I keep looking at my goal weight - 150 - and it just seems so outrageously far away. I think of 30 lbs as a lot to lose...and when all is said and done, I'm shooting for twice that! It seems so daunting. It makes me super nervous. Maybe once I reach onederland, it won't seem as far, but I doubt it.
How do you all cope with what seems to be a long road ahead?
i break it down to 5 or 10 lb increments. it seems much more doable. and i reward myself for each milestone, and celebrate it. I also dont just quit. Everyday is a new day.
try not to think of the big number but some mini goals along the way...
honestly I never had mini goals and I didnt necessarily have a goal weight til I joined this website... I just knew I wanted to lose weight... and I have lost almost 70 pounds without having mini goals...and I still have a ton to lose and I know that but eventually you get there...
take it one poud at a time..because sometimes the big picture is way too overwhelming... but think you can spend the time and focus on losing or you can give up and gain... that is how I always look at it... and next year I dont want to weigh more than I do today...so I stay on track so that next year I can look at a number and be happy about it and not sad about it
Last edited by HaleyisLove; 01-26-2010 at 03:45 PM.
I set mini goals myself. 5 lbs here, then reward. Though I really do like Haley's pound at a time philosophy. As I move further into unknown territory, I am adopting this more and more. I just want to see new lower numbers, even if its only a one pound drop.
Mini-goals are definitely the way to go. I celebrate milestones like onderland, BMI less than 30 (overweight), XX lbs lost, and the like. Breaking it up is a huge help, plus it helps to focus on that next obtainable goal rather than the 'big picture.'
I just want to see new lower numbers, even if its only a one pound drop.
Me too. I don't really set mini-goals but I just like to see new numbers. If it means .1 lb different, that's still .1 lb that I hadn't been able to get to before.
Maybe it would be helpful to set goals that aren't weight related too, if numbers seem overwhelming.
Things like eating 2 weeks on plan, losing a pants size, increasing your cardio time or being able to lift greater amounts of weight. You could pick your own goals, things that relate to a healthy lifestyle, not just numbers on the scale.
I like those BMI goals, good idea. I get so focused and impatient sometimes! It's a major weakness. I think I will do onederland (so close!), no longer obese, no longer overweight. I'm still getting settled into my fitness plan. It's been pretty consistent, but I'm adding a cardio boxing regimen, too, in the next week, to step it up a notch.
I really need to hide that scale, too, so I can't sneak peeks and get down on myself. I'll even occasionally step on it in the EVENING if I've felt I've had an extra good workout. That does not help with the goalsetting.
I hope to be safely and sturdily in onederland by 2/14. I think my reward will be a couple of glasses of wine.
yes, i agree. it does seem far away, i look at it that way too but mini-goals are definately the way to go! i have a v-day goal to get to 175. then i will set a st. pats goal. it also helps me when i get into the next level down. 170s... then 160s... every 10 pounds seems like an accomplishment in itself! and yes, i've learned to stay away from the scale! i did the same thing torwards the beginning...weighing in every day a few times a day. not good! but you've already lost so much... 11 pounds is grrrreat! keep thinking mini-goals!!
I just adopted the thinking that it took me 25 years to put the weight on, it was unrealistic to think that I could drop it all at once, it would take time and patience.
I also realized that the time was going to pass anyways, if i'm smaller than i was a month ago, even if it's a small amount, it's still a step in the right direction and a MUCH better scenario than the other possibilities of gaining more or just staying the same.
I keep looking at my goal weight - 150 - and it just seems so outrageously far away. I think of 30 lbs as a lot to lose...and when all is said and done, I'm shooting for twice that! It seems so daunting. It makes me super nervous. Maybe once I reach onederland, it won't seem as far, but I doubt it.
How do you all cope with what seems to be a long road ahead?
Good question. I started at basically your weight, and remember feeling the same way. 75 lbs just seemed so... HUGE! I think I just went decade by decade. First goal was to get to onederland, then the 180s, 170s, etc. I did give myself some challenges - 10 lbs by Memorial Day type of stuff. Sometimes that backfires on people, though, if they get down if they don't meet their goal. I find the opposite to be true, as long as I set a realistic goal for myself. And, I figure if I end the challenge at a lower weight than I began, then I still did a great job.
If you had asked me a year ago if I would be down nearly 70 lbs by January 2010, I would have been laughed. When you focus on short term goals, eventually they all add up into one big loss.
Yes I agree with the mini goals. We are so hard on ourselves and even though we are doing everything right and losing weight if we dont see that number we want we beat ourselves up. I would definitely set mini goals and reward urself when you reach them....it breaks up the long stretch and keeps you motivated to get to the next goal. Start with something small then gradually make your rewards bigger.
When I started my private, intensely personal project of losing weight, I did not at first have a goal weight or a total for the amount of pounds I hoped to lose. I was nearly "done" by the time I thought that stuff out.
My mantra was: "A little less. A little less." (Come to think of it, I sound like that Guardasil commercial: "One less.")
Anything less, I'd take. Anything lower than the last weigh-in the week before. If it was .1 or .3, I'd take it, quite humbly.
Because it was better than my doing nothing at all about it. And much, much better than going the other way. With such low expectations, even if it was the same as the previous week, it wasn't absolutely crushing.
In real life, when it comes to other things, I am a perfectionist. I am into goal-setting & achievement. But for this project, I had to beat that woman up, gag her with duct tape, tie her up & keep her captive in a corner. Even then I could hear her muffled curses at me & all the bad things she had to say.
For this one thing, it worked. Or rather, has been working.
How do you keep from getting overwhelmed?
