My SO loves to jiggle me. I love the attention and his touch. However, when he jiggles me after I am all sweaty from doing my weight training--I get emotional...
I think along these lines : is he checking to see if I lost all of my fun parts? Do I want to firm up? Will he still play with my body like this? Or is he trying to point out to me I am still flabby???
He especially loves to jiggle my butt when I am laying on my stomach..maybe tmi...which I love.
the other day I was talking to him...and he started trying to pinch the fat off my sides...and he kept pinching harder and harder..like he couldn't believe it was shrinking..I promptly smacked him...but...
Is he testing me? In the back of my mind, I am scared if I lose the weight he will go find a more fun to jiggle girl. Is that funny or what?
For myself, while I love butt jiggling, jiggling any of the rest of me is deeply embarrassing and intrusive and feels inappropriate - but I know I'm weird, so maybe that doesn't help much!
My overall feeling is if a man wants me to be fat and would leave if I wasn't fat then... leave.
I know my husband loves me however I am and accepts the changes to my body, both good and bad. I've also talked to him about the various issues in losing weight, body changes, dietary changes, etc etc.
My overall feeling is if a man wants me to be fat and would leave if I wasn't fat then... leave.
I know my husband loves me however I am and accepts the changes to my body, both good and bad. I've also talked to him about the various issues in losing weight, body changes, dietary changes, etc etc.
ITA! I would substitute lots of words for fat, too. If a man is gonna leave me because I am not a 32D, then leave. If he is gonna leave me because I'm tall, then leave. If he is gonna leave me because I'm too fat, then leave. If he is gonna leave me because I don't remove body hair, then leave. Blah, blah, blah and so on. It's a self-respect thing.
In your situation, OP, it sounds like he is simply expressing wonder at your body. No need to overthink it IMO.
My overall feeling is if a man wants me to be fat and would leave if I wasn't fat then... leave.
I know my husband loves me however I am and accepts the changes to my body, both good and bad. I've also talked to him about the various issues in losing weight, body changes, dietary changes, etc etc.
Yes!
Talk to him and ask him....this is the only way I think you'll be able to put your fears to rest. My DH has never tried to jiggle anything on me and I don't know if he'd have his arm attached if he tried
lol..ddc. I think that is more or less why he does it. Well I have been with him at my thinnest (adult) and at my highest weight. Maybe he just thinks it is amusing. He has no fat on his body really at all. He told me once he didn't want to feel like he was holding himself.
thanks ladies. It is kind of annoying after I'm sore from a workout--and he's jiggling the flab Im trying to get rid of in amusement! lol. However, it is also a massage! What was I complaining for?
I wouldn't read too much into it -- sometimes we like to read too much into what our guys do when they're just acting in the moment.
At any rate, don't worry about your SO leaving you if you lose weight. My fiance likes bigger gals, but he thinks I'm hotter now than I was when I was heavier...probably because I'm more confident, so I show off in sexy clothes a lot more. hehe
Since he's been with you at your thinnest and biggest, he might just be trying to reassure you that he still wants to touch you no matter what your size. And to that I'd say "**** Yeah!!"
Last edited by Operator265; 07-16-2009 at 03:02 AM.
If it bothers you, ask him to stop. If he stops, he respects you; if he doesn't stop, there's a problem. But it sounds like what PP said, that he's trying to reassure you that he likes you with your jiggle-able-ness.
lol! Julie that's so true. Sometimes when I'm talking to him I can see it in his eyes that he wishes he could tune me to the race channel--through my nipples!
does anybody else feel this way?
