So, tonight I was having supper with my friend, who is also trying to lose weight. She's smaller then I am, about 220 lbs and 5'3". I'm about 90 lbs more then her and 5'10". She said our collar bones are starting to show a little, so she touched mine and said "Holy crap".... She said my collar bones are HUGE compared to her's (the size of the bones, width, etc.) So I touched her's, and her's are tiny compared to mine..
So - being "Big Boned" actually exists? I thought that was something my Mom told me to make me feel better growing up. "Your not fat, just big boned." I guess I always just thought bones were the same size in everyone. Apparently not though!
Will this have any affect on me losing weight - such as appearance and stuff? I'm rather broad and hoping that goes away.
Thanks.
I think being big boned is great. I am. But, that means that I can carry more weight than others, but LOOK slimmer. My family also is rather heavy in muscle mass. God bless good genes.
I'm 5'2' and when I was at my best weight I was 130-135. Docs would look at "the charts" and tell me I needed to lose 20 lbs. But, during the physical exam, couldn't tell me where to lose it from. My Youngest was also "solid". My best friend was her sitter when she was about 6mths. to a year. She still comments on the fact that my DD was built tougher than the boys she watched.
Embrace it! You are going to look gorgeous as those bones begin to show. And, bonus, you probably will not have to weigh as little as you think to look fantastic. Don't think of it as "big boned" -- it is more like a bigger frame. It probably means you have nice musculature under there to support those bones. I am 5'7" and I have the same sort of thing going on. By the time I weight 155 or so, I look pretty darn good -- and I have really nice lean muscle mass too...probably to support the bones. I always shock the nurse at my doctor's office who inevitably starts her scale WAY farther down when she weighs me, and then works her way up. She can never believe I weigh as much as I do. Last time I was there, she made me go step on a different scale in the office even though I told her the first one was right.
Have no fear, you will look absolutely fine. Maybe not fragile and waif-like, but, um, you are 5'10" so that is pretty much out anyway. Think athletic, strong and sexy.
I too have the "big boned" curse (blessing?). The downside is I'll never be "as small" as others who are 5'6". The upside is, I carry my extra weight "better". I looked my best at 160, when my girlfriend (same height) can easily pull off 110-120.
I have an extremely large bone structure for a woman. WHen I hit puberty (before gaining weight) I shot up to 5' 9" and even at 145 lbs I looked like a skeleton.
The doctors agree that a "normal" weight for me would be between 160 - 180 lbs.
I hate my bone structure as I will never be able to fit into smaller size clothing (the smallest I fit in before I started gaining weight was a size 12 - and that was when I looked like a skeleton!)
Big boned definitely exists. Everyone's bones are differently sized and shaped-which makes the difference in height, shoe size, ring size, etc.
I am smaller boned on top (small hands, wrists, shoulder width, ribcage, collarbones) but larger boned down below. I will never, even at a low weight, have teeny little ankles, or narrow hips.
I mean, first of all, you're much taller than your friend. Of course your bones are probably bigger. You have naturally more weight to carry.
I definitely have some broad shoulders which I most likely will never get rid of. But, I like to think of them as athletic. And they might help my arms look wonderful as I continue to lose weight and build some muscle.
Years ago I worked with a girl who was the same size, weight, and height that I was. She outweighed me by 35lb. We puzzled over it. I finally had her weigh her forearm and I weighed mine and the difference was dramatic. We decided she had "big bones" that had a lot more density that mine.
Freakishly Big Bones?
"Your not fat, just big boned." I guess I always just thought bones were the same size in everyone. Apparently not though!
