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mumto2 04-13-2005 04:03 PM

Hi All!
Congrats Terry on the 3lb. loss :cb:

I got up this morning and was the same as last week 161; so I decided since I felt all fat and bloated I wasn't going to WI. I did decide last night that I might try FLEX for a week to see how that goes. Also decided to up my exercise, so..................

Today, I did the WATP 2 mile tape, ate breakfast and lunch, took DS to school (pink eye all cleared up), then took the dog for a walk. Crazy female decided she needed to pee on everything..........at least 10 times. I think we went about a mile, though.
Came home and weighed myself before I jumped in the shower.......159.5 Yay! ! ! Okay, I don't know if it was a fluke, but it hasn't even teetered in the 150's in over 2 years, so I'm going to take it. TOM came mid morning, maybe that helped. Of course then I ate the "neck" of DS's chocolate DOVE bunny he got for easter. DS already ate the ears and the head.

DS has soccer tonight., DD has dance, and I have to attend a middle school meeting for DD next year. Gotta start dinner since we'll probably be eating in shifts.

BBL
Lisa

cher123 04-13-2005 05:08 PM

Yay, Terry! That's so inspiring. I've only had losses over a pound once or twice. I'm a slow loser and I loves my food.

Froufy, 3 weeks! Yikes. I went for 2 weeks once and ended up at the OB/Gyn, who looked up at me after about one minute's examination and said "Could you be pregnant." :eek:

He's in kindergarten now. Not to scare you or anything.

Vickie 04-13-2005 05:47 PM

Wow, were to start!

Terry, Kudos :encore: to you and Congratulations on your three pound loss! :bravo: I think you deserve cheer for each pound! :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: Persistence pays off when you stick with the program. You should be very proud of yourself....I'm proud of you!


Thanks Deborah! I do so hope the PT works on my elbow. I'm not afraid to get the cortisone shot but I am afraid of surgery. I'm 48 years old (almost 49) and have never had any kind of surgery. I've been so lucky. That's why I'm trying so hard to get healthy before I just drop dead from a heart attack or stroke or something! I'm sure sorry that your elbow still hurts. I got a REALLY great brace from the Ortho that really seems to help the pain. You wear it below the elbow and it stops the tendon above the elbow that hurts from flexing. My first PT is Friday afternoon. No idea how many visits yet.

Kierie, don't worry about your fall off the wagon. You weren't hurt, were you? Come on....dust yourself off.....and start over. We're all still here and we'll help as much as we can.

Frouf, the last time I had a twitch in my eye it was from stress. We gotta get you to a more tranquil place, girlfriend! Maybe when this visit is over with your DD you'll feel better. I'm sure the uncertainty of what will happen and when is really starting to wear on you.

I never heard of Flylady. What is it? Ok, Angela, I'm starting to think you are not a real person. Happy husband, kids, house, guitar lessons, cooks, and a clean organized house!

Cher, that loud thud you heard was Froufie fainting at the thought of being pregnant! Actually, it sounds like you might have scared her TOM away!

Vickie 04-13-2005 06:34 PM

Thanks to whomever posted that Wishbone FF Italian salad dressing was good. Froufie, you should add it to your US shopping list. I bought some and like it! It will never be my favorite over the Henry's FF Honey Dijon (no longer Core, darn them!) but it's nice to have something to switch off on. It has a nice garlic flavor and not too many "herbs". I'm kinda fussy about some green herbs, like oregano.....don't like it at all. Fussy fat girl!

Katpo 04-13-2005 06:51 PM

:lol: Froufy pregnant!! OMG, the rumos are flying now! (Sorry, dear Frouf, I just can't resist this sort of thing!)

Vickie, FlyLady is awesome and even though it sounds hard, it isn't once you get the hang of it. It's just like I said, they pick a "zone" and clean it all week, then go to another one. And that's only after it's really clean though. There's all sorts of decluttering and flinging that goes on and they realize that the place didn't get messy overnight so it's going to take months to get into maintenance mode. Hey wait, that sounds like WW!!!

