Do you ever have an "off" day, during which you eat whatever you want? This seems to be my issue. When I have one of those days, I truly eat whatever I want, and I go on a complete eating binge, never stopping. I eat everything in sight.
It pretty much got to the point where I had more off days than normal counting days.
If you do have off days, how do you control yourself? How often do you do it? I'd love to have at least one day per week where I didn't feel constrained by calorie counting, but it's difficult becase I have a tendency to undo everything I've done the rest of the time.
Personally I do not have an off day. I do calorie counting so if I want something I will fit it into my daily allotment. I do understand how hard it would be to have a whole "off day". I would probly eat myself silly too.
If you are set on having one, but find that you are having trouble controling things - maybe you could try an "off meal" instead of a whole "off day". You can eat whatever you want at that meal and then right back on plan for the next meal.
Good luck on finding something that works for you.
Before the holidays, during the occasion that I'd have an off day, I'd deal with it by then drinking a lot of water, taking a long long dog walk, and forcing myself to get back onto schedule the next day. Though now into the holidays (which I swear triggers a 'eat sugar, only sugar, and lots of it' switch in my head) which I've found myself having many more off-days than good or even OK ones, I went on a two day water fast (to feel cleansed, like for a fresh start, a clean plate ) and am now controlling myself.
Good luck with overcoming those horrible 'off' days.
For me an "off" day really is no different than a binge. Years ago I lost weight doing no carbs. Whenever I would allow myself an 'off' day, I would stuff myself silly with all the bread, pasta, pancakes, crackers, rice, sugar, cakes and sodas that I had been limiting. I just had this all or nothing attitude and would end up eating a whole house full of food when I allowed myself an 'off'. I've found over time that this is just how I operate - all or nothing. My solution has been to go for balance. Instead of a pattern of restrict, restrict, restict, restrict, BINGE! It's more like restrict, restrict, small treat, restrict, restrict, small treat. I still struggle at keeping my weight down, but I rarely if ever have a complete and total off/binge day. Maybe striving for balance would help you too.....Good luck with whatever you choose!
My "off days" are usually on a weekend. My problem is snacking. I can eat about twelve meals in a day just by snacking. So, to combat this, I let myself have off days when I can eat out or have a fattening dinner, but I won't let myself actually binge and eat anything I want to. So, I can go out and have that huge plate of fettucini alfredo, but only for dinner. Like Saturday - I had my normal breakfast and lunch (cereal, tofurky sandwich with fruit), and then I went out for dinner and had focaccia bread, fried ravioli, and cheese tortelloni. I didn't worry a bit about how many calories or fat grams I was eating. The dinner was definitely not healthy, and it put me over my calorie and fat gram allotment for the day, but it was my treat. I guess the trick is not thinking of it as a day where you can eat whatever you want, but a day in which a meal or two can be open to treats that would otherwise not fit into your normal meal plan. If I let myself eat whatever I want, I'd eat half a cake, half a gallon of milk, a sleeve of cookies, three huge meals, and chocolate all along the way. This definitely wouldn't work. But, making myself fit the food into the confines of meals helps.
I can't stand the idea of an "off day." Because if I'm expected to live my life constantly guarding myself from "OMG teh fat" for the rest of my life then I'm throwing in the towel right now. I'm simply not willing to put into that amount of work.
If you're binging you should look at why. If I try to set my calories to low, it ends up working against me because I'll binge. Try and see why you're doing it, instead of feeling bad about it.
But keep in mind one day (or even one week, or one month) of eating a lot of junk isn't going to kill you. God knows it doesn't kill a lot of naturally skinny people.
I eat when I'm bored, I'm really, really bad about that. When I watch TV or do some other sort of activity that sends the "time to snack mindlessly" signal to my brain, I find something else to do that keeps my hands busy (like knitting).
Yes, I do need to find a balance. It seems like although I had a lot of those off days and binges, I never seemed to REALLY gain weight until recently.. it all came at once and bit me in the rear.
BLLgirl, try to keep a food diary if you aren't already. If I'm writing down my meals, then I don't cheat, but if I'm not, then I cheat all the time. What's a little cookie here, an extra bowl of Fruit Loops there? It adds up, and the food diary keeps me honest.
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) and am now controlling myself. 
