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SunnyD, Those kitties are adorable.
So sorry to hear you aren't going to have any children. A person takes so much for granted until you hear of something like that.
Glad to hear that your Mom is doing so well.
WILLOW ~ Thanks - we think they are cuties too Oh... it's not that I we aren't going to have children, we were not able to... Here is what I shared on another thread and just thought you all might like to know about me also. SunnyD, Those kitties are adorable.
So sorry to hear you aren't going to have any children. A person takes so much for granted until you hear of something like that.
Glad to hear that your Mom is doing so well.
I have been married to Joe for 28 years - he is 50 and I am 46 and 3/4 I hope you and the others don't mind me sharing...
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When I was 18 and just newly married I miscarried my first preg. at 4 months and then at 19 lost our first and last baby, Lisa Anne, in a car accident I had when I was less then two weeks before having her. It was snowy here in OH and I was driving a VW (engine in the back) and hit the slush just right and began to lose control of the car on a hill. A van came down the hill I was going up and he hit me on the passenger side. The impact caused Lisa to just burst up out of her womb and into my ribcage she instantly died. Me... I was rushed to the hospital barely able to breathe with her up inside my ribcage and had a dislocated left knee from it hitting the steering column & had a huge blood loss. To make a very long story as short as I am able ~ I not only lost Lisa, but all chances of ever having children again. They had to remove most of my uterus, one ovary & tube and had to do some repairs on my intestines. To date I have had four surgeries total eventually removing everything (by age 26) that was left due to many cysts & tumors that liked to take possession of my body. I went through many years of self-doubt, depression (which I have little battles with still today) and now have Diverticulitus, and IBS as a end result. One of the surgeries I had was to remove tissue of adhesions that had grown on my bladder to my intestines to the muscle wall... all stemming from the trauma. It hasn't been easy...
Joe & I had also tried adoption but after I had the baby for just about 6 months (all shortly after my accident) the mother who had that 6 months to change her mind - did - and we lost him too. I vowed to not try any more after that... too much loss in such a short amount of time overwhelmed me. To this date, Joe & I have no children, but I did find comfort in being with the children in our lives and in my Lord. He has gotten me though much! I was a very angry young woman for many, many years before I found peace in God. Anyway, through the years I have found that my experience has given me insight to help many people through their trials... I hope I am able to help you also. We don't always understand "the why's" of things that occur in our lives, but once we give them over and do our best to get better - it does get better. I don't know what you are going through, but I am sure of one thing - you are hurting deeply. I offer you my *Prayers*, help to the best of my abilities (a listening ear/eye) and my love. Whenever I have things go wrong I slip into these bouts of sadness still... like with this ankle or health attacks. I allow myself a day or two to wallow and then say to myself "enough". Time to assess this situation now and see what I must do to move out of it. I love being happy and making others happy and feeling peace, so I make it so. Otherwise, I would just sit in it and where would that get me other then feeling 'alone'. I am so Blessed that my Joe stayed with me though all of this mess & believed in me. And trust me... it doesn't ever just go away and we both cope to this day - but together. But even though Joe was always there, ultimately it was all up to ME to do something about where I was heading. I am now 46 years old and we have been married for 28 years. Not long after my accident Joe & I joined a Christian Play that was touring Ohio... after a year or so of feeling very forced into it and rebelling to the best of my ability - someone in the cast ministered to me, loved me and I was touched by their peace & wanted it. My life changed from then on... We did that ministry for 17 years and met some wonderful people.
I have found that life is like a huge puzzle... we get it a piece at a time so that we aren't overwhelmed by the whole picture, but eventually as you begin to put it together you begin to see the picture as you can cope. It sure isn't easy, but oh so well worth living. God Bless You!
When I was 18 and just newly married I miscarried my first preg. at 4 months and then at 19 lost our first and last baby, Lisa Anne, in a car accident I had when I was less then two weeks before having her. It was snowy here in OH and I was driving a VW (engine in the back) and hit the slush just right and began to lose control of the car on a hill. A van came down the hill I was going up and he hit me on the passenger side. The impact caused Lisa to just burst up out of her womb and into my ribcage she instantly died. Me... I was rushed to the hospital barely able to breathe with her up inside my ribcage and had a dislocated left knee from it hitting the steering column & had a huge blood loss. To make a very long story as short as I am able ~ I not only lost Lisa, but all chances of ever having children again. They had to remove most of my uterus, one ovary & tube and had to do some repairs on my intestines. To date I have had four surgeries total eventually removing everything (by age 26) that was left due to many cysts & tumors that liked to take possession of my body. I went through many years of self-doubt, depression (which I have little battles with still today) and now have Diverticulitus, and IBS as a end result. One of the surgeries I had was to remove tissue of adhesions that had grown on my bladder to my intestines to the muscle wall... all stemming from the trauma. It hasn't been easy...
Joe & I had also tried adoption but after I had the baby for just about 6 months (all shortly after my accident) the mother who had that 6 months to change her mind - did - and we lost him too. I vowed to not try any more after that... too much loss in such a short amount of time overwhelmed me. To this date, Joe & I have no children, but I did find comfort in being with the children in our lives and in my Lord. He has gotten me though much! I was a very angry young woman for many, many years before I found peace in God. Anyway, through the years I have found that my experience has given me insight to help many people through their trials... I hope I am able to help you also. We don't always understand "the why's" of things that occur in our lives, but once we give them over and do our best to get better - it does get better. I don't know what you are going through, but I am sure of one thing - you are hurting deeply. I offer you my *Prayers*, help to the best of my abilities (a listening ear/eye) and my love. Whenever I have things go wrong I slip into these bouts of sadness still... like with this ankle or health attacks. I allow myself a day or two to wallow and then say to myself "enough". Time to assess this situation now and see what I must do to move out of it. I love being happy and making others happy and feeling peace, so I make it so. Otherwise, I would just sit in it and where would that get me other then feeling 'alone'. I am so Blessed that my Joe stayed with me though all of this mess & believed in me. And trust me... it doesn't ever just go away and we both cope to this day - but together. But even though Joe was always there, ultimately it was all up to ME to do something about where I was heading. I am now 46 years old and we have been married for 28 years. Not long after my accident Joe & I joined a Christian Play that was touring Ohio... after a year or so of feeling very forced into it and rebelling to the best of my ability - someone in the cast ministered to me, loved me and I was touched by their peace & wanted it. My life changed from then on... We did that ministry for 17 years and met some wonderful people.
I have found that life is like a huge puzzle... we get it a piece at a time so that we aren't overwhelmed by the whole picture, but eventually as you begin to put it together you begin to see the picture as you can cope. It sure isn't easy, but oh so well worth living. God Bless You!