You do not "suck." I say just keep trying to make the best choices. What caused your gain - massive eating or TOM or ??? If it was eating, have you been able to pinpoint what made you eat what you did or when you did it? If you're being good and seeing a gain, all I can say is it's got to be something hormonal (and that will pass) or water retention. Hang in there. This is not a quick fix and as we've all said before, there will be blips along the way for most of us. Just go back and read Pearl's posts. She always has a way of saying just the right thing.
I agree....it is NOT official that you suck! You are aware of where you are, and I bet if you look hard and honestly, you can understand why you're there, and not where you want to be. When I asked for the boot to the hiney the other day, I got great advice about taking things one meal at a time.
I also remember someone who had lost a fairly significant amount of weight saying this when they were asked how they did it. They said:
ONE pound at a time.
I think it's so important for all of us to remember that - this weight is going to come off, one lb at a time.
Keep at it Barb!!! You can do it girl. You're just having a temporary setback. It's really, really frustrating when you see a gain. The first time I gained, I literally cried on the way home from the COD. Then I had to remind myself of what I had already accomplised and that LAWL is about being healthy. We deserve to be healthy!!! A lot of us have been in a funk lately. There's something to be said for wintertime blues. Just keep at it, you'll see the scale move!!!
Barb - you do not suck! You've been the LAWL poster child in the past - you must just be hitting a wall.
It's those devil donuts that have done you in! Damn inventory.
Go back to your journals from a few weeks ago, and pick out a few meals and days that you liked, then write them down and stick to them. I'm sure you will say bye bye to 152 again.
Being out of Lites at COD
COD losing your file
Gaining when you don't have a large deep dish pizza to justify it
Getting TOM during Takeoff so you are starving and have cramps
Your kids having simultaneous tantrums
Windchill
Passing on your favorite foods or cocktails and having salad instead
Breaking out because you are eating Lites
The scale showing you are up when you have been on plan............
Okay I just looked at the list and no where on there is Barb..
Barb I found this quote and I know it helped me when I was plateauing
When you get to a plateau, think of it as a landing on the stairway to your goal. And maintenance is a lifelong plateau, so a bit of "rehearsal" for maintenance isn't the worst thing in the world.
Being out of Lites at COD
COD losing your file
Gaining when you don't have a large deep dish pizza to justify it
Getting TOM during Takeoff so you are starving and have cramps
Your kids having simultaneous tantrums
Windchill
Passing on your favorite foods or cocktails and having salad instead
Breaking out because you are eating Lites
The scale showing you are up when you have been on plan............
Okay I just looked at the list and no where on there is Barb..
Thank you all for your words of encouragement, they all mean so much. Kristen: no I do not see my name on that list but it should be LOL....
I posted this on the loser thread and it is how I have been feeling...
Why is it that I was SO excited a few weeks ago, have one slip up (darn Donut poice assigntment) and it is down hill from there. I seem to have NO WILLPOWER when it comes to food. I LOVE food. I get so obsessed with it. You should see me, I am thinking about what i am going to make for dinner right after lunch. I have the LAWL cookbooks and some recipes here all the time. I am OBSESSED. No wonder I cant keep the weight off. How do you break this cycle? How do I become NOT obsessed??????? HELP me I think I am going nuts about this!
Hi Barb.. if it is obsession I'm on the same train you are. I do spend so much time with my cookbook, recipes etc. I think it's because this takes work! Before when I was hungry I used to just pop something in my mouth or order take out. Now I have to plan. No word of a lie, I sit down once a week and spend about 2 hours making up my plan for the week. Then on a daily basis I'm checking the list and making up grocery lists. My digital scale broke and I went into a panic because I can't weigh my 56 g of salad.. ridiculous to some but it's why it's working for me. So don't think you are a freak, join my circus.. we will do it so hang in there. I slipped up mentally for about 3 weeks after the holidays when I gained 6 lbs.. I was a glutton for self punishment like the best of them.
Keep yourself focussed and start a fresh. The night before I joined I had a huge binge and then felt better with saying tomorrow is day one.
I have 100% faith in you so give some to yourself too!
I think I'm safe to say your thread hits home with a lot of us. I too sometimes feel like I am obsessed with food! Like it's all I think about - if i'm bored, i eat, if i'm mad, i say "to **** with it" and eat, if i'm sad, i say "whats the point?" and eat, if i'm happy i say "no biggie", and eat......and on and on goes the vicious cycle......
But we just gotta think that we can't let food control our lives our emotions - WE control our lives and emotions and we are bigger and stronger than any donut/pizza/brownie/cheeseburger... So you had a donut or whatever anyone had, you can't let that stop you.
It doesn’t matter how many times you fail. It doesn’t matter how many times you almost get it right....what matters is that you learn and keep going - this is going to be a journey with highs, lows, and everything in between.
BBB's right-if you give up you're sure to stay overweight and sure to be unhappy. I say-dust yourself off and DON'T QUIT! Every time . . .Skinny people overeat sometimes. You just can't let it define you.
I used to love my cocktails too and sometimes the challenge of motherhood tested me full force.. a 3 and 2 year old having joint tantrums!
I used to joke my hubby when I had to choose to give up my festive beverages that I'd rather be Fat, Tipsy and Happy as opposed to Skinny, Sober and Stressed.. but honestly the feeling of how I enjoy my new clothes etc is far more gratifying than the short term satisfaction of indulging in a craving and then beating myself up for days after.. if not weeks!
Being out of Lites at COD
COD losing your file
Gaining when you don't have a large deep dish pizza to justify it
Getting TOM during Takeoff so you are starving and have cramps
Your kids having simultaneous tantrums
Windchill
Passing on your favorite foods or cocktails and having salad instead
Breaking out because you are eating Lites
The scale showing you are up when you have been on plan............
Okay I just looked at the list and no where on there is Barb..
It's offical I suck
