Alright so I really feel like I need to get everything off of my chest to make me feel better. For those of you who have been helping me through all of this i appreciate it more then you can know.
Ok so I am a 24 year old single mother of an almost 2 year old who has never met his biological father. I recently moved back to michigan(into my parents house) from nevada away from the man I was going to marry. We were together for 2 1/2 years and it was a really hard decision that we made together for us to not be together anymore and for me to move back home. So I moved back home in the beginning of november and have been slowly creeping my way back into getting my bills paid on time. Also I have been trying to diet again after gaining back the weight I had lost in september/october. I am officially down 10 lbs and looking forward to more loss. Today I talked to my ex and he said that he was interested in someone and that they have been talking and I felt happy for him.....he asked me to guess who and I had no clue. Well then he tells me it is my best friend Crista who also lives here in michigan. I was like oh thats cool....she is a really awesome person. But now I feel like I am just this fat single mom who will never get any guys attention, and my ex and my best friend are totally hitting it off....2500 miles apart!!.
I do have this mini crush on a guy that we (me and crista) work with who over the summer Crista had kind of dated but not officially. He has a girlfriend and we hung out about a week ago and I was really wasted and hit on him. I apologized and he said he was cool with it. (his girlfriend is somewhere else in the state and they rarely see each other) UGh the stress I tell ya. And on top of that I live like 30-45 minutes out of town with my parents....royal suckage. I just want to wake up and be skinnier and healthier and be happy with myself!!
On top of that I have to refile for child support all over again because I changed states and my case was still pending.
Anyway, If you made it through all of that haha I need some cheese to go with my whine!!

geeze. You are going through a lot! Even though I have never been in your situation, I feel the best thing to do is to stop and take an inventory of your life. What is positive? Negative? What is best for you and your son? What needs to be changed? After you have a clear picture. It should be easier for you to make decisions about your future.

And about the ex and the best friend---- you are way forgiving to be so cool!

Don't worry about being a single mom and finding guys. The perfect man for you will not care that you have a son. Matter of a fact, he will love him as his own. Don't settle for some loser. Make sure he is Mr. Right!!!

Good Luck! We are always here for you!

i agree that ur being wayyy too cool about this whole ex/best friend thing. it's not like this guy was some casual fling ya'll had a relationship that was headed towards the altar. i'm not trying to make u feel worse but she is a beyotch for one flirting with ur ex and for two u having to hear it from him. she should have told u. u just moved out in november it's way too soon for them to be forming a love connection.

200 lbs is not some grossly overweight stomach turning weight. girl get out there and meet someone who deserves u. fix urself up and carry urself with some confidence. i am a true believe that if u feel good in ur skin, fix ur hair, fix ur makeup and u go out with the attitude that u r the hottest girl in the room there r going to b a line of guys who feel that way too.

good luck to u.

Well I am not sure exactly if SHE is flirting with him or not....we were all really good friends and all worked together beforehand. I know that he told me today that he was interested in her, but that doesn't necessarily mean that she is interested in him. And he lives so far away that its not like they can go on dates. But she really is an awesome person and I told him that he needed to move on...I just want him to be happy ....but I dont want my best friend to end up moving far away from me lol...maybe thats selfish!

You ... are gorgeous. You're only feeling this way because of tough situations.

Just remember this is a brief period of your life NOT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Take the time to be the person you want to be and all else will fall into place.

o okay i'm sorry i interpretted ur "they r hitting it off" as they had mutual feelings for each other. it is easier to replace a man than a best friend and i know that but it will all work out for u.

People come and go from our lives for a reason. He is not there for a reason, and any girl that could knowingly go after someone you just dated for 2+ years... certainly is no one to call a real friend. That's actually pretty inconsiderate on both of their behalfs... but what can you do? I have a lot of faith that someday, a kind, gentle, respecting, (and good looking) man will come into your life. I hope he is the partner you need and the father figure that your child needs. Try to stay positive. Especially when you feel you have no one else, you will always have us and your beautiful child.

agreed

I'm sorry you are going through so much and its great you are getting on top of things financially again! I think its amazing you were able to pick up and leave to move back across country, the power mothers have to do whats right for their children is amazing! You are stronger than you are giving yourself credit for, stay positive, keep working out and eating like you have and you'll approaching your goal in no time. I just have one question: how did you get your man to agree to breaking up!? Even when you love eachother. Thats what I'm trying to do right now with my man and I can't shake the fool. Still love him, can't be with him anymore!

I just wanted to add a little side note. You are a beautiful, strong person bringing up a little boy! What guy wouldn't want that? For me I met my guy at 364 pounds and living with my mother, buried in depression. The right guy comes into your life right at the right time. And waiting for him was SO beyond worth it. I would've waited for him till the day I was supposed to die. So it'll happen for ya, and everyday you wait for him, will just make the day you meet him that much more special.

You must be a really forgiving person being cool with the possibility that something would arise between your best friend and almost-husband. I'd totally flip if that happened. I can understand that this is a hard time for you... and that the added troubles of watching what you eat and exercising enough may be a little too much alltogether. I don't have any awesome advice for you, decent weight loss may help you to feel better about yourself and your situation. Maybe you'll become more confident and that will definitely help in meeting someone else! Good luck and we're here for you

Kelli- Well he knew it was what I had to do and he wasn't really okay with it...he would call me like 15 times a day and leave messages and cry and tell me that he couldn't live without me and I told him that maybe he just needed to get out of the house and do something...hang out with people..go on a date etc. He got mad that I would say that but hey you gotta move on...not jjust sulk all day long.
I talked to my best friend last night and they like talking to each other...she was really afraid to tell me but didn't want to hide it. I just want my ex to be happy and she is a great person....now if he would have liked someone I didn't approve of I think I would be a little hurt...but I totally look up to her so hey why stop something that could be great for them!

Sounds like you've really been through a lot! I don't know about for you but breakups are always difficult, no matter how mutual they are. You are still changing your norm, and what your used to. Not to mention you've changed states, I'm assuming jobs, etc. As far as your ex and your best friend..I agree you are incredibly cool about that factor in itself!! My ex and I split after almost 7 years last november, my heartbreaking decision. It STILL hurts, even though I have an amazing guy I've been involved with for almost a year. About six months after we split he stated dating somebody new and she was a very pretty slim girl (she's gaining weight rapidly though..is it horrible of me to feel better about that??LOL) Kind of made me feel less than stellar so to speak. I saw your pics though you are gorgeous!!! If I was a guy I'd hit on you Seriously though, just try to focus on yourself, and making yourself feel good right now. You've got a whole lot on your plate with everything, and I give you a lot of props!

I have a feeling thats what I'll be going through when I finally get it through his head we're over. We broke up the other night but he literally went NUTS and I was like I can't deal with this right now so I just backed down and I'll do it when the time is right, after I move and we're apart. I think its great how you feel about your friend and your ex. Thats some serious strength girl. It takes a big person to be able to feel that away about the situation. I hope that you continue to feel that way if they decide to be together, although 2500 mile apart relationship won't be easy, which is essentially why you two broke up? He'll find a girl closer to him once he gets his confidence back.. I personally think he needs a rebound, especially if he acted that way when you left.