I want to be the HOT girl, you know......where every head in the room turns when she walks in. I am so depressed bc I will never be that girl. I guess it bothers me more bc I have friends that are so I am around it. I live vicariously through them and their stories, I guess. This may all seem a bit shallow, but I want to know that I can have ANY man-any time. Does that make sense? I guess its a big deal when you have never had it. And sometimes, it would be so cool to be very naughty. Like be with your very sexy boss or something because he cant resist you even though it is against the rules. Instead, a construction worker barely turns his head. Just needed to vent. I can't wait until I can throw on cute shorts or a mini skirt and a tank to go out and not have to spend 45 minutes getting dressed to look cute enough to go grab dinner. Thanks for listening, I am sort of rambling on.
I know what you mean. I've always been the "fat friend". But I have confidence in two things: 1. You don't have to be a stick to be the hot girl and 2. You will be the hot girl. Now that I've lost so much weight everyone keeps telling me how beautiful I am and how good I look. Stick with your plan and I'm sure you will be a sucess.
This might be two personal but how much are you looking to lose and how much do you weight? What type of plan are yo following? I see you have been a member of the forum since 2004 but this is your second post. Welcome and good luck!
Pssssht, don't say you will NEVER be that girl! You don't know that!
Some people thought I was that girl once.
And some people will think I'm that girl again, once I lose weight and can be myself again, uninhibited and uncensored!
I MISS being a tease and a flirt, but I know there will be no flirting or teasing from me to anyone until I hit GW. And even then, I just don't think I can be that person again. I was so, so conceited, as most "hot" girls tend to be - I thought EVERYONE wanted me, and if someone wasn't into me, it gravely upset me, even IF there were a slew of other people who liked me.
And some "hot" girls in my opinion aren't even that hot... I have this one friend who EVERYONE refers to as "the HOT girl" but I think she's just slightly above average - a 7 or 7.5 on a 1-10 scale - yeah, she's pretty, but she's not ALL that.
What's HOT depends on who you ask... and for that matter, yes, some people might be what society defines as HOT, but no one is TRULY that HOT girl unless they look like Angelina Jolie or Halle Berry or something... haha.
In response to the first poster, I have about 60 pounds to lose. 3 years ago I was around 130 and even then I still wasn't the typical "pretty", but I was thin by basically just exercising constantly and always looking for ways to tone, etc and starving myself. It got to be too much and since then, I have put on around 60 pounds. I really am not following a diet plan like I need to (going to start) and did recently start working out again. I read all of your posts religiously (3fc).
Ariella,I hear ya sista I dont know if I will ever be stick thin,but I am hoping..lol..I am near 139,and my goal weight is 130..I am thinking my gut weighs 20 pounds,so I might have to go lower to make this nasty muffint op go away..Ok I am done with that now..I so know what your talking about with EVERYTHING in your post Heres to US HOT GIRLS
I don't know if I've ever been the hott girl but I did get lots more attention from men when i was 140. At the weight I'm at now some men will talk to me but I guess I put up a wall so I dont get hurt. Like how could they possibly like a girl that looks like me.
This may all seem a bit shallow, but I want to know that I can have ANY man-any time.
Impossible! There is no woman that turns on 100% of men. I mean, even the Angelina Jolies and Kate Beckinsales of the world have men who worship them and men who aren't interested. I'm sorry to say that this goal isn't realistic.
I don't mean to belittle your dream, though! I just want to point out that if your standards & goals are impossible, you're dooming yourself to being constantly disappointed no matter how many wonderful things you achieve.
(It's important to remember, too, that people are attracted to confidence and charisma, two things that aren't dependent on external appearance. Inner beauty really does shine through.)
I used to be the hot girl.....at 145. I would walk in a room and all eyes were on me. I could walk down the hall at school and everyonw would just stare. Now at 315 it sucks fo badly. There was not a day that went by that someone did not say I was pretty or hot. Now, it is NEVER EVER said. I want to get back to that again, I miss it. It is ashamed that the world treats you so differently at certain weights. It is sad, but oh so true. You are not alone, I have fantasies like you. I am sick of them being fantasies though, I want real life scenarios, damnit!
At my heaviest I weighed 240 pounds, I'm now down to 225 and looking to get back to my happy weight of 170ish, but guess what....I've been the girl that could get any guy in the room, regardless of me weight!!! I can honestly say that there's never been a guy I was attracted to that I couldn't get the attention of. I even managed to get the attention of my sexy boss. I wouldn't call myself beautiful, and at 240 pounds I most definatly didn't have that great of a body...but I did have a personality that seemed to be able to draw guys to me. I think because I was outgoing and acted like I was something special, guys seemed to think that I was something special too.
It's important to lose weight for your health, but it's also important to learn to feel hot no matter what weight you are. I bet once you build yourself esteem up a little, and feel hot no matter what your weight...others will find you hot too. NOTHING is sexier than confidance!! Good luck!
Thing was, I didn't even KNOW at the time. I had FIVE boy/girlfriends on the go. I dressed um, *hot*. I had a blinding level of confidence. I was thin. Anyone I wanted, I darn well had, there were no IFS.
Then, my first breakdown. Then...life.
it didnt make me happy. it doesnt make anyone truly happy. i promise you.
you know, ive never been that particular girl. but i am that girl who can own a room. and by owning a room, you own everyone in the room. it doesnt matter what size you are, how beautiful you are, ect. its about charisma, and having strong inner confidence. ive had many a good looking bedfellow. thats not what made me feel good, though. what made me feel good was something that came from within..and not based on the approval/perception of others.
you should read some books on neuro-linguistic programming. it helped me a lot...and im sure it can help you too.
Confidence is the key. You don't need to be stick thin to be sexy! I know girls who are probably larger than you are who are HOT. And trust me, they're getting some, if you know what I mean I used to think I was so ugly and that I'd never have a boyfriend and whatnot. Then I realized that guys do think I'm attractive, especially when I am confident in myself.
Another thing: not all guys think stick thin girls are hot. Just like all girls don't think buff guys are hot. My roommate likes buff, masculine, athletic men while I like very thin, intelligent, nerdy guys. It's all what you're in to personally.
I want to be the hot girl too, but it will never happen even when I lose weight because I have an ugly face. I know this because people tell me I am ugly all the time and I can see it when i look in the mirror.
I want to be the hot girl too, but it will never happen even when I lose weight because I have an ugly face. I know this because people tell me I am ugly all the time and I can see it when i look in the mirror.
beauty is in the eye of the beholder. i am sure you are beautiful, maybe the people around you that call you ugly are just insecure. don't let anyone tell you different. being hot is all about confidence.
i'm not small and never was but the way you walk in to a room with confidence exudes to other people. i always had attention even at my highest. if your not secure fake it. play it up. no one wants a wall flower. you can be big and beautiful instead of big and frumpy by the way you dress and walk. strut your stuff girls
Ugh, I have always said that same thing! I want to look GOOD when I dress up, and go that extra mile. Extra motivation to keep going! I'd at least like to look in the mirror and think I look good myself. At that point, maybe I can look good to others.
The "HOT" Girl
