Don't you love those people who know you're on a diet or making healthier choices in live who give you junk to eat?
There's this girl at work who know's i'm trying to lose weight and eat healthier who told me today the most my body will go down to is 170 because I look mostly muscle because there is no way I could possibly weight what I weight because I don't look like it.
So then she pulls out cinnamon rolls, buys me a pepsi and some pasta for lunch. Yeah it might look like she's being nice doing all of this, but those type of people do you ever wonder if they're doing it because they don't want you to succeed because they wouldn't have the ambition to do what you're doing?
Does everyone have a person like that in their life at this moment, or any moment of your weight loss journey?
My dear husband went to get gas and brought me home a pop and a candy bar. I looked at him and said, "what the %*@^ are you doing to me?" He just said he forgot.
I have those people too, one of which is my ex best friend. I think their motivation is that they're not able (emotionally) to do what you're doing, and they don't want you to beat them at the game. It blows over, and I think the best way to deal with it is to try and help her be happier with herself too, be the bigger person :-)
Eh I wouldn't have accepted the food. I always bring my lunch to work or get a salad from el pollo loco. My coworkers used to ask me all the time "wanna get lunch" and I'd say "nope I'm good, thanks though."
They finally got the hint and stop inviting me unless it's someone's bday or something lol.
I don't have anyone like that thank goodness! My DH is very supportive and is eating better too. Same with other family members.
My students at work offer me candy and I say no thanks.. I can't handle the sugar! They laugh and give it to someone else.
I wouldn't have eaten it either.. sounds like she is just being negative and doesn't want you to succeed. Maybe she is just jealous? That you are doing this and she doesn't have the same will power as you do?
I wouldn't have eaten it either.. sounds like she is just being negative and doesn't want you to succeed. Maybe she is just jealous? That you are doing this and she doesn't have the same will power as you do?
She's a very decieving women, comes across as sweet and nice, baking cookies for everyone but the second she can turn on you she will. Then it's back to baking cookies and pretending like you're best friends...I learned from personal experience but since she is my co-worker and I am stuck with her 12hours on two of my 4 shifts I play along it's hard to just walk away and ignore her. So if you can't beat them, not exactly join them but play along with their dumb games haha.
i'm orthodox christian, and we fast from meat & dairy during lent... i dont talk about it much because it's personal, i dont want to put myself up there like, "ooo look at me im not eating meat or dairy for 40 days" but some of my non-orthodox (and non-supportive... as many of my non-orthodox friends dont see a problem with it) peers know that i fast. they dont make any mention of it, but as soon as lent starts, they invite me out to eat at steak & shake or something lol. im like....... really??? i dont know what it is about people being restrictive about their food intake, but other people just want to see them fail. it's really pathetic, i think.
i have people like this in my life but what saves me is i can see what they are doing..Its like reading between the lines in a sence. Your very lucky to know her game and not be fooled. But like you said you work with her so you gotta grin and bear it. What i do if i absolutly dont want to bring up the diet part is ill take it and say im saving it for later then i throw it away when i get home..Then they get the satisfaction of having thought i ate it and i prove to myself that i can face her again another day,,lol
Buy her a bag of celery and an unsweetened ice tea for lunch, as a thank you.
Does she have a weight issue? Is her advice unsolicited? Some people just wear me out.
I'm lucky not to have people like that around me, but I do work with family and volunteers, who we need to feed. I just want to eat my calorie counted, weighed and measured food on my own, but we somehow have gotten into the annoying habit of having to prepare something for everyone to eat together. It makes it hard to stay on plan without seeming rude or ungrateful when someone else has prepared something. I guess this is just practice for the long-term maintenance...
I think part of it might be that food is how people relate to each other in our culture. When I first went gluten free, I couldn't eat out at ALL and I still don't eat food from home kitchens (only 2 restaurants that I will eat at) and most people just couldn't wrap their heads around it. EVERY gesture seems to involve food (ya'll know that LOL). IMHO she's sabotaging you because you can be fun, happy, and sociable without the food. People want to be around you without the draw of food. She can't. Go you!
I don't really have people around me who are like that. I've been offered junk, but not in a sabotaging sort-of way. For example, there has been a couple times my mom has called and asked us to come over for pizza. Or my grandma invites us over for dinner (which we all know how grandma's cook!). But I've never taken it in a negative way...I know they're not like that.
I will have to admit that I've done the same type of thing...but in the opposite way. I've caught myself criticizing what my friends/family members are eating. But I don't mean to do it...not in a mean way at least. For example, I went to lunch with my 2 best friends...I always look up the calorie info on restaurant food before I go...so when one of my friends ordered something that was loaded with calories, I was like "omg, do you know how many calories are in that?!" I wasn't trying to be mean when I said it...but I'm sure it probably sounded really bad. She didn't get mad about it or anything...she knows I would never intentionally be mean like that. But since then, I've been making a better effort to keep my mouth shut about things like that...unless asked.
I'm having to get used to this kind of thing.. We can change ourselves, but we can't change others. Honestly, they might not be intentionally doing this, but it is possible (I'm not throwing that out). I think the one thing we have to change about ourselves is to build an iron will power to say "no". I say this, but I can't say "no" each and every time, either. My boyfriend is always offering me sweets. When we go to the Japanese food court, I have to buy my lunch first. I will pick something healthy like sushi or salad (5-600kcal) and he will get a monstrous meal of a giant ramen bowl and cake. (probably well over 1.5kcal) My grandma knows I'm watching my weight, but offers me icecream, cookies, mini eclairs, etc. Although I can't say she does this on purpose- but more out of habit. My grandparents will offer wine to a recovered alcoholic. They are just very, very dense about people's specific temptations. I would make it known to you're friend, in a nice way, that you can't eat these foods anymore. Tell a little white lie? Tell her you need to watch your blood sugars? Take them home and say "wow I can't possibly finish this all now, my diet teaches me to appreciate smaller sizes, but I can't wait to have it later", and then when you get home QUICKLY pass it along to someone else like your hubby, kids, garbage can, etc. Good luck !!
I work with 2 women that are always wanting to lose weight but they always have candy and junk food sitting around. Luckily they bring their lunches for the most part so I don't have to worry about lunch. We used to all go out to lunch and if I'd order a salad they'd try to convince me to get what they ordered since it's so good. It's frustrating when it feels like people are sabotaging you.
She's a very decieving women, comes across as sweet and nice, baking cookies for everyone but the second she can turn on you she will. Then it's back to baking cookies and pretending like you're best friends...I learned from personal experience but since she is my co-worker and I am stuck with her 12hours on two of my 4 shifts I play along it's hard to just walk away and ignore her. So if you can't beat them, not exactly join them but play along with their dumb games haha.
Its good you know how she ticks! Haha.. I am a teacher and the majority of my co-workers are women. Its sad, but I learned REALLY fast who my true friends were. Gotta be careful what you say to who because it will travel and get all twisted and turn into this horrible mess!
I have friends and family too that will invite me out to eat.. just to be nice and want to hang out. Lots of times they forget I am being very strict with my eating.
My mother-in-law loves to cook so that is always a struggle because her food is GOOD! lol
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