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Old 08-29-2008, 08:31 PM   #1  
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Question Help eating out!

How does everyone avoid tempation when eating out??

Today I went to supper with my family and think that I chose a good meal. But my family gets dessert every time that we go out. I dont order it but when it is sitting there and they offer me a bite I have a hard time to say no. Or if they ask more than once I really cant say no.

Sweets are my weakness I love pies, cakes and cookies and everytime that is what they get.

So how do you say no and mean it, and not be rude??

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Old 08-29-2008, 08:36 PM   #2  
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Tell them it gives you diarrhea.
Ha ha , seriously though--Just say, "No thanks, I mean it." Then, if they keep trying to push it on you, just imagine all the hard work you'll have to do in order to make up for eating the dessert. Is it really worth that piece of pie, knowing it'll take you that much longer to feel fit and cute?
Just a thought. Good luck!
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Old 08-29-2008, 08:36 PM   #3  
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You don't always have to say no, can you not get a dessert to share with a family member or friend next time?? That's what I do as a treat now and again so I can still enjoy a little bit.

However, if you really don't want one and they keep asking just firmly say "no thanks, I am trying to eat more healthily and *insert food item here* is not on my plan." If you're tempted and you say that out loud then you're more likely to listen to your own words and not give in, if that makes sense??

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Old 08-29-2008, 08:38 PM   #4  
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Maybe let them know that you're on a weight loss journey before hand so they no better than to offer you anything. If you meet them there you can always apologize and tell them you have to leave early (before dessert comes out!)
If you're really good at controlling yourself you can always take just one bite. That way they stop asking and you're not completely depriving yourself of "bad" foods that you love.
Or offer that you go out for ice cream for dessert instead where you can order non-fat frozen yogurt.

Good luck in the future
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Old 08-29-2008, 08:44 PM   #5  
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Thanks guys these are all really great ideas!! I am going to go with the diarrhea one!!! That will work for sure!! LOL

I guess its more a matter of my own will power than everyone else!
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Old 08-29-2008, 09:27 PM   #6  
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lt helps me to look up te restaurants nutritional info before I go, so I can plan my meal around the calories and fat You can even check all the desserts and maybe something will be do-able.
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Old 08-29-2008, 09:36 PM   #7  
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Hey! It depends on how much you want to share weight loss with your family--if they would get too alert to your every food choice, then you don't need to tell them you're trying to lose weight. But if you think they would help, then go ahead.

It's really hard to pass up desserts when other people are getting them. Sometimes you could choose not to order one, but have a taste if someone offers. Other times you may find that that just makes it harder.

Sometimes I order coffee (decaf) instead of dessert, and I can sip on that while others have their dessert.

Also, some restaurants have fresh fruit as a side--and I'll ask for that as a dessert.

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Old 08-29-2008, 10:02 PM   #8  
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ohhh, yes i like the idea of ordering a tea or coffee. that's what I do at home immediately after dinner so that I dont continue eating even though I am not hungry anymore.
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Old 08-29-2008, 10:10 PM   #9  
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Angel, you can politely ask your family in advance to not even ask you for any dessert or give you bites of unhealthy stuff. This will avoid temptation where you don't have to answer yes/no.

But you cannot stop eating sweets cuz it will make you want to eat more. Believe me I love desserts too So if you do decide to eat dessert some day nothing wrong with it but you can easily make simple changes to include it in your routine. I ask the wait staff for a box and save most of my main meal before I even begin to eat. This saves me calories and sometimes leaves me room for dessert (depending how much I ate that day).

Also like someone mentioned looking up menu before hand. Nowadays most of the restaurants have their menu online...check it out and plan ahead what you're going to have...then adjust your calories throughout the day to keep as much as possible within your calorie range.

If you exercise make sure you do little extra that day and the next day to make up for it And drink plenty of water before, during and after the dinner out.

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Old 08-30-2008, 08:22 AM   #10  
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Or my new favorite strategy - I am not sure who I pulled this from - imagine the servers sneezed on it before bringing it to your table, that'll generally keep you from staring longingly at others' desserts if you have decided you don't want to partake
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Old 08-30-2008, 09:05 AM   #11  
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Tell them it gives you diarrhea.

That's probably the best, and funniest advice I think I have ever heard.



That is priceless. And, it would WORK.

I usually do what JayEll does-order coffee or hot tea, or a side of fruit. Sometimes I will order a glass of wine, and sip on it instead.
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Old 08-30-2008, 01:47 PM   #12  
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Thanks everyone!! Great ideas, I am going to use all of them!

And I know that I cant deprive myself. Its just hard to stop at one or two bites!

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I know there's a recipe or two for low cal, low fat desserts on this site!! I'd say make up the Jello cheesecake recipe or the diet soda cake or something similar at home, and tell the family that you've got a special treat waiting at home for you

Or better yet, make up the dish, to bring to your parents or siblings..or friends house and suggest that you have dessert back at your/their place with some coffee or something Saves a bit of money for your dinner date and you get to spend quality time without the noise and bustle of your average restaurant :x

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Old 08-31-2008, 03:57 PM   #14  
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You could also say, "I don't want any, but thanks for the offer." You've got the right to not want something without having to explain yourself. It's not like you're trying to justify a questionable decision. While part of you may want dessert, there's also a part of you that doesn't want it because you want to lose weight. If they persist, they're the ones making the big deal out of it, not you.
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Old 08-31-2008, 04:02 PM   #15  
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I second the coffee motion. If I really want something sweet, I'll ask for just a splash of Bailey's in my coffee and a bit of whipped cream. While I don't know the entire calorie content, I'm sure it's much less than a piece of tiramasu. :P
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