[indie]

Hi everyone. I'm new...well, obviously.

My name is Dana.

I have a unique issue. To start, I'm 160-155ish lbs and 5'2". To tell you the truth, I don't weigh myself often. I live on campus and though I'm sure there's a scale around here somewhere, I really don't care to measure myself. I like myself the way I am, and consider myself to be an attractive person.

So does my boyfriend. He's handsome, tall, and...weighs less than I do. I found this out one day while I was at his house and he just announced excitedly that he broke 150.

He's into working out and excersize, and around the end of January we started going to the gym together 2-4x a week for at least a half hour to over an hour each time. It was really fun at first, I find I like working out most of the time, and it was nice to have a workout buddy. We started trying to eat healthier too because the previous semester we ate out a lot at nice resturants.

I like how he never really pushes me to the healthy food, but his constant talking about how much salt/sugar/fat is in whatever I want is annoying. I don't think I would be so annoyed if I had lost ANY weight since the end of January. He likes me for who I am, but I want to do this for me.

I jogged/ran over 4-5 miles a week and ate healthy for the whole of February...nada. No change whatsoever. He lost over 7lbs. At this point I'm stressed out and fustrated that no amount of dieting or excercise is getting my weight off and I'm constantly denying myself the food I want to eat. I'm stressed with work (I work two jobs) and schoolwork...and a diet and excercise regimen cuts out of my study time and stresses me out more.

Weird part is, last year all I did was eat anything I wanted (I was mostly grounded to campus, though)--and I mean everything--fried onion rings and pepsi as a late-night snack!--and I NEVER worked out and instead of the freshman fifteen, I lost about 17lbs. From doing nothing.

I think it's because of the fact that I'm obsessing and stressing out that I'm not losing any weight. I've become so frustrated that this past week I've slipped up and have been eating tons of junk food because I feel defeated. And I've been lying to my boyfriend about it. That doesn't make for a good, honest relationship! But I feel embarrased because I'm not suceeding when I'm trying harder than anyone else. I told my boyfriend I should take some diet pills but he was fervently against it, as are most of my friends. But I don't know what else to do. I'm stuck.

Sorry for the rant. Had to let it out, you know?

[vixjean]

If you are happy with your body, then don't worry about the weight loss, it will come naturally if you are eating healthy and working out.
You probably did lose inches due to gaining muscles from working out! That will help in the long run.

[caseygail21]

Have you taken your measurments? Since you are working out so much, you may be gaining a lot of muscle which would cause the scale to be stubborn. However, if you take your measurements you may find your losing inches. In my opinion, inches are better than pounds . Also, remember it's not all about losing weight, think about all of the good you are doing for your body by eating healthy and exercising regularly. Even though you lost 17 lbs. last year, late night onion rings and pepsi aren't exactly good for your health.

Welcome to the forum btw! You will find a lot of positive encouragment here. I hope it is as helpful for you as it has been for me!

[cephalopod gal]

Hello hello!

I agree with those who posted above me.

Also remember that men lose weight faster than women. Why? I don't know. But that's what I've seen reported several times. So don't take it hard when he loses and you don't.


But yeah I joined recently too and now I'm super addicted to 3FC. You'll love it here.

[yesitsmeagain]

Are you counting calories? I ate healthy all last summer (organics, farmers market stuff, tons of fresh fruit and veg, etc) and gained weight! Even healthy food needs to be in moderation. Stress also makes it harder to lose weight.
I hope you find the right balance for you!

[shrinkingchica]

No on the diet pills!
Also, you are not answerable to your bf for this! You need to eat healthily/exercise for you not for him. And you are personally answerable and responsible to yourself, not your bf. It's your body after all and your life.

And WELCOME!