I'm making my wheat spaghetti now and stopped by for some whole button mushrooms to add. Also made a batch of pimento cheese with FF cheddar and FF miracle whip, which I'll use on celery for my snacks the rest of this week. Of course I had to lick the spoon and was just delighted at how great it tastes. I must really be hungry! It has been a while since I made some (probably Christmas) so I'm looking forward to it! :lol: DH is still at work and will probably go work out tonight, so I'll be in charge of the grill. I hope to swing back by here later to see if you guys are chatting, but if American Idol gets good, I can't promise anything.

cher123 04-13-2005 07:53 PM

Oh, Law, what have i done? Froufy, I hope that didn't cause you any alarm, because heaven knows you don't need any more of that.

Okay, I'm going to go home and put my big mouth around some broiled lamb. If I'm feeling energetic I might make a lentil salad to go with it. I've been really craving that.

Vickie 04-13-2005 08:23 PM

I just peeked at the Flylady website. I only read the home page and I may be hooked. Not only am I a perfectionist, but I'm an organization freak. I get very stressed when there is too much clutter around. I may really enjoy this website. That's all I need is more computer research. Jim already feels lonely!

I'm guessing I won't be on the chat tonight. Hubby needs some time!

aghiowa 04-13-2005 10:00 PM

Oh Vickie, you'll love Flylady if you like organization. It's heaven to the control-freak, organized type people like me. I really like it, because it helps me put order into the chaos around me. :)

Angela

Froufy 04-13-2005 11:06 PM

Well just revived from my dead faint - seems like those rumors are flying! I would most definitely be absolutely positively shocked at any pg thing happening here. YIKES is right!...and yes, thank you cher for hopefully scaring my TOM away!

Vickie - sounds like you will make the supreme flylady - good luck! And I have added the wishbone italian to my list - thanks for being my taste tester!

Don't you just hate hospitals? We are so fortunate to have an excellent children's hospital in our city - but the less I see of it the better (altho little ds does go their for his eye checkups/glasses). It was so sad to see some of the kids coming in on stretchers (one fall I think? one on a body board still wearing ice skates! one w/an oxygen mask on). The worse was "hearing" what was going on. DD and I were sitting outside some treatment rooms and I tell you the crying in there was not normal - I don't know what they were doing, but the poor child was howling like a wounded animal, and would not stop - it just made my blood run cold and really upset both dd and myself.

Triage nurse was fabulous - took us aside asked some questions - said she would contact the crisis intervention worker - DD had to get weighed and temperature taken (rules?) and while I could not hear most of the conversation as I was behind the counter - she did ask to see where dd had cut herself - and I saw her showing her that it might be unsafe so close to her veins and if she did need to cut to do it elsewhere.

Then another long wait - crisis lady came in, made us fill out some forms - dd had to answer a long list of questions - was told to be "honest", but we did not get to see this. We then spoke about why we were there and were concerned. We showed her the "creative writing"....and she did mention how as a parent reading this the alarm bells would definitely go off!

Then we were shipped out while they chatted. Off to the coffee shop w/ex, yes he bought coffee and a bag of mini oatmeal raisin cookies - proud to say I had only one (and there were tiny!). Was a bit hungry but nothing much else there to eat that was okay (had 2 eggs/toast for dinner at home - did I forget to mention that I had to go home, cuz ex told dd she was going to the dr and she refused to go? had to do some damage control and was able to convince her to go as we needed to see if she needed help - she claimed she did not!).

Debrief w/therapist was okay - said dd was not suicidal - confirmed that the cutting was a coping mechanism and that she and dd spoke about some other coping mechanisms that she might try. Cutting was actually a good sign meaning the individual still had hope. She agreed we needed to find someone to treat her on an ongoing basis asap (will be following up w/pediatrician tomorrow) and she had made dd promise if she was thinking of hurting herself that she would talk to a responsible adult or call someone. We talked about a few other things such as establishing rules and trust - but these were more common teenage issues.

