[better health3]

I lost 5 lbs last week, and am starting to feel nervous about Thanksgiving and thereafter. I do have a plan. I don't understand why I have allowed BED to go on for so long in my life, when it truly doesn't make me happy? It is revolting and so very unhealthy on so many various levels. I keep repeating-- waist circumference 35 inches to be healthier--less risk for a heart attack.

I am sad that I can't "do that" anymore. I have to take it day by day. I don't want to be stuck anymore. I just want to be at peace with my body, instead of, this constant war raging....all or nothing. I want that to cease. I posted because right now I want to numb out on food--I am not hungry. I need to go to bed. Good luck everyone. This can be such a pain in the arse sometimes. I can't wait until this week is over.

Have a Happy Thanksgiving.

[paris81]

I feel you. Why do we do this to ourselves? It doesn't make sense. Food doesn't solve the problems, relieve the stress, or make us happier. It's a way to self-sooth that isn't very effective.

Yesterday, I was thinking to myself, "I just want to sooth myself, and I only know how to do that with food!" I was tired and stressed, and not feeling good about myself overall--and all I know to do in those situations is turn to food, which helps for five seconds, but then after that only accentuates the problem.

I guess we need to learn how to sooth ourselves without food. I don't know how to do this.

Good luck to you too! Thanksgiving is a nice time to be with family. Break bread with people who are important. Hopefully we can think about that, instead of all the hard parts of it! (The stress of being with family, of being with people who are important to you!)

[luckymommy]

It's funny (not haha funny, but sad funny) that you mentioned not being able to sooth ourselves any other way. I agree with you completely. Sometimes, nothing helps to sooth except food. I wanted to chime in to say that one day, I had a (rare) appointment for a massage. I was really hungry, but decided that I would eat afterwards, because I didn't have time to grab a snack. I got the massage and when it was over, I was not hungry anymore! To me, that was proof that my hunger was really not true hunger and that I couldn't really tell the difference. Now, if only I could afford a massage every time I'm hungry!

[jendiet]

TG and Christmas have alot of psychological components...ie. stressors from unresolved family issues while taking part in an idealized family setting---I Think we are all being pushed harder than we realize and IT'S NOT JUST about food.

and we do need to find other coping mechanisms for this stress.

I have had back to back migraine headaches due to stress and cycle. I also tend to binge when I know one is coming on, as an effort to soothe the pain--I messed up a few days ago. But I kicked yesterday's with a soothing hot bath.