is EVERYONE only here to lose baby weight? goodness!
It seems like everywhere I look women are only trying to lose their baby weight.
and .. for me its not that at all. I'd love to find someone in my situation.
so.. here's my situation.
I'm 22, have always been overweight, and have noooo kids! haha
I am just sick of being overweight, and all my friends getting hit on, while im left to just be.. the friend.
my friends are gorgeous, and they all tell me i am, but its easy when people are thin to be like.. why do you care what other people think!?
it would be nice to talk to someone who gets the looks i do, or never gets asked out because of her size. or just feels gross even walking out of the house because of her appearance.
I think you will find LOTS of people in your shoes. Everywhere. I think it's just more common for people to refer their weight gain to "baby weight"... I was not one of them, though. I was just tired of a lifetime of being fat.
Stick around and you will see that you are definitely not alone
No baby weight for me! Just poor decisions and not caring enough about myself.
There are tons of people here in both situations. But no matter where we're coming from, we're all trying to commit to getting healthier, whether for our babies or for ourselves.
So welcome, and I hope you find some people you can connect with!
No baby weight here but again, I think we allll know how it feels to be heavier than we desire. I think you'll find plenty of support here so it doesn't really matter how any of us put the weight on; we need to focus on how to get it off!
Good luck!
yep. I'm 20, no kids, have been overweight all my life. I've actually LOST all of my friends because my weight (among other things) has kept me from wanting to even leave the house... so I definitely get where you're coming from.
So glad you are getting your priorities in order at an early age. I so wish I had done the same. I have been overweight all my life....and I cant blame baby weight that's for sure...just the opposite. I blame my weight for the fact that I am 42 and have no babies...
So stick with it girl and hang with us. Take it from the older girl you DONT want to be...still single and overweight 2o years later.
Get this done and live the life you were meant to live.
I think you will find many women on here especially in the 20 somethings who are trying to lose baby weight but, there are many who are on here because they have been overweight their whole life with no children. like me! haha
I am 19 almost 20 and like you I was just sick and tired of diets, losing, gaining back and being the fattest of my friends ALWAYS.
I am in college and I live in a sorority house so I can completely relate to you and your gorgeous friends, I never feel good enough! I always feel so self conscious around them especially when we are shopping or getting ready etc.
I have never been asked out because of my size until this year and it has been very hard. Let me tell you it does NOT get any easier (at least for me with my various insecurities) when men do start to ask me out. I feel like all men are scum when someone does hit on me now because they obviously did not like me before. I know that is one of the many reasons I lost the weight... to get men to want to date me but its hard! I never feel like its true, like they are joking or pulling my leg. I still feel so ugly and think that I look over 200 pounds. But those are my issues that I need to deal with.
Anyway sorry for rambling I would just like to say this IS a unique community where yes many women are here to lose baby weight but that doesnt mean that they cannot relate to me and my struggles. I love this place and it has made a world of difference for me. So welcome! It is nice to see another person similar to me on the board
Well my baby is 2.5 yrs old so Im way past the losing baby weight stage lol. I still get hit on a lot even though Im heavy and MARRIED lol. I think its more of my pesonality that just makes me so approachable. Of course I turn the guys down, Im happily married. You will get to your goal weight eventually and then your friends are gonna have to step there game up because your gonna be the one with the smoking body
Gosh it's my pet peeve when women talk about how they've popped out 3 kids so *of course* their bodies don't look like Heidi Klum's. Or when that Lizzie Miller photo of her belly roll in Glamour came out, and everyone was all like "I love that photo! That's what my belly looks like after 6 kids!!" I'm sure this is true and all, and maybe I'll have a different perspective when I have kids, but it's like, I'm 25 and have never had kids and that's what my belly looks like!!! Is it only ok to have a belly roll after you've had kids??
Gosh it's my pet peeve when women talk about how they've popped out 3 kids so *of course* their bodies don't look like Heidi Klum's. Or when that Lizzie Miller photo of her belly roll in Glamour came out, and everyone was all like "I love that photo! That's what my belly looks like after 6 kids!!" I'm sure this is true and all, and maybe I'll have a different perspective when I have kids, but it's like, I'm 25 and have never had kids and that's what my belly looks like!!! Is it only ok to have a belly roll after you've had kids??
My stomach smiles at me when I sit down
I'm just one step ahead of the game when the time comes for babies!
hollywoodkat-
I'm here to lose life weight as well. I've been obese since God knows when! And yes, I've had all those horrible negative thoughts that you expressed about yourself. I still have those thoughts at times. But I'm really working on trying to be positive toward myself. How can I ever be happy if I keep tearing myself down? It's hard at first, but I really recommend you try to stop that negative self-talk! I've had mulitple guys tell me that my lack of confidence is far more unattractive than my fat. And it's true, when I'm in a good mood, I get hit on (not by the guys I want yet but we're moving up here )!
is EVERYONE only here to lose baby weight? goodness!
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