I have igoogle and I put my weight tracker on there as a motivational tool, well today I had it up at work and one of the women I work with saw it and I started to explain what it was, before I could finish she was like "that's unrealistic, 82lbs to lose, you need to start out with a smaller goal", and "exactly how are you planning on doing this" before I knew it she was telling everyone else who of course had their opinions. I started to defend myself and then I thought why, they are supposed to be my friends a little support would be nice. Why do people have to do act like that?
Because like so many ugly nellies I have known in the past, they are naysayers that are jealous you may get a leg up on them. MY ADVICE? Go for it. Get your groove back and shake it like salt shakah.
I had mini goals, but I ALWAYS kept my big goal in mind...and knowing where you're coming from and where you're going is a -good- thing.
Ignore her. Some people feel the need to give all kinds of advice that isn't wanted or needed, probably to make themselves feel important.
I shut down unwanted advice with "Interesting. I'll keep that in mind." It makes no commitment that you'll change anything, but doesn't give people anything to argue with (whereas saying something like "that's ridiculous" or "I'd never do that" opens up the possibility of discussion.
But really, forget her. You absolutely can lose 82 pounds. You can lose every pound you set your mind (and efforts) to losing. I am living proof. You are starting to very similar stats to mine, same height and all. Here I am, nearing in on 80 lbs. lost. Keep working at it, don't get discouraged, and good for you for deciding on your lifestyle change!
She will eat her words when she begins to see your amazing progress.
82 lbs is unrealistic? Oh... well then I better just gain back 20+ pounds.
I agree with some already well-given advice. The old "Hrm. I'll have to think about that." gets rid of naysayers quickly. It's especially delightful to say it when you're really thinking "Bah! You have no clue what you're talking about."
Absolutely, ignore her. Like Amanda - I put my ticker goal up on my very first day (we could back then). I NEVER lost sight of that goal. Mini goals are great motivational tools, and I celebrated every 5 lb loss (look at how many chickies put up emoticons for every 5 or 10 lbs to show their progress), but having a long term goal is a very positive thing.
You GO girl - and you CAN lose 80+ lbs. And we are here to you on!
Maybe she's jealous that you are actually doing something for YOU. Or many she knows she has something to change and she felt the need to criticize what you ARE changing. Good luck and keep up with your goals!! NO MATTER HOW BIG!
Why can't people just say good luck?
you on!
