I have been back on the weight loss wagon for about six weeks and obsessively tracking my calories. Since I have found several low cal foods that I like, I can eat almost all day and struggle sometimes to get up to the 1200 that I need. The last few weeks I have found myself mentally counting the calories of those eating around me. One of my good friends at work has been talking a lot about wanting to lose weight. I don't like many people to know about my journey (embarrassment mostly but also to see when people notice) but I have told her because she expressed interest in doing it herself. She also is my partner for lunch time walks.
For a while she would come in talking about doing p90X everyday but would still come in drinking a grande frappachino (which I just drool over) several days in a row. Yesterday, she was trying to offer up some of her "healthy" snacks to me, which were cheese curds (ewww, I don't even know what it is) and venison jerky. Of course I don't take them because I haven't counted them and I just can't have that! While I wouldn't ever say it to her, I am mentally counting the calories that she is ingesting and then wondering why she isn't losing anything.
I almost gagged the other day when I saw the plate of food my hubby was about to eat. With him, I am not so shy and I said, do you have any idea how many calories that is? He doesn't but he doesn't care either.
Just wondering if you find yourself biting your tongue when watching others eat. Thankfully when I was eating that way others bit their tongues too!
No, I don't pay much attention to what others eat. I also don't discuss diets with others. This usually only brings out unwanted comments. Now if they seem to be sincere that is another story.
I count my sister's calories for her all of the time. I am obsessive, and she claims that it is too much work. I always am the one who cooks and portions our dinners, so I tend to tally up her calories for the day when she mentions what she had for breakfast or lunch. I don't think she is offended. She is trying to be healthy lately
Only with my husband, and I try to limit how much I nag him. He needs to lose weight, so I don't mind nagging a bit, but I don't want him to start sneaking the stuff he loves because I'm policing his food habits.
That being said, last night I did say "do you realize how much cheese you've eaten today??" after I saw him eat three slices in a row.
The only time I notice is when I'm at lunch/dinner with someone and they are moaning/*****ing about "working out super hard" and not losing (example. a coworker who did slim fast, I don't think the "free meal" was meant to be an entire pizza...:P). Outside of that, no, I don't notice because if they cared they would ask or know so why should I care...
HOWEVER, I DO have a friend that notices EVERY LITTLE THING and damn is it annoying when she goes "you know, you could have saved 200 calories by just getting lemon wedges with your salad...thats an 1/2 hour more at the gym ya know", in reality I know she's trying to be helpful, but, its really not when I have a million calories stocked away for one night out a week. :P
I try hard not to, because its a sensitive topic or anyone But I do resent whiners too. I think we get ourselves obsessed as a way of keeping track, but its not an attitude we can maintain our whole life. I'm sure its a problem everyone deals with
I was worse when I first started CC. Sticker shock was so profound. Now, I don't say anything. People can see I lost weight and if they want to know how, I tell them.
I never say anything to anyone about it, but sometimes I try and figure out how many calories my friends or family are eating. Just because I like to do the math, honestly. It isn't because I want to feel better than them for eating healthier, it is more out curiosity. I mean, I'm at school so I eat two meals a day with the same people, and you get to see people's patterns after a while. Then again, they have no problem whatsoever commenting on my food (insulting it, saying I'm eating nothing, and then stealing some it it). But I guess that's how things go
I think it's a destructive habit, to be honest. If you start being critical of other people's choices, even just in your own head, you start assuming everyone is watching what you eat and judging you. This is the way to secret binges and shame.
Furthermore, your friends can see the look on your face when they order a bacon cheeseburger, and that's just annoying. It's especially annoying if you, yourself, would have been ordering it a few months ago: it's like a newly religious person making a disapproving face every time every time a friend says a cuss word, even though they were using the same words a while ago. It's annoying, and frankly, the sort of thing that would make me avoid someone.
Furthermore, there's NO benefit in making food choices emotional and somehow "moral" within your marriage. Your husband will make different choices when he's ready. Don't poison the well by making him feel like your esteem, your approval, your love are dependent on what he chooses to eat--and that's how it comes across when you get to the point that you can't go to the kitchen without feeling the other person roll their eyes and sighing.
I don't really feel this way at all--I sometimes have big meals, and I still love all the same foods I loved before that were high in fat/sugar. I eat a lot less of them now, but I certainly don't care if other people have them. Heck, my boyfriend eats ALL THE TIME and TONS of food, including fast food and junk, but he stays very healthy and slim (size 32 pant). I'm more jealous than anything else that other people can eat like that and stay skinny and I can't
I have a very hard time keeping my mouth shut when others are not eating healthy. The funniest thing is that I would be angry if someone would have made comments on what I would eat. I have decided it might be a little bit of jealousy because they are eating something I would like to be eating. I have really tried to control what comes out of my mouth lately, as much as I have controlled what is going in. God help me it's hard!
I don't do the calorie thing, but the husband is getting annoyed with my "did you know...(fill in nutrition fact here, like pumpkin seeds are a good source of iron, your body needs some fat, blah blah blah.)" I know he's getting annoyed because he mimics me in a very high voice (which isn't a good mimic of me at all).
It's ok. Overall, he's lost 10 pounds along with me because he just eats what I eat only a little more, and he's happy with that.
But I agree that a year ago, someone telling me how bad my food is for me would have made me avoid them.
I am guilty of this too, but only in secret I would never say anything to anyone about what they eat unless they ask me for help. I don't have a lot of family or close friends but I do go out with my step mom a lot. She is quite overweight and has shown signs of jealousy over my weight loss. I have tried to help her when she asks but I don't think she is quite ready to take it seriously once she saw the hard work I put into things. I sincerely want to help her and I care about her but she is not at that point yet where she is ready to make a commitment. Anyway, we went out for lunch yesterday and she wanted to go to Tim Hortons. I had a turkey sandwich and a bottle of water which was 420 calories. She had a medium iced capp, fritter donut and chicken sandwich. I knew it was bad but it was not my place to say anything. I ended up adding it up when I got home and it was 1090 calories 185g carbs, 42g of fat That was really eye opening because last year at this time, I would have had the same thing!
Sometimes I add up my husband's food too but he doesn't have a weight problem and thinks its funny how I always have these crazy numbers running through my head LOL
I am definitely obsessed with my calories but not so much other people. I find myself looking into grocery carts of thin women and they definitely have different stuff in their carts. My husband and boys do not have weight issues so I still buy the things they like, but I am shopping differently for myself.
Have you become the calorie police?
I would never say anything to anyone about what they eat unless they ask me for help. I don't have a lot of family or close friends but I do go out with my step mom a lot. She is quite overweight and has shown signs of jealousy over my weight loss. I have tried to help her when she asks but I don't think she is quite ready to take it seriously once she saw the hard work I put into things. I sincerely want to help her and I care about her but she is not at that point yet where she is ready to make a commitment. Anyway, we went out for lunch yesterday and she wanted to go to Tim Hortons. I had a turkey sandwich and a bottle of water which was 420 calories. She had a medium iced capp, fritter donut and chicken sandwich. I knew it was bad but it was not my place to say anything. I ended up adding it up when I got home and it was 1090 calories 185g carbs, 42g of fat 
That was really eye opening because last year at this time, I would have had the same thing! 
