[jarheadwed]

Hello, I am new to this forum.

A little background info, first:
I was always skinny before. Up to age 21, I was a twig. I had an incredible figure, and wore a size five. My weight gain started when I was engaged to a man I eventually broke it off with. At the end of the relationship, I had gained 30 pounds. The break-up was a wonder diet and I was soon down to a size eight, which I consider a realistic size. However, in a two years span I have gained 40 pounds, several dress sizes, and a low self-esteem.

Here are my biggest obstacles:
1. I never excercise. My husband is a Sgt in the Marine Corps, fit and trim, and it makes me even more depressed, as I am the frumpy lumpy wife. And being depressed makes me not want to excercise, it makes me want to crawl into my shell.
2. I have "accepted" that I am destined to be fat, because my mother is very overweight too.
3. I am obsessed with food. I eat constantly. I eat to the point of feeling sick. I cram in as much food as possible at dinner. I am always worried at social events that there won't be enough food, or if I'll be able to get enough without people raising eyebrows. I crave food like its a drug. I hide what I eat from my husband (because he's so stupid he doesn't notice a birthday cake magically getting smaller??? yeah right)

I am at my heaviest I have ever been, heavier than my now overweight mother was at my age- and she had two kids. I have none. How big will I be after a pregnancy??

I have to stop. I know what I need to do- get off my duff and eat less. I just can't seem to find the motivation. What works for you all?

[mariamherrera]

the great news is your catching it now before it gets too outta control so kudos to you for that! You couldn't imagine how hard it gets once you've went into your 200's or like some of us our 300's it's miserable! right now your not to bad off so that's a great thing! you only have about 40 lbs to loose! Awesome! I bet you could do that in 3-5 months! If you find a good health plan- I suggest calorie counting it's great for me . I still get to eat the foods I love just in more portioned controlled healthy versions! and then combine that with plenty of water and exercise the weight will fall off of you! and were all here for support if you need us!

Just think by summer time you could be at your goal! I'm envious! you can be an a sexy slinky bikini!

Do it now! you can do this! you will do this!

[ProteinGal]

jarheadwed!

I agree with the poster above, its good that you're doing something now .

All the best towards your goal!

[Iianae]

I agree with Mariamherrera! You've realized you have a problem before you problem becomes a disaster! It gets harder and harder the heavier you get! I too am very envious of you, you can do this NO PROBLEM! Just keep coming here, THINK POSITIVE! Positive things happen to positive thinkers! Envision yourself how you want to be and you will get there! We are all here to help!

Jennifer

[midwife]

Welcome to 3FC!! I'm glad you're here!!

Your post really struck home for me, cause I never thought I was an exerciser, both of my parents are morbidly obese and I wondered if I was genetically doomed, and I was/am a compuslive overeater.

However!!! There is hope!!! There is a way out of this quagmire!

Baby steps, my friend.

You do not need to be as active as a Marine to exercise. Many women here have had success with the Walking Away the Pounds videos to start with. Baby steps. I was a totally unathletic kid, teen, and in my 20s....at the ripe old age of 33 I ran a half marathon, at 35 I ran another one and beat my time at age 33 by half an hour! There is hope. It is NEVER too late.

You are NOT doomed to obesity. What you eat and how you move will influence your weight. Not to say there is not a genetic component, but it sounds like your food habits have more to do with your weight than you parents' weights.

So, the food issue might be the toughest. Some folks seek counseling for compulsive behaviors and you might consider that. There is great support here at 3FC. Cruise down to the Chicks in Control forum for great support. The thing to remember is---you will not be "perfect"....you will backslide....we all do....but pick yourself up and keep trying....We are here for you!