Ok, ladies, let's share and be honest. Just for fun.
Here are the questions:
1. How often do you ?
2. How often would you LIKE to ?
3. Do you think this will stay the same or change with your weight loss, and if so in what way?
My answers:
1. About once a week
2. 3-4 would be nice
3. I tend to feel more frisky when I feel better about my body, so it will get better for me (I hope )
1 - not nearly as often as I'd like since my guy lives 5 states away
2 - every day if I could
3 - if we lived closer together, my weight wouldn't make a difference
funny. this title caught my attention b/c i just, like last night, had a talk to the hubs about intimacy and how we're lacking it. from his answer i gathered he thought by intimacy i meant sex. i broke out the dictionary to show him other meanings (which he knew but somehow these definitions meaning more closeness etc always get pushed to the back of the classroom).
soooo...when i saw this i thought. "wow, someone else is having my thoughts on this subject."
nope.
funny thing is i looked at your progress pics and lo and behold....your a dude.
EDIT: nope! that's your husband! sorry! still funny tho....
I guess I'm not one to shy away from the subject, dunno why.
1. At least every other day
2. Probably a couple of times a day
3. I don't think my weight has any bearing. Good question though, I'm sure a lot of people would/will have a different answer!
When I met hubby I weighed within ten pounds what I weigh now, so I don't think my weight has ever had bearing on anything in our lives really. When my weight goes down though we might be more active outside. We both love doing things like hiking but I have a torn achellis tendon so we (I) have to be careful.
Okay, I'll play... though I agree with Ollie that there is more to intimacy than sex, I also believe that there is more to sex than intercourse.... (Am I going to get bleeped for that statement? Don't know the rules on this type of posting... )
1. How often now? Typically - 5-6 times per week of some kind or another, depending on the week. (last week, 8, this week by comparison, 1 - DH has a bad head cold) 2. How often would I like? Well, I would have to say I'd like to pretty much all the time. I've found most of my girl friends think that is a little odd, it is usually a guy sentiment. 3. Will that change with weight loss? Not really, no. My weight has never been a factor - I was much larger than my starting weight this time around when DH and I got together. I will say though that things have gotten more, ah, enthusiastic, shall we say, as things have gotten more toned and as I've gotten more flexible...
1. very rare----if DH is lucky once every two weeks
2. I would love to be able to do it at least once a day
3. maybe weight will have something to do with it but I doubt it. I dont know what my problem is. Just don't wanna do it, don't know why. Can anyone help me?
I just wanted to add that I absolutely agree that there's a difference between intimacy and just plain sex. I just didn't want to use the word "sex" in the title.
1. 2-3 times a week
2. all the time
3. It will boost my confidence more and i'll probably try new positions... id love it one day if my man could do me against the wall...
Ah, gotcha Carinna... In thinking about it, I would have probably titled it the same way...
It is a good topic, and one that women don't often talk about. In my opinion, if we were more open about the subject within our peer group it would make it easier to be open with our significant others. And, I firmly believe that being open with each other about wants and needs is critical to having a good sex life.
tkglenn, I'll be glad to talk about this topic with you if you want - my first question would be to ask what is stopping you from doing it at least once a day? Does the situation just not come up or do you find yourself disinterested when it does? (If you want, you can PM and we can discuss there.)
1. Usually once a week. Occasionally twice.
2. Every waking moment of the day. My bf and I joke that we should be reversed... I think like a guy in that aspect, he never wants it.
3. We'll see. We were doing it a lot last summer when I was 60 lbs thinner. But we'd just started dating then too. So...? Who knows.
I will say, he does cuddle and show plenty of affection, so the lack of sex isn't a totally, completely, huge deal.
Last edited by julie99s; 08-20-2008 at 05:37 PM.
Reason: stupid bolding
Interesting post. Shannon, your comments were on track IMHO, I agree totally.
Here's the deal: married for 22 years, so naturally things have slacked off. First 10 years, almost every day. Then, 2-3 times/week. Last 4-5 years, less and less, now once a month or less.
I, however, want it much more, at least 3-4 times/week. We've had discussions about this several times.
Losing weight makes me even hornier than ever--lately I feel like I could do it every day! I think about it a lot when i feel good about myself--but always wanted it even before. I'm hoping things improve b/c DH does say I look so much better. Or there always is the little blue pill......
-three or for times a week.
-three or for times a week.
-absolutely positively. My boyfriend is very thin, a little too thin I think sometimes, and he always wants me on top, and I feel like my thighs are a giant sea creature and his little bird legs are being chewed off his body and swallowed whole. Meanwhile, my fat stomach is blobbing onto his torso like throwing a bean bag over top of a pencil.......
maybe when I lose weight I won't demand we turn the lights off......
1. Every day when we are not fighting... lol most of the time, if the fight lasts longer than 3 days, someone gives in just to get busy
2. Every day is good
3. Im with candice, Im looking foward to the day he picks me up to do our thing, and the different crazy stuff that im too heavy for
tkglenn, another thing is just doing it. even when you feel tired or whatever, just making yourself do it and feel it. You'd be surprised at how little time it takes to get into it.
A Survey About Intimacy
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