Thank you ladies.
Thank you so much.
A major problem I've had is that
I am still the same person he married. Just bigger.
For some reason when you gain weight there are certain people who quit seeing you for the person you are and always were. They just see a fat person... and they for some reason there are people that think it gives them the right to belittle you. Either directly or indirectly. I have been going through this with his family and friends for quite a while.
His mother never relents. His brothers wife had a baby and she is small like I used to be. She never hesitates to let me know how quickly this woman lost
all her baby weight, and she looks
so wonderful. I guess I am supposed to excuse myself for being a big lazy fat ***. (of course I'm not, but I know many of you know what I am talking about...) She acts like I'm not good enough for him. It isn't just me either. His other brother is dating a girl and she is not fat she is chunky. She always makes an issue of it. His mother outright told me that this girl was lucky that she was getting a shot with her son!!!!!
One of his friends did it a few weeks ago. His wife is hypoglycemic, so he had to leave a gathering we were at. I said "no problem"... then he gives me this stupid look and says "she's so small you know.... I'm afraid she'll pass out" He really emphasised her "smallness" as he looked at my "gerth".
Those are just a couple of small things I guess, but when it is aimed at you it hurts like crazy. It just starts to add up, you know?
Maybe I'm over reacting. I hope it doesn't matter anymore when I lose the weight. I don't know though. I've said before I'm losing it for me, if I have to be a size 5 just so my husband will quit being an a** along with his family and friends I won't be to good with that. Like I said, I've always been the same person, I don't think I will be able to let a lot of this go too easily.