I felt so drained and tired when I got home. Dh was "debriefed", but I also explained to him that I could no longer deal with his petty issues and I did not want to hear his comments or negativity regarding dd - I just can't handle it right now. Told him my plate was full and I needed to focus on dd and getting her better so I could not deal with his daily annoyances and his non communication. I did point out to him that the last four interactions with her (some as small as one word - the longest was one sentence)...led to four separate "fights" between us resulting in us not talking to each other for days and of course the famous birthday bonanza as well. He was surprised at this and was not sure how to deal w/this - and his response was not to talk to her at all - which won't work cuz it's her comments to him that seem to set it all off!

Strongly suggested he go back to his therapist, tell her what's going on and perhaps ask for some strategies on how to handle this. I told him I was at my rope's end and was right on the edge of being completely non-functional and for the sake of dd I needed to be okay so I could help her. I really hope some of this sunk in - but when I asked him if he cared about her and her situation - his answer - which took a while in coming was "I don't really know" - WRONG ANSWER!!!!

So here I sit trying to destress and calm down so I can actually sleep. I think if this continues I will need to take time off work as I am finding just getting to work and functioning there is becoming a challenge. But I am so busy right now! I know if I go see my dr and explain the situation she would definitely approve some stress related leave - but I don't want to do that unless I really have to! (and frankly not sure if staying home w/dh will actually be destressing!).

Frouf :(

Vickie 04-13-2005 11:16 PM

Don't make any decisions tonight, Frouf. I'm glad DD is on the road to getting some help. You DO need to be healthy to take care of her and it would be nice to get some support from your DH. I hope he does go to therapy because you and she will need him. I've been thinking about you all night. I snuck in here before bed to see if you were home. I'll include you and your whole family in my bedtime prayers tonight.

Froufy 04-13-2005 11:22 PM

You are so sweet - thank you so much Vickie for caring - you can't imagine what it means to me!

Hugs and kisses to all my core friends - your ongoing support is truly appreciated!

Frouf

Starting Over Again 04-14-2005 08:11 AM

Morning all ... a beautiful one here, with a hint of chill in the air! That's always a nice boon in my neck of the woods, believe me! :)

Terry, HUGE congratulations on that terrific loss! :dancer: :dancer: Core is working like a dream for you ... I am so envious of how successfully you are sticking to the program! At the rate you're going, you'll be at goal in no time! Enjoy that coffee and I'll sip my unsweetened iced tea to keep you company! :)

Lisa, way to go on dipping below 160! I know you enjoyed looking at that 159 on the scale ... and don't worry about nibbling the bunny's neck! After your WATP and walk with the dog, I don't think it will register as even a tiny blip on the calories consumed meter!

Vickie, I hope PT works good for you ... my mom had some kind of zapper/pulsing thing when she went to PT (low dosage electricity of some kind, I guess?) and she said it was the most wonderful and soothing thing. I, however, did not get that when I went ... I got steroids massaged in topically; ice pack for 10 minutes; and then exercises. I know exactly what you mean about surgery. Until my pain becomes unbearable, I won't even entertain the notion of an operation. Enjoy the Flylady stuff too ... she has some wonderful idea and I'd like to be a control freak, but alas, I'm too lazy! :)

Froufy, I'm so glad the therapist had some encouraging words to offer about DD ... I know that is a relief. I do think stress leave from work ... if only for a few days ... might help you to focus on your best strategies for helping DD without neglecting yourself or little DS. If your DH cares so little for your DD that his only response to you about whether he cares is "I don't know.", maybe it's time for him to go stay with his parents for a little while. What a self-centered cretin he is! Sorry, Froufie, to sound harsh but he needs to be there for YOU and his entire attitude and behavior are NOT helping you one iota! I know he must have some redeeming qualities since you love him but they are not evident now during this time of crisis ... so far, you've been doing EVERYTHING. It's time for him to step up to the plate and be the partner that he promised to be. I don't mean to add to your stress level, so just ignore me for my anti-DH rants, okay? Just know that I care what happens to you and the kids ... :grouphug:

Kierie, it was so good to "see" you! Sorry for your work stresses ... you'll get back on the healthy eating track as soon as you can, I know. I'm still a human garbage disposal 1/3 of the day ... I'm trying to find a zipper of some sort I can install over my mouth for my bad eating once I get home!

