio work at the gym a lot and I think I have improved slightly but it's going to take a long time for me, but it will be worth it in the end!
I think everyone goes through this - just hang in there!
My flesh is squishy and flabby and wiggly and covered in stretch marks...I bulge in alll these weird places...my boobs are saggy and deflated.
...me too...but I KNOW that 5'-8" 165 you look AMAZING clothed! I know it's really hard to do all this work and not have the bodies we want...Most days I'm fine with it....It's the price I have to pay for all those years of eating and being lazy and stressed out. Some days it really depresses me and I start trying to figure out how I could finance some kind of cosmetic procedure...Unfortunatly there is just nothing I can do about the past that has given me this saggy skin and stretch marks right now and even if I could I still wouldn't be perfect. But what I can do is be the best ME I can be now and that is typically fully clothed. However, some nice boy short undies and a sexy tank top can drive my DH crazy more than any lingerie could. I think the hardest part of this journey can be trying to accept your new body, sags and all. It's something that I'm working really hard to do. I would try focusing on clothing that makes you feel great right now and work up to the other stuff. Hang in there!
My Disasterous Trip to Victorias Secret...Then a Binge
never feels great when I try on something only to look in the mirror and think I look awful. I have been doing weight training and cardio work at the gym a lot and I think I have improved slightly but it's going to take a long time for me, but it will be worth it in the end!
