[kukristen]

I've been having a lot of success with my weight loss... (Thaaankkk goodness) and it's thanks to A LOT of hard work.

But it seems like the more success I have, the more people start making weird backhanded comments... (usually AFTER they congratulate me...)

"Oh, it's just water weight...so it doesn't really count."

Or..

"Well, you'll probably gain a little bit back... but don't worry!"

Or..

"You know you won't keep losing at this rate..."


Which makes me want to tell them off!

I know they're well-intentioned... but seriously, I'm tired of the "water weight" one... that one drives me more crazy than anything else. Because seriously, weight is weight... I don't care what kind is coming off me... it's coming off... and I'm definitely losing INCHES... so... I'm sick of hearing it after a month of losing... I'm done with the water weight!!!

I'm being realistic and know it's going to slow down...I realize, also, these same people have struggled a lot with their weight and are projecting their experiences on to me... but I've been through it too!

Bottom line... I'm tired of it!!!

How do you guys handle this stuff???

Any suggestions??? Similar stories???

[marbleflys]

I would remember each and every comment.....turn it around and use it for motivation...when you keep persevering and losing they will have to "eat their words"..how sweet will that be?

[Insatiable]

I would use it for motivation as marbleflys says, but I also learned not to talk about it. I felt if I talked about my weight loss and I fail, then I will get 'I told you so' or 'I knew she couldn't do it' I think those comments are more harsh.
I just don't bring it up. If people bring it, then I must be doing something right cause they are noticing. I take the compliment or what they say and say thank you and change the subject. Again, I don't want to fail and have the other comments come.
I will not fail, and I will say eat your heart out, I did it now get off your but and do it. But I for now I just try to avoid it.

On another note, now that i have lost some, people ask me 'so how did you do it' or 'what is your secret' I am sooo sick of it. It is call hard *** work.

Good luck to you. Don't let them get you down. It is a form of jealousy.

[Iconised Ghost]

wow that kind of thing really just burns me up luckily, when im angry i like to work out so the more of those comments the better And apart from that, i'd probably let them know exactly what i think of their "compliment"

[Mango683]

I don't like to talk about my weight loss, either, unless I am in my gym setting or someone notices and asks about it. I feel ashamed to be doing so, much like I was ashamed to admit that I was overweight. I guess it goes with that if something doesn't go right, they'll give me the "you've failed" comments or "I told ya so's." Honestly though, I don't mind when they ask me how I'm doing it and I respond- by exercising and watching what I eat! I love the fact that they're surprised that it's not some mystery pill or some fad diet and just me putting my heart and soul into it. It makes it all that much more worth it.

[aerogora]

I am with Insatiable and Mango.. I don't talk about it at all. If someone says something to me about my weight I say thank you and then move on quickly. I am very uncomfortable talking about it. I am embarrassed more than anything.

[bargoo]

I have tried not to talk about it either, that eliminates unwanted comments from the diet police. Eventually when some one said " Have you lost weight ?" I just say "yes, and I did it on purpose " I don't want to make a big deal of it, even though it is. I just don't want my weight to be the main topic of conversation.

[Starrynight]

Wow, that is just extremely rude.. I haven't dealt with that.. although, sometimes, when I'm out with my friends, they don't understand that to support me they have to help me with what I'm doing, instead they'll insist I don't need to lose and that I should eat. That is one thing I hate, although recently they stopped doing that.
I'm sure those people who are saying all those things are just, as you said, projecting their self-insecurities onto you. So when they make all those comments, know that you can't really talk to them about your weight and just ignore them and admire that you are losing weight, not for them or anyone else, but for yourself. And when it becomes way to obvious that you are far along in your journey, they will just stare and be jealous and it be a great unspoken "ha ha" to them =P

[Gale02]

One phrase I've learned to love is "Thank you for your opinion, I'll take that into consideration." When it's a nasty comment I say it just dripping with sweetness and sarcasm. The words are perfectly polite, but it's a great way of saying "screw you" without actually saying it.

I should have admitted up front that I have ZERO tolerance for people that feel the need to make comments like that. Even if they are projecting, they need to get a handle on that brain-mouth filter and realize that people have feelings.

Good luck! Mean and ignorant people are the hardest to deal with, IMO.