Cher, you may be right about the fat spreading all over my body ... I do know that this time around, after having regained all that weight, my middle is so much thicker than it used to be. Maybe that's one of those perimenopausal perks? :dizzy: I've got to incorporate some kind of strength training into my exercise every day ... I've been pretty good about doing the half hour on the elliptical every day but I need to build some muscle back, I think.

DD's allergies have flared back up, poor baby. She doesn't feel 100% but she won't complain much since tomorrow is the big sleep over ... only 7 13-year-old girls, thank goodness! :lol: I don't think I'll go too terribly crazy ... knock on wood!

Oops, better go ... the big cheeses are assuming control of one of my computers here at work so I need to investigate what they are doing!

Have a great Thursday everyone!

aghiowa 04-14-2005 08:49 AM

Froufie, I'm so glad you got dd started down the right path, and that you had an understanding and helpful nurse. I SO wish I was closer to you so I could take some of the load off you. Imagine if all us Core chicks marched in to Ottawa (the capital of Canada - see, I know!). We'd whip your dh in to shape, I bet! We'd cook all your meals for you, drive everyone everywhere for you, and pamper you silly while you focus on your dd. :)

Vickie, you should definitely try out FlyLady. It's awesome!

And drumroll.....my weigh-in was NOT horrible as I had thought. I managed to lose .8 pounds, to make my official weight 129.2. Yay! Of course I had to remove my watch beforehand, but I really don't think it's that heavy. :) I promise myself to do really well this week, so I don't have to stress next Tuesday/Wednesday.

Better go get my dd's dressed. I'm off to the podiatrist today. Hopefully we can fix up something so my feet & knees won't hurt when I try to exercise.

Later!
Angela

Katpo 04-14-2005 08:52 AM

Good morning all. I'm staying home today because I don't feel well. I'll be back on later but just wanted to read the updates. Frouf, bless your heart, you hang in there. It sounds like things with your DD are on the road to being better. As for your H, I have nothing to add to what the other girls said. He apparently isn't concerned about any of you, which is sad.

Vickie 04-14-2005 09:45 AM

Good Morning, All! It would be cool if we all lived in the same City. What an awesome WW meeting THAT would be! It would probably last a couple of hours. The Leader would leave and we wouldn't even notice. Maybe we could be a self-directed group.

I have my meeting tonight. God, I HATE the scale. So I've been doing ok all week and I've been riding the scale all along because I'm nuts and can't help it. It's been inching down all week, .2 by .2. Now this morning it's up. I was VERY careful yesterday to eat light fluffy foods. I had salad for lunch and smothered barley chicken for dinner. I guess if the scale doesn't go up anymore during the day (which it WILL) then I'd be happy. But, when I add weight for food and clothes, it looks horrible. Ok, I'm done now....but this would be three crappy weeks in a row!

I'm now renting TV shows to watch on the treadmill. I've found that without commericials they last about 45 minutes. Plenty of time for my 30+ minute walk and cool up and cool down. My Niece (sweetie that she is) lent me the first two seasons of Gilmore Girls since I didn't watch it the first time around. Now I've rented 24 because I never saw that either. Kinda sorry I did. I like it, but I have such an overactive imagination. Just like a kid. Last night, I had all kinds of bad dreams about assassins and stuff! I guess maybe I'll have to move on to something more tame that I haven't seen yet....like Smallville.....or Sex in the City. Sex in the City could keep me going for a month or two or three!

Kathy, I'm sorry you're sick. Hope it isn't anything serious. Take good care of yourself!

Gotta go eat and exercise! Talk with you all later.


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