I have always been bit of a loner really. Do things on my own, ok I havent always felt happy doing it, but ive managed.
Since leaving school all my friends have drifted apart. I guess your supposed to make new ones to replace these mates, but that can be very difficult and threatening. So I havent really.
I made some guy mates, but when they figured they cudnt get their wicked way they didnt want to know.
So all my mates have moved away.
My fiancee has decided enough is enough and has called it a day, after 4 and a half years.
My diet and exercise has gone out the window.
Aw that sounds so sad loopy, you sound like a nice person and I'm sure you'll make friends, can you not join any groups in your area or do a night class or something that gets you in and around new people.
You seem to be doing really well in your weight loss so far.
Just hang in there am sure everything will work out for you. xx
Loopy....sounds like you're feeling very down at the moment, sorry to hear about your fiance, but if you're not together, then it wasn't meant to be. I know that's hard to hear, but I really do believe we end up with the right person...and he can't be it.
You've done so well with your diet and exercise, and you did it because you're YOU and for YOU....remember that
Remember that there is also a difference between being alone and lonely. You say you've always seemed to be a loner...loads of people are...there's nothing wrong with that luvey.
Are you living near family? Maybe it's time for you to take a small break from life and have a holiday of sorts, even if it's spending the weekend or a few days with family?
Don't feel alone luv, we're here for you, every step of the way, just come in every day and we'll help you along.
You're bound to feel sad and lonely after being part of a couple for so long and it'll take you a while to get over it. Take your time to grieve for your lost relationship then, when you feel more able, perhaps you could suggest to people at work (or college) that you go out in a group to go bowling or something. Like Fee says, try looking around for evening classes or look on the noticeboard in your local library - they are a good source of activities going on in your area. I know that in my area the town council are always trying to find volunteers to help run fetes and other local events - perhaps not your cup of tea normally but they are an excellent way of meeting people.
You HAVE come a long way...hold onto that, be proud of yourself.
What do you do, workwise?
Life can do a complete 180 in just a few months - there is always something. I am thinking of you, and I'll bepraying for you later....say around here too.
Things will get better, it just takes time, I have had some really bad times over the last few years, starting with my marriage break up, then another relationship breakup then met the man of my dreams (so I thought), moved in with him and found he was cheating on me! Left him, moved in with a friend, she fell out with me when she found out I was still in contact with me ex cos she thought I was making things worse for myself - she didnt speak to me for two years after that! I moved in to a rented house with my daughter (then 9 years old) and I was very lonely, I did have friends but felt like I was coping alone, my mum was being unsupportive as she had been since my dad died (suicide 10 years previous!)
After all that, my life took a very sudden and unexpected turn, I dialled a wrong number on my mobile when trying to ring my ex (the cheater) and got a guy named Andy, we chatted and started a relationship on the phone and the internet and then met a couple of months later and last year we married in October and are now looking for a house to buy!
Life is very hard and challenging sometimes but there is always light at the end of the tunnel so hang in there chick and a new door will open for you if you need a shoulder i am a willing listener and as others have said, we are all here for you x
Aw you defintely need to make sure you put yourself first for a while. Coming out of a relationship is always hard, especially if you thought things were going ok. Treat yourself every day - a long soak in the bath, a night on the sofa with a good movie, a shopping spree - whatever floats your boat. Think about the good things that you could do now, and start to look forward to a fun filled time ahead.
A lot of my friends have moved away or just moved on with their lives, so I know how you feel on that point, but things do get better, and you've done so well on your weight loss, it would be a shame to give up with only a stone left to go
Loopy, I don't know how long it is since your break up but I was married to my first husband for 5 years and knew him for a year before that - and, even though it was me that ended the relationship, it still took me nearly a year to get over it.
Like Bits says, pamper yourself - allow yourself to cry when you need to - if necessary stick his picture on the back of a door and throw darts at it - but don't expect too much from yourself right now. Wait until you're ready.
I read your post a couple of days ago but I thought anything I wrote would just make you feel even worse. But just to say glad your feeling a bit better. Life can be such crap sometimes but as my grandmother used to say "it isn't always dark at 6 o'clock.
i have decided to finally sign up for a 5k race in July. Im going to start training for that, I am also going to go to college and start an evening course. I am going to keep myself really busy, it makes time pass quicker and hopefully I will end up being the person I wana be instead of the person I am now!
Well done Loopy its good to hear that you are feeling a bit better about things and taking steps to help you along the way. I'm sure things will turn out exactly the way you want them after all life is what you make it.
i have decided to finally sign up for a 5k race in July. Im going to start training for that, I am also going to go to college and start an evening course. I am going to keep myself really busy, it makes time pass quicker and hopefully I will end up being the person I wana be instead of the person I am now!
Yay, be good to have something positive to focus on.
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Loopy....sounds like you're feeling very down at the moment, sorry to hear about your fiance, but if you're not together, then it wasn't meant to be. I know that's hard to hear, but I really do believe we end up with the right person...and he can't be it.
Sorry to hear about your fiancee. 
