[tryinghardtolose]

I fell off the bandwagon and decided to jump back on. I'm not sure why it's so hard for me to commit and stay committed. I lost over 100 lbs before. I was reminiscing with my sister, and I noticed how skinny I was. YES I was actually considered skinny.

I gained it all back now I want to lose 70 pounds, I've already lost quite a few pounds however it feels like I'm still at square one. I'm on the Extreme Fat Smash diet, and it works but there is just something in me that continues to get me off track. I took an oath today (with myself) and promised to see this diet out. I have ten phentermine pills from my prescription my doctor prescribed (which I stopped taking because it made me feel like SUPER WOMAN!!! ) I figure for the first ten days it'll give me that extra boast and keep me from thinking about CHOCOLATE and WENDY's.

I pray this works because I'm holding myself back in my career and love life because I refuse to progress any further until I lose weight. It's like I'm punishing myself, indirectly.

I have a friend who wants to take it further with me, but he hasn't seen me in a while (since the huge weight lost), he wanted to be with me on Valentine's Day (today) but I'm too embarrassed. So I made up an excuse.

Gals, please pray for me, I really need dedication and commitment in my life. I get discourage quickly, and quite frankly I think I'm "comfortable." Ever since I lost the weight the first time, I gained this BOAST of confidence, which I think is a gift and curse because my self-esteem is really high, I some times think that me being heavy isn't really a problem, but in my mind I know it is. It's so hard to really explain. I'm internally battling ---my heart and mind--- Myself is holding ME back, and I need to defeat it!!!

[tryinghardtolose]

No support?

[mandalinn82]

Hi there...3FC does tend to slow down on weekends and holidays, which may explain the lack of responses.

You say you're "comfortable". From my experience, successful weight loss is almost always rooted in some profound discomfort...realizing that even if you have to make some sacrifices, they are worth it because the discomfort of being overweight isn't tolerable anymore.

So maybe it's reality check time. Have you had a checkup lately and talked about your weight with your doctor? That can be an eye opener. Or take some really frank photos, in a swimsuit or whatever. It might help you get that boost you need to get past being "comfortable".

Anyway, I'm glad you've decided to get back on the wagon - stick here, keep going, and keep posting.

[ANewCreation]

I just noticed your post and what you said about looking back really resonated with me. I don't know if it would help you out or not but I have to say that I keep that very same thought in my head all the time. Each time I regained I would look back and think if I only could have appreciated all that I accomplished with losing even a few pounds! I would have given anything to be back at that weight. Yet, at the time, it was never enough, never fast enough, never in the right places, etc etc.

I guess I realize now that I don't want to go back to that place of regret. If I never lose another pound I'm still in a better place. If it takes years to get to my goal weight I am still in a better place. If it doesn't come off in the right places I'm still in a better place. I refuse to give up and go back!

Anyway, I don't know if that makes any sense to you but I thought I let you know that you are not the only with regrets. And maybe, that could be motivating to you...

[luckymommy]

Hello tryinghardtolose,
I really feel for you. It's really hard to stay on track. You obviously know how to do it, but it sounds like you do need to recommit. The thing is that I don't really have any great advice, but I do have a few questions.

Are you sure this is the right fit for you, this diet? What about it works? What doesn't? It took me lots of trial and error to find the one that is working for me now...although that might change over time and I might have to figure something else out. So, I guess my point is that maybe this diet is ideal, or maybe you can really evaluate and realize that some things about it are just not working anymore.

Also, is there a certain time of day when you seem to lose control the most? Are you aware of your triggers? What is going through your mind when you go off track? Maybe if you can pinpoint what is going on, maybe then, you can nip it in the bud and get back on track before your have self sabotaged?

Anyway, mostly, I just wanted to let you know that your post really touched me and I hope you will figure things out. You deserve to be happy and to reach your goal. I know you can do it! Believe in yourself!

Oh, are you working out? I couldn't do it without exercise.

[evoo]

I think mandalinn has made an important point, without motivation -- which is often some kind of discomfort with being overweight, whether it's mental or physical -- making a change is going to be incredibly hard to sustain for any substantial time frame. Take some pictures, get a physical and talk to you doctor about how your weight affects your health, make a list of the things you dislike about being overweight and/or the things in life you miss out on because of it. You need personal motivation to see you through the tough times. We can offer support, but not motivation. Motivation has to come from you.

Another thing is maybe a strict "diet" isn't for you. I can't diet. I just yo-yo and end up gaining it all back after I burn out -- plus some, usually. Instead I have to focus on choosing the foods that will give me the greatest benefit. I can have anything I want, I'm not on a diet -- but I make the choice to eat healthfully as much as possible because I know that will help me lose weight, feel better, live longer, etc.