[dkneec19]

First let me say, this is just basically a rant. feel free to give me support or yell at me, or whatever after you read this. I just have to get it out and hold myself accountable for my actions.

I took the day off of work today. I wanted a 4 day weekend I had big plans, was going to wake up my usual time, hit the gym, do my weights have the entire day for catching up on chores, reading, movie watching whatever.

I ended up sleeping untill 10 (holy crap.. I went to bed at midnight. 10 hours of sleep???!?!?!) I felt groggy when I woke up so I immediately beat myself up for this.

Then my friend called and said she was getting off of work at 1o and asked if I wanted to hang out, have lunch and watch a movie. I agreed. I asked her if she maybe wanted to go to the gym for a swim and she said she'd definately think about it.

Swimming didn't happen. And she was 2 hours later..so I wasted 2 hours doing nothing. We made red curry( I did good. Half cup of rice noodles, lots of veggies, not alot of sauce) But then she pulled out the tortilla chips and salsa. I could't resist it! I don't know what it is with this friend but I ALWAYS overeat when I'm with her. I swear I had like half the bag of chips. THEN she pulled out the cookies. I had 3. 3!!! I didn't even want any.



Now I feel gross. I'm about to go to the gym. I don't even know how many calories I consumed. It's salad for dinner...

I need to be more aware when with friends. I lose sight of goals.

Time to sweat this attitude out of me.

Any pointers on how to deal with friends who are catalysts for overeating?

[luvja]

I have also been doing very poorly since Friday, over eating, eating the wrong things. I'm getting back into walking tonight and tomorrow I'm starting with the healthy food again.. Holidays suck. I've been beating myself up for the last couple days, then I get depressed, then I eat whatever I want...

[Dark Angel Jade]

LOL im not laughing at your pain here, im laughing cos pretty much ALL my friends are my catalysts.
I had a friend who recently lost 2 stone, and is now tiny. i told her i wanted to do that and not to order me any pizza etc on a close in work night. What did she do? order me a king size pizza (and being the only vegetarian it was bought especially for me) ii argued with her for 20 minutes then ended up eating it...along with garlic bread...fizzy drinks (which i never normally touch) and im pretty sure there was something else wedged in there!
PLus when im out with my tiny friends (not the people living in my head so no sarcasm.lol) you kinda end up feeling "sod it" its like your body is taken over and you dont realise til afterwards...thats the excuse im sticking to anyway...i was posessed
Yeah so dont feel too bad, it happens to us all.
The only thing ive started to do whenever i get the urge is think "all those hours i did at the gym...am i really going to mess it up now?" etc
Really be strict with your "friends" aswell when it comes to this. And if they are any type of friend they will support you!
mwah
Jade
xxx

[Stephanie Brim]

I did, too. I'm on track now, though, which makes me happy. Dinner is going to be right on my calorie line.

[VivienStarlust]

If it had been me, I probably would have just said something like:

"I've already made some plans for my day off today. I want to go to the gym and eat a healthy lunch after that. Would you like to come to the gym with me and then grab something yummy and healthy? I'd like to hang out with you today so I hope that you can come with."

And then leave it open for her to choose to do said healthy eating and working out with you, or not. That way you get to do what you want/need to do and spend time with a friend.

Maybe a different approach with this person would work?

Good for you for going to the gym today after things went off track!

[JayEll]

Does she know you're trying to lose weight? If not, you ought to tell her ahead of time and ask that she not bring the chips, cookies, etc. and then you provide some more weight-friendly snacks for both of you.

If she does know you're trying to lose weight, then she's sabotaging you by bringing those foods. She may not mean to be doing that, but that's the effect is has. It could be that the way you two have had fun in the past is by eating together--and it's not clear how that needs to change. So, be the one to help it change!

Jay

[dkneec19]

Jay...You hit it right on the money!!! Alot of our memories as friends revolved around eating bad food. My friend is overweight as well and always knows I'm attempting to be more healthy. I think the next time this happens I'm going to really explain my goals and plans. It should work.

Got done working out about 5 minutes ago. Ugh... I was burping up salsa flavor through-out the whole thing. groooossssssss.