[balloonlady]

My husband has started sneaking fast food. I don't care if he wants to eat junk, he's 40 and old enough to decide for himself. I do care if he sneaks it and lies about it.

We have 6 people in our house and our food budget is $30/day. That is supposed to include laundry soap, dog food, light bulbs and trash bags. The budget is tight, so *we* agreed that once a week for fast food would be enough. For months he has been nagging at me for every penny spent - if I hear "Did you figure that into the food budget???" even one more time I am going to kick him so hard his "boys" will be coming out his eye sockets. This is the part that is making me mad. I've been working hard to stay on budget and we've still been running short. Since I do the shopping I got saddled with all the blame. Well, the $5 - $7 he's spending several times a week might have something to do with it!!

I supported him taking a $15k cut in pay to become a teacher because it's a job he truly loves. He needs to start supporting the idea too. We can't afford to waste cash on junk food.

Thanks for letting me vent. It's good to get it out of my system with typing instead of eating. (which wouldn't be good for out budget or my waistline)

[hidingtazz]

Stacey, my ex husband used to check our account balance on the ATM and then take money out accordingly. He never gave a thought to the checks that had not hit our bank yet.

Is he sneaking fast food because you are cooking/eating differently? Is he tired of "diet food"? I always heard that too.

[Outland]

My eyes watered and I shift uneasy like in my chair. After reading what and how hard you wanted to kick your hubby.

You are right though. He may not have to stick to a diet but he does have to live by the budget. An he shouldn't have been blaming you when he knew what he was doing.

[Liliann]

Stacey.. It is good on venting and let it out, it helps..Hoping your husband realize how much you are supporting and manage the household budget to lead a better lifestyle.. Hang in there..

[Heather]

My husband and I have had our share of "budget" discussions too. It is really frustrating to have to be the one responsible for the bills, blamed when there isn't enough money AND not be the one with the "splurges". *grrrrr*

I feel your pain!!

[balloonlady]

Sorry to make you cringe John. Rest assured I would never kick him that hard (unless there was no way the police could trace it back to me)
Thanks everyone for the support and letting me vent. I had a talk with DH and explained to him why I was so mad. Did it with minimal cussing even.

It wasn't that he felt deprived by the food at home, he just has the food brain of a teenager. He wants what he wants when he wants it. That want usually includes a drive thru window. (totally unfair that he eats like that and still has a 32 inch waist!!!) He says he understands and will work on not splurging. From his point of view he works long hours and feels like he deserves a treat. I totally get this. I don't work much during the week, but put in 24 - 30 hours between Friday and Sunday. Hopefully we understand each other and I won't have to kill him this week. Would be a shame to waste 20 years of marriage. Plus it's too darn hot to dig a hole to hide the body!