i have lost almost 100lbs(87-88lbs) and i still feel like i look fat..yes i know 198lbs is still overweight but i feel like i should look smaller than what i look like now. the closer i get to my goal weight, the more i feel like i wont look "normal" when i get there.i still have the rolls, the overlapping belly, and fat jiggly arms..when will they go away? or at least get smaller?!
i see other people's journey..once they get to around 170-180..they look "normal" and really nice..that's only about 20lbs away for me and i feel like i will still have my same ol rolls,fat arms and double chin since i have lost 20lbs and it really much of a difference before..will the difference look more noticeable since i am a smaller weight? for ex..will loosing 20lbs starting from my current weight look better than loosing 20lbs starting at 250lbs? do my mind need to catch up with my weight loss?!
Brit, I saw a picture or two of you in another thread and you look great! I couldn't believe you're 198. Congrats on your weight loss!
With that said, yes, I do think losing 20 pounds from your current weight will look much different than losing from the higher weight you mentioned. A couple of years ago I started at 193 and by time I lost 10 pounds I felt like nothing much had changed. Then, when I lost the next 10 pounds, I felt like a whole new me was coming through. With those ten pounds, the rolls and jiggles started to disappear! I'm sure it'll be the same for you. Just have a little more patience.
First of all, congrats on losing so much!
Second, yeah, I will say that your mind definitely needs to catch up.
Also, as you get smaller, each lb gets more and more noticeable from the last (in my experience).
I know that the difference at my height for me personally between 190 and 170 is DRASTIC! My stomach became noticeable smaller and doesn't stick out as much, my rolls start disappearing to give way to my shape becoming more defined, and my face became a whole lot slimmer. The difference between 170 and 150 however, was even more so a big difference (last time I went down there). - It was to the point where my face seemed to change and I even uncovered back dimples!
So don't worry, you're getting there! You already look great, so don't worry too much about how you will look when you get there~
We're the same height and at 198 I definately still felt huge. Even at 188 I still felt *overweight*. Just recently at 173 about a 12/14 I feel like you said *normal* and people have really began to comment. In fact in some clothes I feel thin. Just something about the last 12 lbs has really made a difference. Hang in there, you're doing so well. I know it's really tough to lose so much weight and still feel *fat*.
I am an inch shorter than you and at the same weight am just starting to feel normal. I feel like at least now probably no one is noticing me. I like that!
As you get smaller, those 20 lbs mean a much larger difference. I notice that all the time in progress pics people take. I've seen some 10 lb differences over a course of 10, 20, 30, 40 lbs lost. Each increment is more dramatic than the last.
For me, my first 20 lbs made very little difference, 30 lbs down was a nice change and 40 lbs down was a huge change. I'm looking forward to the next 10!
This analogy http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/meta...el-theory.html might help with how you feel about your goal weight. I definitely get how you're feeling. I've lost 50 lbs but I still feel huge. It's easy to think, "well if the last 50 weren't that noticable how are the next 50 going to help?" But the smaller you get the more noticable each pound becomes.
Normal in my yoga class? Normal at my office? Normal in a mall in Upstate NY, when I'm visiting my mother? Normal in Soho, in Manhattan, if I go shopping on a busy Saturday?
Normal is a state of mind with me & varies according to the predominant "norm" in the people I'm surrounded by.
It depends on triumphs or defeats in dressing rooms, when I'm trying on new clothes; on my reflection in the window that I just passed; on my reflection in the mirrors in the exercise room during yoga class; on how I look in the photo my friend just posted online; on how the guys sitting at the front table in the company cafeteria look at me when I walk by carrying my tray.
Since it's never stable, I have to tell you, honestly: Never.
Either I forget about the whole thing because I'm engaged with some other activity or part of my life (and then I don't "feel normal," because I'm in the moment, and not conscious of being normal), or I feel uneasy or uncomfortable & thus don't feel normal.
I know what you mean by “normal” Brit. Normal is a common term used to mean…not the one every is looking at, as much as like everyone else as possible, average, not conspicuous, and in this case, not overweight enough for other people to notice.
I just now started feeling kind of sort of normal. My arms are a big trouble spot for me and at the gym last night, I checked them out in the mirror and thought, “I’ve seen people with arms like this wearing shorts sleeves in public…that means I can too!” Lol, silly, I know, but I felt regular. No, I don’t have the buffest arms in the world and they aren’t going to make anyone drool or pant with desire…but for once, I also don’t think anyone will gawk at me if I wear a t-shirt in the summer like a normal person!
Like the others have said, the more weight you lose, the more each pound counts and shows. There is a girl I work with who looks like she’s lost 15 pounds but…in reality has lost 5. She was just smaller to begin with, so her pounds lost looked like more. I’m not at that point yet, but I’m looking forward to it and you should too!
Oh and by the way…I am so impressed with your weight loss! That is truly inspiring and you should be really, really proud of yourself!
Honestly, it took me a really long time to feel really slim. For some people, the brain just needs more time to adjust its perception of the body, and even when it does, that perception is completely relative.. it all depends on the context. I felt pretty good at 145 on the way down, but last fall and winter I put on a few "bulking" pounds to put me back at 145, and I felt huge. HUGE!
Even if you're still technically overweight, I'm sure you look better than you think you do. Weight loss is generally a slow process, and aesthetic progress isn't always immediately obvious. Give it time, just keep trucking along. I promise that eventually you'll start to see real changes.
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I feel like at least now probably no one is noticing me. I like that!
