Yeah, I think you're overthinking this.
Pick what works for YOU and what you LIKE. I love cheese. It's truly one of my passions. Really good artisan cheeses. Aged sharp cheddar. A really rich creamy blue. A deep smoky gouda. Slivers of aged parmigiana-reggiano over bruschetta ... mmmmm
So I eat real, whole fat cheese in reasonable quantities. One serving of cheese is usually about an ounce, so that's what I do. I budget my calories for 1 ounce or sometimes 2 ounces of full fat, wonderful cheese.
For some people, cheese isn't that important. They use it as an ingredient or as a source of protein but they don't really care about the subtleties of flavor of a great cheese. For them, a reduced fat version might be a better option.
I don't choose my cheese based on what has the lowest calories, or which is healthiest, because when it comes to cheese those aren't things that I care about.
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