My super good friend came over this evening. I haven't seen her for like 3 months (she has a new job, holidays, schedules etc). We weighed the same before and over the holidays she just lost 20 lbs by doing NOTHING! They just FELL OFF!!! I totally love her but.... GAH!!! She doesn't know that I'm trying to lose weight so it's not like she was rubbing it in or anything. But I've been working so hard and I've only lost 10 and now after being sick and on bedrest my exercise regime is totally shot and I have to start over (because of my fibro one bump in the road screws me up for quite a while). I'm just so frustrated! It's not fair!!!! I just needed to complain. Thanks.
Chin up, buttercup! (My grandfather always used to say that to me when I was down)
Last year my twin sister lost 30 pounds right under my nose. One second we looked exactly the same and the next she was ALOT smaller than me. While she was losing, I was gaining. I found myself being so bitter because it seemed so easy for her. Then I started dieting and lost my first 10 pounds and realized it wasn't THAT hard. It's taken me over a year to lose as much as she lost in about 4 months but I lost it. I'm always comparing myself to other people but I'm starting to realize that instead of comparing the new her to the new me, I should compare the new me to the old me. There's so much more to be happy about there! Congrats on your 10 pounds by the way!
You've lost 10 pounds. I'll bet that there are some people you haven't seen in awhile who have been trying to lose weight and have stayed the same or gained. Focus on you. You've lost 10 pounds!
Congratulation on losing 10lb - your hard work is paying off!!
I`m always suspicious of women who lose weight and say that they are neither dieting nor have they been sick or changed their lifestyle. Frankly - I don`t believe them!
Ah... the dangerous web of comparing yourself to someone else. IMO, you lost 10lbs and that's nothing to take lightly. You worked your butt off and it showed. Be proud of what you've accomplished!
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Originally Posted by Stella
I`m always suspicious of women who lose weight and say that they are neither dieting nor have they been sick or changed their lifestyle. Frankly - I don`t believe them!
Actually I'm that person. I've never dieted before, EVER, but twice I lost 50+ pounds not even realizing it. I didn't notice that my clothes were loose and sure as heck didn't notice a difference when I looked in the mirror... until I went to see my Dad and he commented. It was only THEN that I noticed I had lost a crap ton of weight. Looking back, I still have absolutely no clue how it happened. I wasn't trying to lose weight, I didn't change the way I ate, nada. It just happened. So there ARE people out there who have lost weight and didn't change their lifestyle... although I'll agree that there are probably many people who don't want to admit that they did.
SN - I had the same thing happen to me when I moved away from home. I still ate fast food, I still ate what I wanted but I think the difference was I didn't snack as much, I was very active and my job kept me on my feet/constantly moving and I had a very active social life (which included dancing every weekend). One day I put on a pair of pants I hadn't tried on in a while and DANG... THEY FIT!!! I didn't notice a differenc though - yay body distortion.
MPS - Think about it this way ... 4 sticks of butter = a pound. So you've lost 40 sticks of butter. This is what 3 lbs of butter looks like so you do the math.
Thanks guys! I feel a lot better now. Realizing that I HAVE been working hard and it HAS been working is helping. Plus my friend probably has been working harder and just doesn't want to say anything! Nobody wants to admit that they have been working super hard to lose weight I guess. Back on track today!
1st of all, I love your username..My furbaby is a pitbull also.
My sister is the same way, and it really frustrates me. She has lost like 20lbs and she is LAZY. And here i am going to the gym 4-5 times per week and counting every calorie that goes in my mouth and i have lost nothing. Then she has the nerve to say to me, "You mean you actually TRY to lose weight?!" I just wanted to slap her. so i definitely can relate. I just ignore her when she brings up weight now... she may be losing weight, but I am getting healthy
jldsgirl, your pic is so freaking cute!!! When I can upload a picture you can see my adorable boys! One is all pit and one is pit/Chinese Shar-pei (he looks like a wrinkled old man). DOGS ARE THE BEST!!!
That stuff about your sister is so rude!! SO RUDE! My family is messed up for all kinds of reasons, but when I was a kid they pegged me "the fat one" even though I weigh less than everyone except my 74 year old grandmother (who is TINY). RIDICULOUS!!
thanks, Jessie's my baby, lol. I went to your profile and was able to see your pic, your dogs are beautiful! Mine is preggy right now and getting ready to have pit/rottie mix pups any day now. I can't wait to see them, lol.
As far as my sis goes, she is so self-centered it makes me (and everyone else in the family) sick. Growing up I was always the thinner sister, but unfortunately I am now the fattest person in my family. Oh well, karma's a b**** and someday it will smack her right in the face.
Was it really that she did nothing, or did she eat nothing? You never know how someone lost weight, if they have really been trying hard and just want to brush it off as it was nothing, or if they haven't been watching their health and the weight came off. A year ago I lost 20 lbs doing "nothing", but in reality I kept catching the stomach flu and my body used whatever energy it could find. I got a lot of compliments on my weight, but my metabolism was so shot it came back on more than double. Basically, you worked hard to get what you want, and if you keep doing it it will come off and stay off. You never know what will happen to someone else.
I'm doing much better now I lost some more weight and I know I'm on the right track. And I'm happy for her really, it's just hard when I wanted it so bad! I'm usually not a jealous person so it's hard to deal with when that emotion does come up!
Frustrated!!
