[Not that girl]

Hello 20-somethings. Like many others, I'm hoping that by joining this forum, I'll be able to keep to some form of accountability.

2 months ago, getting ready for my birthday dinner, I was trying on my nice dresses and was slammed with the realization that I had put on so much weight in the past year that none of the dresses fit anymore. This came as a bit of a shock to me, because I didn't feel like I had been eating any differently than I was when I was comfortable with myself, so I'm under the impression that it's because of all of the "partying" I've been doing. (I turned 21 a year ago and have been abusing the privilege like woah.)

Now that I've realized that I need to make changes, I'm looking back to the time when I had my first major weight loss, looking for inspiration. After analyzing it, it turns out that this time may not be as easy as last. Back then, I was going through some pretty hard times; my father was slowly dying and I was in a very unhealthy relationship with a guy for whom I felt I wasn't god enough. Exercising for me was a chance to get away from all of the bad in my life, and it became an easy thing for me to do.

Now that I'm in a completely different, and much happier, time in my life, I find it so much more difficult to motivate myself. How ironic, right??

I'm wondering if anyone else has experience this, that finding peace in their life makes it harder to be motivated. I was stoked to find the weekly weigh-ins thread, and am hoping that that helps me stay true to my plans.

I look forward to going through this with all of you other 20-somethings. =D

[short1]

That is a different take on weight loss, because I usually eat more when I am stressed/or my depression is at a low. Well, that's not always true because the last time I was extremely depressed I didn't eat for almost 3 days...don't worry...doin' good now!

You have something to get you going.......to fit back in to your dresses! Get involved with this forum and you might re-ignite your weightloss efforts!

[Cats tongue]

That is a little different... and yet not I guess. If going to the gym was one place that made you happy in a not-so-happy time then it makes sense that would motivate you to go.

Now you just need to find the motivation to change yourself even though you're happy with where you are. that can be hard. But obviously if you're here you aren't completely happy with where you are, at least in a health sense.

You'll just have to start loving exercise again. Do you have a plan at all? Do you know what you want/need to change to make this weight loss happen?

20-somethings is an awesome place for accountability support and motivation. Welcome.

[lovinlifex2]

Welcome notthatgirl...

During my divorce I lost a lot of weight, but as soon as things settled down it came back on with a vengence. I guess that is how we are all different when we are upset. Some people eat to fill the emotions and others can't eat at all.

I am glad that you are at a much better place in your life and happy. This is a great place to find motivation and support.

Good luck to you!

[House_of_Mirth]

Welcome!

3fc (and especially the 20 somethings if I do say so myself) are a GREAT community.

At least you are happier now and working towards being healthier will make you happier too!


Best!

Mirth

[Fairy Sarah]

Welcome to the site! I am new too It seems so good! There are some really inspirational people here

Where is this weekly weigh in thread?

Its funny that you lose weigt when you are depressed...I eat more when I am sad, funnily enough I get really depressed when I am at a higher weight or feel fat, so its really a self perpetuating spiral! Blah i think the secret is to understanding yourself and staying happy

Anyway! Good luck! Hope to see you round....or maybe not so round

[Not that girl]

Thanks for the support guys!

Maybe I should go find another destructive relationship, and that'll motivate me. TOTALLY joking!

My plan is pretty basic: I just need to eat less fast food (which is gonna be tricky with my job hours) and exercise more. Shouldn't be too difficult, I just need to stay on track, so I'll be coming here for reminders and perspective.

By the way, Mirth, Wharton is my favorite EVER. I'm going to name my first born Lily, boy or girl.

[House_of_Mirth]

Originally Posted by Not that girl

By the way, Mirth, Wharton is my favorite EVER. I'm going to name my first born Lily, boy or girl.

OMG....the English major in me has never been more gratified! I NEVER thought anyone would get that reference.

I think I picked it cause Lily is an apparently weak silly woman who eventually grows up and protects the people she loves passionately even at her own expense...kind of Buildingsroman (sp?) but the coming of age doesnt happen till the very (bitter) end.

Anywho...that was probably TMI. Thanks for making my day!

Mirth (Patsy)