[loveLauren]

So, I'm in a bit of a prediciment tonight. A girl from work invited me and my boyfriend to spent the evening with her family. Normally, I wouldn't mind doing such things, but me and this co-worker only recently started getting on better terms. And while we're able to work and get along together, she still does things that drive me insane and often are mean.

She constantly talks about how much hotter she is than me, telling me I shouldnt get contacts because it would make me more attractive than her and the real icing on the cake was when she came into work and told me I looked better from in front of the deli counter because you can't see my flaws. Not to mention she spreads my business like wildfire, tries taking my hours(but complains when she gets them) and yesterday she told a customer she saw another women beating her child.(which was a vicious lie)

I didnt tell her I would come over, but she seems so excited about it, I'm a little torn. Any advice?

[beautifulmess]

Whoa. She sounds like a nightmare. I wouldn't go if I were you...the dinner might end up being a wreck. What if she just ends up making you feel worst by making hurtful remarks like that? On the other hand, if you're boyfriend is with you, I'm sure she won't be so mean. And if she is, speak up. Tell her to knock it off. No one deserves to be pushed around that way! some people can be so inconsiderate. Good luck.

[Thighs Be Gone]

I missed it somewhere in there I know. Why are you going to hang with her again--and pull your bf along too? Not no, but **** no!

[JulieJ08]

Ah yeah, I would *not* start socializing outside of work with this person. That is BS.

[aneleh]

I would just tell her that your life has been really busy after work lately, and politely decline. She probably would ask for more details but I'd refrain from talking about my private life with a person like that.

[CurvaceousCutie]

I wouldn't go, i mean if she spreads news like wildfire and something happens with all of u guys hanging out, im sure she would spread that. just tell her u cant go u had a prior engagement.

[stellarosa27]

I would say don't go. I had a co-worker who was just like this and I learned the hard way that I shouldn't have socialized with her outside of work. Just politely decline and do something else with your bf.

[Jelbb]

Hmm. She sounds like my cousin. My cousin spent our childhood belittling me, and treating me like crap.
The strange thing is tho... looking back at our childhood together.... I realized that my cousin was never INTENTIONALLY malicious. I think she just didn't realize what kind of hurtful moronic things were coming out of her mouth.

It's very possible that this girl is just... incredibly dim-witted and thick, and doesn't realize the things she says to you are horrible and hurtful. I can't see why else she would invite you over for a social occasion... she MUST think you're friends.

That being said... if my mother hadn't put the two of us together when we were kids, I probably wouldn't've willingly socialized with my cousin, as she was rude, and made me feel bad. So I don't know why you would socialize with this girl outside of work out of a sense of obligation. If she makes you feel bad about yourself with her b!tchtastical comments... why would you put up with that?

Whatever you decide... we're behind ya.

[loveLauren]

thanks everyone. i've decided not to go. todays my last day off for the week and i dont want to spend my night somewhere i dont want to be. i never told her i would go, i just gave a hesitant 'maybe'. she took it and ran.

i dont know if she knows what she says is distasteful and mean or if thats just her way of joking. she've very petite and a few inches shorter than me with two small children. (she's a self proclaimed MILF. lol) whenever she acts *****y, she always follows with a 'oh i'm just teasing hun' or be dead serious during the backhanded compliment and then laugh it off. so i dont know if she means it or not

[Kyla0709]

I used to have a "friend" like this girl you know. They are the type of people who have incredibly low confidence and therefore have to make other people feel bad about themselves. It's one thing knowing you're hot, it's another to throw it in everyone's face. The girl I was friends with actually tried to make a move on my husband (then boyfriend) Drop this girl like a bad habit.

[JulieJ08]

Originally Posted by loveLauren

whenever she acts *****y, she always follows with a 'oh i'm just teasing hun' or be dead serious during the backhanded compliment and then laugh it off. so i dont know if she means it or not

Uh yeah, people that do that *know* what they're doing. It's quite nasty - not only be mean, but then blame the other person for being too sensitive. No, there is nothing innocent about that.