GeeCee -
You're right that age does affect how we lose weight. Have you found our "40-somethings" area yet? It'll provide you with a place to talk about the different challenges you face now that you didn't in your 20's.
Let me also say - healthy food doesn't mean "not good". I am a foodie, and unrepentant about it. But I learned new ways to cook things (still delicious, wonderful things), including desserts, so that they fit within my plan. Lots of veggies, lots of lean proteins, and lots of whole grain, but prepared in ways that are both tasty and nutritious. Think of this as a new learning experience you and your husband can go on together!
Stick around and keep posting. This is such a great place for advice, discussion, and sometimes, a kick in the pants.