What is WRONG with me???? One minute i feel like I have hit rock bottom-feeling huge, blobby, uncomfortable and gross... and I want to lose weight, be healthy, and fit into cute clothes. the next minute I am trying to convince myself that I should just accept myself the way I am because it is what is inside that is important. (I do know that being healthy is the important thing- I just try to tell myself otherwise). I start telling myself it is better to eat what I want and not worry about it since most likely anything I lose, I will put back on so why bother. I know this is not healthy thinking- I feel like I am trying to justify eating poorly.
I guess what I need is some motivation. Help!
Last edited by maisiedotes; 02-25-2010 at 01:05 PM.
Hi Maisie;
I can relate to your thinking and indeed what is on the inside is important as well as the physical. I think finding a balance between the two can be helpful and that way it dosen't have to be one or the other. Accept yourself and move towards a healthier and happier you! Just my little twocents. Take care and I wish you all the best.
Tam
Last edited by greeneggsandtam; 02-25-2010 at 01:28 PM.
Sorry you are not feeling like you are in a good place.
You could do this: Start small. One habit. One change. Then build onto that. As you see positive changes, you may get excited about changing other things.
But remember (and I've learned this from the maintainers), motivation comes and goes. Committment to a new way of eating, moving and thinking about yourself is what sticks.
Thank you all. It all makes alot of sense. it is interesting- I know exactly what I have to do to lose weight (don't we all) and I feel SO much better when I do it- like, when I eat well, I feel so much less guilty- my conscience feels lighter. And so does my body. I suspect I sometimes enjoy wallowing in self-pity. I have been staring at the weightwatchers tracker I got about 2 months ago and have not written in. Maybe that will be a good start. I think once I get a day or 2 under my belt I will be more motivated- now to just get that day or 2 started. That seems to be the hardest part.
I am a stay-at-home mom. That is certainly not helping me but I know that if it isn't in the house, I can't eat it. There ain't a chance in he!! I am going to the grocery store on a whim with my 2 year old and 4 month old to load up on binge foods. I guess I have to just not buy the stuff in the first place.
When I lose my motivation, I remind myself that I am trying to become a healthier me, which is more important than reaching any number on the scale.
Not too long ago, my dad suffered from a massive heart attack. My mom and I found him dead on the floor. It was a absolutely horrible experience that I would probably not wish on my worst enemy.
He lived a very fulfilling life, however he did not care to exercise, watch what he ate or go to the doctor. His unhealthy lifestyle and his carrying of alot of extra weight ultimately led to his demise.
So....it may sound crass, but when I am dragging my *ss about working out or just getting it in gear in general, I tell myself, "You need to get it together, you don't want someone to find you dead on the floor."
I think this is when we notice the gaping hole between the technical side of weight loss and the emotional side.
Technically, most of us know how to lose weight. It's not rocket science.
Emotionally, though, it can be a struggle and hard. It took a lot of false starts, falling on my face, and losing the first 20 lbs over and over before I finally realized that motivation, willpower, etc is fleeting.
At the end of the day I have to make a choice. Do I want to continue making my life healthier and thus continue enjoying the benefits of my weight loss? Or do I want to throw in the towel and discard all the progress I've made just for a life of eating without thinking?
Motivation comes and goes but the choice is always yours.
I think this is when we notice the gaping hole between the technical side of weight loss and the emotional side.
Technically, most of us know how to lose weight. It's not rocket science.
Emotionally, though, it can be a struggle and hard. It took a lot of false starts, falling on my face, and losing the first 20 lbs over and over before I finally realized that motivation, willpower, etc is fleeting.
At the end of the day I have to make a choice. Do I want to continue making my life healthier and thus continue enjoying the benefits of my weight loss? Or do I want to throw in the towel and discard all the progress I've made just for a life of eating without thinking?
Motivation comes and goes but the choice is always yours.
MotoMichelle said this "Or do I want to throw in the towel and discard all the progress I've made just for a life of eating without thinking?"
Now that I've learned all I've learned about food. I can't go back to eating without thinking. I live with the guilt of knowing that I'm harming myself by overeating or making unhealthy choices. In a way, I hope I never lose that. Like knowing that if I hold my hand over a flame ....
It's not really as horrible a thought as you'd might think. I can always make a better choice.
This might be kind of controversial, but nothing motivates me faster than negativity. Go find some *bad* pictures of yourself. Go shopping and try on some bathing suits.
Sometimes we need a little tough love to remind us just why it's important to not be complacent with our weight.
I don't think I ever lasted more than a morning on a diet that wasn't started under abject humiliation over something around my weight. Sometimes we need to feel really bad before we are motivated to make tough and difficult changes.
I know not everyone will agree with this, and I'm not saying it's the only way to go about it, but if you are someone who *is* motivated easily by the negative like me, it might be worth trying.
This might be kind of controversial, but nothing motivates me faster than negativity. Go find some *bad* pictures of yourself. Go shopping and try on some bathing suits.
Sometimes we need a little tough love to remind us just why it's important to not be complacent with our weight.
I don't think I ever lasted more than a morning on a diet that wasn't started under abject humiliation over something around my weight. Sometimes we need to feel really bad before we are motivated to make tough and difficult changes.
I know not everyone will agree with this, and I'm not saying it's the only way to go about it, but if you are someone who *is* motivated easily by the negative like me, it might be worth trying.
I'm the same way! This past summer, my motivation was not to be the "fat sister" in my sister's bridal party.
I have been on this weight loss journey for a little over a year now. Since December, my motivation is slipping and I have been struggling to get into the gym. Added to the regular stresses of life, I have 4 members of my family living with me now, as well as a new boyfriend for the first time in almost 3 years! My time is more valuable to me now than ever. Couple that with not wanting to work out, and I have a recipe for slipping back into old habits!
So far, I am about where I was in Nov/Dec. Gotta maintain! Gotta maintain!
This might be kind of controversial, but nothing motivates me faster than negativity. Go find some *bad* pictures of yourself. Go shopping and try on some bathing suits.
Sometimes we need a little tough love to remind us just why it's important to not be complacent with our weight.
I don't think I ever lasted more than a morning on a diet that wasn't started under abject humiliation over something around my weight. Sometimes we need to feel really bad before we are motivated to make tough and difficult changes.
I know not everyone will agree with this, and I'm not saying it's the only way to go about it, but if you are someone who *is* motivated easily by the negative like me, it might be worth trying.
This is the reason why I said no more I am going to eat healthy and work out and that is it. When I saw a picture of me(looking horrible) holding my friend newborn baby on her myspace profile, I wanted to die.
it seems contradictory, to accept yourself the way you are and to still want to lose weight, be cute and healthy. I see them as all pieces of the same puzzle pushing me in the same direction. If I don't accept myself, I won't be happy at any weight. When I feel really negative about myself, it's harder for me to do things for myself, exercise, eat well, etc.
I don't see accepting myself as accepting I can't improve myself. Hope that makes sense!
I am just not motivated.
