[mackkyntrin]

Hey, Im new to this but thought this would help me get on the right track. Why is it everytime I start to lose a little weight I have to ruin it? Its like I get scared but have no idea why. Everynight I go to bed so dissapointed in myself and think how I will do so much better tomorrow and then the samething happens day in and day out. Either way this is a new start for me tomorrow is a new day and I will succed.

[srmb60]

Hi and welcome to 3FC!

Try to come to 3FC and read for encouragement. If you can just get one good day under your belt, you'll feel much more empowered and capable.

What food plan are you following? Maybe it's not something sustainable ... too hard to follow. We could help you find something that will make each day easier for you.

[kuhljeanie]

you might also want to spend some time and thought figuring out what it is exactly that scares you about losing weight, and work through it. without that piece of the puzzle sorted out, staying on plan is a much more difficult proposition.

[randomcards]

Welcome, glad to have you here, you will find a lot of support and similar stories across the forums here.

You might be well served to just take a day like SusanB says and do a really good job with eating well. Then during that day focus on building a plan for yourself (you can get lots of help on that here).

I think there might be some benefit from intellectualizing this process and trying to minimize emotionalizing this process in the beginning. Use all your past failures as lessons for what you do good and do bad and then adjust your plan accordingly.

For example maybe you are one of those people (and there are a lot on here) that eat great low cal all day and then are so hungry at night that they just go crazy and binge eat.

So even if it means eating higher calories build eating later into your initial plan. I started having 2 smaller dinners actually, one at like 5:30 and one at 8 or 8:30. I found if I ate a 6 and being a night owl, come 9 or 10 I'd start to pig out.

Anyway you can do it, focus on thinking about each decision you make and owning those decisions is a fantastic start!