[missangelaks]

I have been so focused on what I want for so long, pushing and prodding the Drs and insurance people, and talking about it to anyone who would listen...that I forgot about how those people might feel about me having the surgery...as it gets closer, most people in my life are supportive but want to talk about how they feel now.

-My dad is very supportive but is worried with cause.

-My brother Joe told me that if I passed away from this surgery, my debt would go to him and he was worried how he would handle it. Which is true I haven't been able to get sufficient life insurance do to health issues, some but not enough...but he was a wreck that money meant that much to him compared to my health.

-I have mentioned before that my sister just didn't want to talk about it at all.

-And today, my brother Ben said he thought it was too harsh and did't want me to have the surgery but it wasn't up to him.

-Kellie, my 18 year old, is so very supportive of me! Exercises with me, cooks healthy meals for us all and has never expressed her feelings of worry though I know she has them...she just knows that I am going to have this surgery despite the pain, harshness of it's restrictions or anyone else's opinion and therefore will support me, take care of me. It's giving her something to focus on...her husband of 2 months is leaving for the Marines on Monday and though she's a mess over that, she is grateful to have me and my health...and therefore hers...to fuss over. I feel for her and her husband and I am very grateful for the help.

Now, all this has made me sad...that I have worried so many. It really brings up my own fears of post-op...

...AND YET, no one changes my future but me...I take up the spoon to stir the water in my bowl the other way...fully aware of the consequences and how much I am worrying those around me. BUT as my signature states, "I do this for ME"

I believe that whole heartedly and will hold onto it with both hands!

Angela

[jiffypop]

very very powerful stuff, angela - and that's why you MUST be in as good condition as possible before the surgery. there's never a guarantee with surgery, but there are things that you can do to give yourself the best shot"

watch your diet
don't gain weight
lose, if you can
exercise exercise exercise
prepare yourself for changes

and, you're doing all these things - maybe it'll help your family if you remind them that you're doing everything possible that's in your control to make this work.

[missangelaks]

Thats true Jiffy, I will try to tell them that more often. I want to be bit more reassuring. i could just come here and chat about my worries...it's just that I saw the front page here and I am ALL over it! LOL I think I talk too much! hehe

thank you for your kindness...it was a moment of saddness and it's passing.

Angela

[Jennifer 3FC]

Hi Angela, I can understand how your family feels. We went through similar feelings when my sister Amy had gastric bypass. We kept much more quiet than we wanted to, because we knew this was important to her and she had to make this decision. Once it was done, everybody was ok. She lived through it, she lost weight, and all was well. It is something we will never forget - in some ways I think it brought us closer. Looking back, we are all thankful she did it because she was truly the right candidate for WLS.