This is gonna be a semi-rant thread. Apologies in advance!
I'm really frustrated right now, because every since I woke up this morning, I just want to munch on anything. I haven't grabbed anything too bad, mainly drinking hot cups of tea and celery.
I'm in college, but I'm home for the summer. My mom is really annoying me right now, because she's having "a friend" over for dinner... this guy that she has a very strange relationship with (yes my parents are still married). The last time he came over for dinner, my sister and I were both home and we were absolutely disgusted with him as a person... personality, manners, etc. Not to mention that as soon as he left (thank GOD!) my Mom proceeded to drain the wine bottles and wail about him well into the evening. Yesterday she went to lunch with him, and came home to inform me that he was coming over to dinner "either Saturday or Sunday". I informed her that I would NOT be in the house as long as he was here. She seemed to take this information fine, and I was fine with that. I'm working tonight, so that gives me a 50% chance of not worrying about that. I don't know where I'm going to go if he comes over tomorrow, however. I suppose I can just go out for dinner and stick around wherever I go with a good book.
In the meantime, however, she just went to the store and bought SO much crap for the house. I have been trying to teach her about the value of protein & fiber, but she really just doesn't get it. She is making a strawberry shortcake for his visit (my mom NEVER cooks!), there are about 20 bags of bagel chips/toast-like things and a huge jar of bruschetta sitting in the cabinet. There is an angel food cake sitting on the counter. There are new "sorbet ices" in the freezer that have no nutritional value. Who needs three different types of desserts? I told her that they better eat all of the food she just bought while I am out of the house because I really don't appreciate it being here, but I know that that won't happen.
And my final problem for the day is that I simply don't feel like doing anything at all, I'm crampy and I feel like I'm getting sick, and my weight hasn't budged in days.
I guess I am just having a stinky weekend, but ugh! Sometimes I feel like the parent in my household, and I really wish my Mom would grow up a bit, get this guy out of her life, and actually listen to me about the food in the house!
I know what you mean! I'm living at home til I graduate and get a good job, and I love my parents, but they eat crap ALL THE TIME! I cook when I can, but if I don't eat what they make they start in on me...
They really aren't helping me lose weight, and they stress me out!
Does your dad know this guy comes over? Does he have a problem with it? If not there probably isn't much you can do. Kinda the same with the food unless you pay the bills or part of the bills and groceries you don't really have much say in what can and can't be brought in the house. I know its hard but you just have to ignore the food there. I buy for 4 other people that don't eat like I do now. So its hard not to go eat the little debbie cakes or hubby's pudding cups but I somehow do it.
Chin up tho hopefully tomorrow with be a better day.
Guess what? This is your mom's house , she can do what she wants. That is the way life is, people live the way they want, you will find this in the workplace, too.
Yeah, my dad does know about it and I guess he's okay with it. In a weird way its kind of like a joke in our house what an ******* he is, but for some reason my Mom still continues to stay in contact with him.
Bargoo, it is true that it is my parents house and I know that I can't change that. However, my parents and I have always had an understanding that we treat each other as equals, with proper respect. I consider it kind of disrespectful to my father & I (and my sister if she were here) for this man to be invited into our home. Oh well, I guess.
I actually do most of the grocery shopping for the household, this was a rare trip for my Mom, which is why it was frustrating I suppose.
You'll have to get some strong willpower since it is her house. It's hard, I know, but just blcok it out. Maybe she'll put it in a seperate cubboard that you don't even have to ever open. Good luck!
That is really a frustrating situation. Since you really can't change it (it's your mom & dad's house, etc.) the best thing, I think, is for you to make your own plans elsewhere.
I often say that *I* am the one who decided to go on a weight loss program, no one else. Your mom has a right to buy the foods she wants. It's hard on you, but lots of things in life are hard.
Ugh!
